Hi all thanks for your suggestions I was going to just write this off but I decided to make 1 last direct message for the hell of it. Things took an interesting development:-
Me - When are you free to meet? Her - Hiya. How’s your week been? usually I need to sort a childminder to go out of an evening … so I need advance notice. That’s why I don’t really date ? Me - Really busy but ok thanks how about you?
I'm fine with planning in advance.
You can come visit me in when you're free if you like.
Her - It’s a calm week as I’ve taken it off to catch up on myself.
I might take you up on that as I’ve weirdly never been to . Do you live alone?
Me - I live in a lovely little town it would be a very refreshing change from London.
Its quite easy to get to there is a direct train from Liverpool street and Stratford.
Yes I live alone in a cozy little apartment.
Her - As long as you promise not to chop up my body parts. I might take you up on that. Or like you said we can meet at a hotel too
Her - This is a weird question but I’m not always the greatest at reading social cues and I was a fair bit tipsy when we met…. What are you looking for?
Me - I was about to say the same thing to you.
The hot girls are always the crazy ones ?
Me - I'm looking for a relaxed friendship at first. By that I mean you can be you and I'll be me without any pressure or expectations.
If something more develops then it's meant to be.
Her - Okdokey.
Her - That sounds good.
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I think I will say to her lets arrange something I don't mind if its far in advance as I'm really busy. What do you think?
Musicgoon78 2 3w ago
Sounds good to me. I see no problems here. Just be sure to spin more plates so you'd have options. Good work!
noonenoname00 3w ago
Yes that's exactly the plan thank you
noonenoname00 3w ago
She just messaged me today out of the blue saying "I hope you're having a good day tell me about you"
The last thing I want to do is get into text message ping pong so how about I put this:-
"Let's find a time to meet and I'll tell you all about me. If you need to schedule really far in advance I don't mind I need that too sometimes"
First-light 3w ago
Sounds good. Well done. I think that when it comes to actually getting her to agree to meet, it will be good to approach the subject on the right day.
If you just hit her up with "so when are we going to meet?" You don't know how hassled she is feeling. The moment she feels pressure, she will pull away. I have no idea why she is reticent- kids, work, boyfriend but asking when you have anyway established she is relaxed and chatty might avoid the problems a bit.
noonenoname00 3w ago
She just messaged me today out of the blue saying "I hope you're having a good day tell me about you"
The last thing I want to do is get into text message ping pong so how about I put this:-
"Let's find a time to meet and I'll tell you all about me. If you need to schedule really far in advance I don't mind I need that too sometimes"