Had this 1 plate months before. It was really easy to go out with her, even though I couldn't show up on a date we agreed on, she just said "no worries next time".
It was tomorrow after this happened.
She is younger and more inexperienced girl than me, she's maybe virgin, but I highly doubt it.
We were outside talking just to get to know eachother. Then we went to my place.
At first she didn't want me to kiss her for like 2 times. Then we kissed after like an hour has passed.
Then we were kissing, making out, but nothing sexual happened. I tried to finger her, but nothing creepy or anything, it was leading that way, since we were cuddling in my bed.
Wr again were making out and all that stuff. I could see it in her eyes that she looked me like I was some sort of god for her. Her pupils were expanding so much when looking at me.
She was tired and left to sleep.
I went to the other room since she didn't want to do anything. She was sleeping for like 3-4 hours and I hoped she'd like to do something in the morning.
She didn't, we kissed eachother couple of times, she said something along the lines "it's too early for people to see us together".
She went home, I was hoping something other could happen in near future.
I had her on snap, but she was ok, responding quick and all that. I asked for her to come again to my house which she "couldn't" for some dumb excuse, she was "far away" (not so far away - 10 mind with a car).
She went cold after couple days, I was asking her something and her responses were indifferent like 1 word or more, but not too much.
She was sending snaps, but I didn't reply since why would I give her attention when she went cold without a reason. Couple days later, she removed me.
Any thoughts on what happened? Why didn't she come for the 2nd time and potentally smash?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3d ago
How is she a plate if you haven't fucked?
Did you tread the sidebar yet?
You seriously shouldn't be posting if you haven't , it is quite literally in the AskTRP rules
I'm going to have to take down your AskTRPs if you haven't read it
SSBPikkon 3d ago
10 more pages left, I'll read it in 15 mins. Also why did I get attacked so suddenly if I can ask?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3d ago
You're not being "attacked" your lack of reading the basic required material flew under the radar forever until someone asked you if you read it. Now that it's clear you didn't, your questions are all being read from that perspective
SSBPikkon 2d ago
So you're saying after I've read the whole sidebar I shouldn't even be able to write such a question since I'll know the answer?
There's lots of stupid questions here which aren't answered for that same reason.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2d ago
How was i supposed to know you read it in two days? I asked you ONE question two replies back and now you're giving me a whiney tone about it even though after answering my question changed my response.
Stop being butthurt, you answered my question now move on from it
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2d ago
I never said that. I said read the dang sidebar and then post
If you read already, and declined to update anyone on that, that's on you.
And most newbs expect guys to tell them everything here, which is frowned upon. Did you speed read the sidebar? How much of it did you even seriously think about?
SSBPikkon 2d ago
I agree I should've collected my thoughs and try again to test my knowledge in irl world and then come here if I have any problems left if I can't solve it on my own.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2d ago
Sounds good
AbusiveFather1 3d ago
You should’ve closed. This is not a girl next door situation from 2001, where you could let her sleep it off without sex and continue your little romance at a later date. This is a girl from 2024, that has thousands of men vying for her attention and bombarding her on dating apps and social media. She saw you as “not it” because you couldn’t get it in and she moved on to somebody new.
Do you think a woman wouldn’t want to immediately show off a man that she considers her top option?
She’s not a plate unless you’re fucking her
SSBPikkon 3d ago
Agree, after she didn't want to smash I basically knew it was over or she would give it the 2nd date which she didn't.
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 3d ago
LOL @ the thought that 2001 had virginal/virtuous girls next door...
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Typo-MAGAshiv 2 3d ago
This reads like she wants your attention and your resources, but isn't attracted to you sexually.
next!
MrSupreme 3d ago
She was just expecting you to break through her last minute resistance, instead you backed out and gave the respect a true princess requires.
Dont expect it to develop like a porn video where the woman does everything,100% dick service while you watch and moan, next time remember to push a bit more,be bolder. It is better to err on the side of being bold and trying than to just sit there doing nothing because you thought it was the smooth move.
I dont think she'd come back, but weirder things have happened.
SSBPikkon 2d ago
I think It'd be better if I tried to break her lmr and she still didn't want to do it, I just needed to go to the next room and do nothing, if she wanted to come to me okay, if not she should go home.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2d ago
So you're asking the girl to lead by going into the other room?
Not how women work
SSBPikkon 2d ago
What else to do if she doesn't want to do anything more? Why would I cuddle with her after doing it before for hours. Tryhard forcing isn't an option either.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2d ago
Because your game and escalation was bad and you should have escalated different instead of retreating like a butthurt person
You can't keep putting cuddle/rapport tokens into a machine that only accepts tingles and expect it to give you pussy
Musicgoon78 2 2d ago
She wasn't feeling it. Try a different girl.
First-light 2d ago
You can encourage a girl along towards sex. She might not at first be keen but then she may gradually warm up as her body starts feeling it.
With women there is the head and there is the body. Access to the body is controlled by the head. You have to fit her idea of good enough for her right now, not last year and not next year.
You got her into your room and started to gradually excite her. Her body liked it and she was giving in till the head took over and she "escaped" by saying she was tired. She genuinely liked it but she doesn't see herself with you, so the head says cut ties. She was a bit conflicted but the head won. Had she been DTF, she would have stayed.
Now why? Well I think the most likely (but not the certain) solution is she has a boyfriend or a sugar daddy or had another guy she was looking into at the same time she prefers. If she wants you it is never too early to be seen with you. You are the trophy and she will parade you proudly. An experienced woman with a string of failed relationships (the sort you usually avoid like the plague) might say "lets go steady, I don't want to jinx this by going public yet/ embarrass myself in front of my kids again" but with normal women, you are the prize to be paraded. If she is lukewarm and yet appears to want it, yet doesn't and says "not yet in public" there is usually another man in the frame that she doesn't want to lose.
So rejoice. You dodged a bullet there. These girls occasionally dig you up again if it fails with the big guy but its rare and that's a good thing.
derdeutscher 2d ago
I see a lot of younger guys struggle with this. Guys, women are SEXUAL beings.
Tough words but: she wanted to fuck, she decided to fuck you, and you did not do it. Second chance will not come.
I can not not to ask, you say she went to your place, you make out in your bed, she looks you like a god (your words)...and you DONT BANG HER?? How??
Are some guys posting here asexual? Women want you to take them. She is not going to put your dick in her pussy. You have to do it.
Short story time:
My current girlfriend wants morning sex. You know what she does? Makes me a coffee while Im in the bathroom, and when I leave bathroom direction coffee table, she grabs my hand, leads me in the next room and stops next to couch...AND STARES AT ME. She WANTS ME to push her on bed, lift her skirt, and stick my dick inside. Can you imagine what dissapointment would it be for her if I just kissed her and went back to coffee table? She expects me to understand what she wants, and to follow through. Women need a man who "gets it" and "takes it".
Women show you the way. But they cant put your dick inside. And with some things, they dont give a second chance. Man up and do it with next chick.
SSBPikkon 10h ago
That's the problem, I tried taking shirt off she didn't let me. Nothing of her clothes did she want me to remove from her. That's what's bugging me.