My girlfriend suggested we follow each other on Instagram and Facebook. I told her I’m not sure about it and she questioned whether I had something to hide or not. Part of me wanted to keep those lives separate because personally I don’t want to get all obsessive about who likes what post etc.. she’s never demonstrated untrustworthy behavior when it comes to social media, like she never has tried to hide when she’s on Instagram or what she’s doing on it.
I guess I can be a little jealous type and sometimes and maybe made big things out of nothing, I could potentially see myself going down the rabbit hole. But maybe I’m overthinking it. Any red pill suggestion on doing the social media following with your significant other?
For context we’ve been dating for about three months and it’s feeling pretty good and serious. We both have the same goals of starting a family etc
Althorian 4d ago
You should’ve been the one starting to ask to follow each other mutually on Instagram and Facebook, it would’ve been increasing your confidence and your trust towards her. Still, I don’t really see any issue with getting to follow each other on these social medias, they ain’t bad at all, and it would be such a stupid idea to stop a relationship just for a mutual follow on social medias.
Rexx 1w ago
This is one of those posts where I'm just sort of at a loss for words. Is that bad?
Honestly stop overthinking it so much. Follow or her or dont. But do it because you want to, not because she's making a thing about it.
IoIoIoI7 1w ago
Know your vices.
3 months... is like nothing to know someone.
Read sidebar.
Musicgoon78 2 6d ago
Thank s is a should I post. The truth is this is a very personal question that has zero to do with TRP
I would say you need to think for yourself.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 6d ago
Dude hasn't posted in eons. I'll give him the warning
StrongWoman 6d ago
If you say "yes" it will lead to a lot of problems in the future, but if you say "no" it will lead to a lot of problems in the future, so choose wisely.
pofkaf 6d ago
You are not ready for a long term relationship. My advice for you is to sleep with many more women before you even consider having a girlfriend.
Two things.
1) Three months is not an adequate time to be "serious." You hardly even know each other, why are you talking about having kids with her?
2) An alpha male would not give a shit who follows him on social media, who likes his post, etc. The fact that you are concerned about it indicates that you are a chronic beta male.
Read the sidebar of this forum. Implement the concepts into your life. It'll save you a lot of suffering.
Lone_Ranger 2 6d ago
you should not be on social media.
EmpireCrimson 6d ago
I generally enjoy reading on this site, but this is one of the low-effort questions that makes me want some sort of moderation.
You had a life before her (and she did before you entered the picture) and will continue to have one without her if the relationship doesn't work out. They're pictures and posts. If you can't deal with that, then maybe a relationship isn't for you.
I've been married for nearly 15 years and we've been together for about 18 years. Dozens of women like my posts. Some of them I had relationships with. Some of them are her friends who I have become friends with. NOBODY CARES. She's in the same boat. Ex-boyfriends who have moved on in life will like posts of hers. Again, NOBODY CARES.
If you're really worried that she will see who you follow and find out that you like to watch big girls bounce their boobs (or any other fetish that algorithm feeds you), move those accounts to a burner IG account and move on with your life.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 6d ago
Where have you been?
Consequences of asking basic should i questions in AskTRP
EmpireCrimson 6d ago
That's fair; I'll restate what I meant - MORE moderation, as in questions from new users should be screened before they're published for everyone.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 6d ago
We don't have the coding for it. This isn't like reddits automod or whitelisting
Vermillion-Rx Admin 6d ago
Stop consuming TRP alpha sigma oak wolf porn and add your girlfriend
Vermillion-Rx Admin 6d ago
Hey man i don't think you've posted in a while, beware of the price of asking should i questions
Consequences of asking basic should i questions in AskTRP
First-light 6d ago
If you are serious, follow her. You might as well learn more about her sooner rather than later.
MrSupreme 6d ago
Three months is wild to be thinking about babies, i think it is fine if you establish your whole traditional view of a LTR, but even if you share the same view you should hold it and act/talk like it is not in your plans, make her work for it, maybe tell her that you need to see great mom/wife qualities to make that decision
About the social media thing,do whatever you want.You shouldnt be commenting on Instathots pictures how great her ass looks anyways.
derdeutscher 6d ago
I have none of social media exactly for this reason. I do not want to be followed by anyone. Nor follow anybody.
I have whatsapp only, and read receipts and online status are turned off.
Lone_Ranger 2 5d ago
this is the way.
derdeutscher 5d ago
Some consider me weird. But I have one life and I dont intend to spend it on front of screens.
Born early enough to know how it was before this whole craze, and thats how I want it to be for me.
No-Stress-Cat 6d ago
The fact she even has that level of interaction with social media is a red flag. Your instinct is correct. If her idea of being in a "serious relationship" is following each other on social media, how many other guys is she trading "follows" with?