Well it sounds like you were taking the fast track to oneitis. No one here cares about her accolades.

She most likely lost tingles.

She's not really invested until you've fucked her.

I imagine from how you talk about her that you came off too enthusiastic and agreeable.

Spin more plates. That way you could give zero fucks about her career or her modeling. Abundance will do wonders for your frame.

Im gonna give you a different perspective,although more details could clear this out.

Maybe she is still interested, and she is playing mind games because she knows she wont be able to see you for a while so if you're still available after Xmas/NYE then maybe she'll be up to it.

If that was the scenario then shes just prioritizing her family and not including you in her plans, why would she,though?

This may or may not be the case,im just thinking a bit longer term

You were a rebound brother.

This sort of thing usually happens when you are a rebound.

If you really like the girl, take a step back for a minute. Keep it nonsexualish for a few weeks then offer to meet up again when/if she gives you signs. Ask how she is feeling and all that sort of thing. Breakups always make girls swing from mood to mood for a while.

But you did nothing wrong man, this is what happens with rebounds. Probably best to move on tbh. Usually they just want to hook up with a guy they find attractive to boost their confidence, but feel bad about being a slut after.

You never know though. Your instincts were right about talking your foot off the gas. Try again later maybe, you never know. If it's worth the effort.

You can always do a trial balloon in a few weeks. Send her a funny meme or something.

Say it reminded you of something cute she did. Always a good line. Also ask how she is doing and etc.

Its useful to see it from her point of view too. She broke up. Women usually go through a slut phase when they break up. They want the affirmation that they still have it. They want to feel what they are missing -the physical side, which I think means more to women than to men in some ways -they don't do as well when they don't have it. She knows she is on her period, so she isn't feeling any pressure to decide anything, she will just have a make out session and feel good. She knows she was playing with you and then you tell her you are not serious (they rarely want to hear this. They like to think you take them seriously, even when they don't want commitment, they want to think you would give it if they did.

The rebound effect is what this is about. You did nothing wrong, it just didn't quite connect up. She wasn't that interested in the end. You might be able to play it right to smash once or twice yet if you texted back a bit interested and made suggestions but she is not that interested because why else would she go to work not to bed with the guy she is making out with? She had her priorities clear but she wanted to feel the heat of attraction too. As usual a hot woman can have it all her way.

Then she sent a long text saying that it's very nice kissing me and all but she wasn't sure about spending the night, and she had to "free herself" and didn't want to play with me.

The problem is that you're seeing her a few times, even though it's a casual thing, and this is confusing her. She wants the sex, but she doesn't want to feel girlfriend-boyfriend things when you're not committing.

But she'll come around if you play it right.

Agree to meet up "just as friends". Obviously you'll fuck her, but saying this might take the pressure off.

I'm just confused because she just went from literally jumping on me to no interest at all way too quickly without anything happening in between. What can I do better in the future to prevent this from happening?

Fucking her helps, obviously.

Other than that, learn how to talk women into sex without commitment, which is a bit of a dance frankly.

We kept talking and met at the next opportunity

Too much contact puts you in the boyfriend role...... which you are obviously not going to fulfill.

Stay mysterious longer.

and it was the first time she hooked up with a random man at a party

John Cena: Are you sure about that?

Nothing. She is just using you as rebound probably. Or you said something making you look like a simp or meek or needy or literally creepy that you don't tell us. Maybe something you forgot.

I guess you weren't decisive enough. Especially with your "ok, do what you have to do honey" which is literally an "ask your mother" response. You must decisive and selectively honest with women where you must be. Not always though.

She wanted to fuck, you did not do it. /thread