The other day I made a post on here about how I asked my favorite FWB on a "real date" on NYE. Long story short, I've been in a bit of a mental funk lately and started getting advice from one of my buddies not realizing just how blue pilled he really is, which is what led to me telling her I missed her, and that I'm looking for a rockstar girlfriend, and that I was interested in her , and some other simpy bullshit that I should never have said.
I thought I blew it up for sure. The next day she kept texting me getting back into banter which I attempted to salvage by playing it off tongue-in-cheek romantic/edgy/dark and sexual, which is our normal vein of banter. It ended with her saying "im gonna get your name tattooed on my ass" which I figured was her being drunk or just trying playing with me. In the morning I sent her a message saying "im gonna get your name tattooed on my throat" and then I realized what I was doing and snapped myself out of my blue pill haze. she just responded "hot" after that and I didnt say anything since then, Friday.
I know this girl really did like me , but I did some dumb shit. This girl has forgiven me doing some dumb shit in the past too and still wanted to fuck me back then. Today she texted me an instagram meme implying/calling me daddy again. Obviously I have showed my cards already, and I get that maybe shes trying to see if i will fall into her orbiter trap.
What should I do from here on out (besides getting more plates)? Just play it cool and act like none of that ever happened and we are still just FWB? Should I be extra distant now? I was already planning on really being detached if we ever talked again
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2mo ago
You make plans. If she turns them down next.
If she shows up, and doesn't fuck you, next.
You're struggling with scarcity. The answer is never more complicated than the above two sentences
First-light 2mo ago
This now quite long story is starting to smell of fake alpha.
There is I think too much trying to play this not terribly interested girl with a red pill playbook. Maybe she doesn't want to be played?
Either she is just not that into you or you have just played her too much instead of being clearly genuinely interested in her as opposed to interested in being seen as alpha by her. You don't have to be simpy to be genuinely interested in a girl,-just don't simp out- but constantly trying to play a girl to have the upper hand is at best exhausting. At first think she might think you might be interesting in a dominant way, then conclude you are a small man with low self esteem.
I would advise not trying to be dark/romantic/ edgy and sexual all at once. It must be exhausting and leave you little room to say anything actually worthwhile to her. Be a high value guy, tell the girl you like her and want to take her out. If she flakes -wrong girl.
Musicgoon78 2 2mo ago
Stop being a fucking idiot!
You can say dumb shit and simply blow it off as a joke. I know you have common sense in there so use it. You don't seem like a dumb person.
Let me make this clear for you and all the other guys that decide to sperg out on this shit. You aren't alpha, I'm not alpha, no one is. It's a stupid trope that causes a bunch of damage in this community and stupid decisions.
How can you become an orbiter if she's calling you daddy and fucking you? Do you realize we that this is 100% fabricated? All these problems are shit you made up and are your fault.
I'm going to suggest to you that you are a basic and fallible human being along with her. I'm 46. I still say stupid shit. Until I die I will continue to do dumb shit.
I'm not going to be distant and butthurt. What do you think being detached is going to solve? You'll most likely look like you don't like her and she will move on.
If you like I can write out a list of at least 20 ways you can sabotage your connections with women. If you would rather do that than form meaningful connections. Be my guest. I would personally suggest you chill out with this shit.
Redpillpusher 2mo ago
Yeah guy, you're tripping. You've proven that what I initially wrote in my comment on your last post is accurate so I'll just copy & paste it: you've made yourself the plate here guy. Chill out before you get broke and she finds a new plate. At this point, just enjoy the sex until she finds another less awkward guy because you're her best option until you aren't. You messed up the power dynamic in her favor it's too late now. Honestly the only reason she hasn't stopped hitting you after all these corny mishaps is because you're a drummer; a regular guy wouldn't have gotten that far. In the future, severely limit all text communication, your goofiness is obviously shooting you in the foot.