Worth noting: 1. I’m aware that not all church girls are quality.
- I don’t intend to spin plates at church (obviously that would cause a crazy dynamic)
I have decided that I want to actually meet women in real life. This includes cold approach as well as clubs, and also community groups such as church. Yes I am a Christian.
Although I’m not specifically looking for an LTR, I want to start filtering for girls who aren’t fucking club sluts (yes, I know church girls can be club sluts as well… but less likely than when you actually seek out girls at the club).
Is this actually possible? I found a youth group that fits my age. I looked at their social media and the dynamic with the hot girls is either: 24+ or so and married or like 20 and not married. I’m about to be 28. And I’m sure there are more singles than just 20 year olds.
Up until now I’ve met all my women through online dating or clubs and I would like variety.. sluts are great but kind of soul sucking.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1d ago
women at church:
You have a better chance of finding a decent woman in a church but you have the all squares are rectangles but not all rectangled are squares problem
Every woman In a club is a slut, not every woman in a church is not a saint
Wintergreen 21h ago
Good points, I’m still gonna just assume that each one is a slut until proven otherwise.
This is just part of my plan to spend more time interacting with people. I’m not thinking “I need a church girl” but rather “I need to meet girls in different types of places. Not excluding the clubs entirely but also not making clubs the only place.”
SeasonedRP 22h ago
I'd be leery of any church that pushes a message that men exist to sacrifice for and serve others, and that's a lot of them. Churches mostly appeal to women, and church culture pushes a message of female superiority; they treat men basically as defective women who are more sinful than women and who need to be more like women. Avoid a woman who has bought into the message of a church like that. You definitely don't want to get hitched to some woman who thinks you are supposed to obey and serve her. If the hymns are sappy, romantic love songs to Jesus, chances are you're in such a church.
First-light 15h ago
It can work. Be aware that church is an oppressive trad con environment that wants men to do everything for women and says women should submit to men in return. The reality is men sign up to marriage and do everything and women do what they would more or less do anyway in their relationships.
At one point in my life I worked for a Christian community and I am with a very religious woman now (Several complaints a week that I make her live in sin, not much more submissive than the next woman). I have learned that religion is really just a club and even if people are devout, they still live life in this world not the next. Christian communities are refuges for damaged people. You can fuck lots of semi crazy sluts who are still sluts inside thought they work for/ live in a Christian community but they are all damaged goods and best left alone.
I think time would be needed to get into a local youth scene. Then you can totally find women to have pretty normal relationships with -just a bit more than usually committed dating and sex but it takes time to work out who is a recycled hoe -to amuse yourself with at peril of losing group status as a good boy when it all goes wrong) or ignore. You also need to know who are your autistic devout Christians -to avoid as they will go insane if you bang them and don't marry them and who are the pretty normal girls who think its a nice social scene where they might get a good boyfriend/ husband.
Christin women love the idea of being with a Christian guy and keen Christian guys are rarer than keen Christian girls (my mum only traded down in social class to get my dad because of that, my dad's current wife -who is my age- only traded down to have an old man because of that). Once you are preselected as being one of the group, there is a lot of women you can have but you have to invest in that preselection or be good at acting it as the newcomer. With my present lady I knew enough about Catholicism to be able to act it (and have never been forgiven for pulling it off -not that I actually said I was a catholic, just that I could say enough prayers in Latin and keel in the right places and such).
No-Stress-Cat 13h ago
Dude, go find you a nice Amish girl to settle down with. It's about the only place you're going to find women who are not sluts.
Musicgoon78 2 13h ago
You'll find sluts regardless of their faith. Even the "pure" ones will use the "poophole loophole."
That being said, I don't think your idea sucks or anything. Why not just go for it and see what happens?