https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k9KM-QmxXyw

that for educational funsies

This is your fault. You should have held frame on not getting the food. And when she ordered expensive shit you should have said she's getting it.

You sacrificed frame for a slight chance at pussy. Own it. You got played. Good luck getting that money back because you won't.

Don't be a simp in the future and stick to drinks. Her instance on food was your meal ticket warning. Block her and move on.

There is almost no chance of getting the money back. It sounds like she was out for free food. Since she is already a lost cause, you can always send her another polite text saying that you had to cover her while she was in the bathroom and that you would really appreciate her paying her share. The chances of her responding are virtually nil but it matters not as she is not a girl you will be seeing again.

In the end its one to chalk up to experience.

You played yourself.

You said what you wanted and she bullied you into doing what she wanted instead. Consider this a lesson learned.

Accept your loss and tell yourself that you let this 5 out of 10, overweight broad bully you out of 3 dishes that she almost surely took home in a doggy bag. Also know that she laughed at your text and blocked you and that, since she's average looking, catfish, and on tinder, there were absolutely times where guys she met were visibly disappointed and treated her like the 5 she was and spent nothing but because she realized she was on a date with someone way above her smv, she still let them hit AND then still got blocked afterwards. Thus, she did to you what was done to her repeatedly. Next time stop treating females like a privileged superior class and hold them accountable and you wouldn't have to log online and cry about "what should I do?"

So it was too much to ask her to send you a picture of her at that moment before you drove out? So it was too much for you to stick to the coffee plan, especially when she already agreed? A lot of you younger guys these days are so terrified of rejection that you can't take a failed date.

Jesus man, learn your lesson and move on....

so I told her to order whatever she wanted

And she took you up on it. You don't get to complain when you give her the green light to go all out.

If you're buying her lunch, next time, order two salads, one for you and one for her. Make sure you comment something like, "I have to make sure I don't eat like a pig and get fat." That'll send her hamster a clear message that you won't tolerate a fat bitch pigging out on your dime.

Oooor..

Next time you smell a fish, excuse yourself to the outside after she orders and eats, pay for your meal on a way out.

Make a dull shit, fun.

I know I shouldn’t have agreed to lunch and operated on her terms, but now I’m thinking whether to send her a follow-up text asking for the money or just let it go and move on.

Let it go.

You have zero legal comeback in this situation, and she is immoral...... so just move on and chalk this one up to experience.

What would you do in this situation?

Yeah, there are a lot of women who take advantage of traditional dating models to exploit men. They have a few tricks to do this, but it's easy enough to dodge around the problem without looking cheap.

Here's how I do it:

Coffee/snacks/incidentals

If it's coffee and cake, fuck it, I don't care. If we go halves great..... but if I end up paying it's fine, it's just a coffee. I'm not splitting a 10 buck bill. If a woman likes and respects you, she'll usually pay or at least halves. There's a middle ground where things are great but you don't want anything to be awkward, in which case happy to pay. I'm happy to risk a coffee or a beer, but that's about it.

Meals

Never do a meal on a first date. It's awkward because you're eating and there's going to be silence and what.... watch each other eat? It's a terrible date idea, and paying is awkward: you either look cheap or you look beta bucks, it counts against you either way.

Third date meal, or you know each other, or whatever

It's simple..... either she offers to pay in advance, or we agree to go halves, in advance. Women have very low honour and fairly low honesty, but it's easy enough to work out what's going on.... I literally say "are you good to go halves?" ....... either she says "of course we're going halves!" or it's some variant of "but but but the man should pay". If you get that sexist shit, it's honestly time to move on. This is the exact same type that will agree to go halves then do a runner or "I forgot my wallet", etc etc.

The trick is to agree the going halves before ever stepping foot in a restaurant and agreeing to a meal...... and if she starts to pull some stupid shit like ordering overly expensive food or drinks, you cut things off then and there. If it gets awkward it's because SHE is making it awkward, and the reason she is making it awkward is because she wants to exploit you, not fuck you.

Also: know the laws in your area. Here the liability is on who ordered..... so if we order our own food, she is liable if she reneges on the agreement to go halves. I have the legal option to pay for my own food, and she is stealing if she doesn't do the same. Forgot her wallet? Well, she can leave her name and address with the restaurant.

Obviously don't let her buy champagne while you drink beer...... simply say "look if you want champagne that's fine, but you're paying for it".

The simple truth is that women either want to fuck you or exploit you, and not both........ so all you have to do is up-front tell her it's a halves deal FROM THE START, and she will either be cool with it, or she'll have a problem with it. If she's got a problem with it, she was never going to fuck you anyway.