As I've read in the sidebar, Rollo's book particularily, plate spinning isn't option at all in my country, or should I better say, my town.
It's a small town where we almost know everyone (ofc the bigger fish = bigger prize = more known).
It's not a cope, I just never saw a man be able to perfectly spin the plates without the plates themselves being against it so much.
I know the female imperative is to counter this spinning and to ensure us to "want" to indulge in monogamy, it's just like nobody around me sees it.
I'm primarily talking about 18-22 years old atm (18 is legal age where I'm from). Everytime a plate finds about other plate it basically ends in breakup (not in a relationship way), they stop seeing each other.
Sure, that girl which left the guy can grieve for him and be desperate, but that "non-exclusivity" isn't tolerable by her, she despises it so much as to stop seeing him.
Not a single girl is perfectly okay with a man being non-exclusive with her. It mostly ends in a LTR or sometimes few dates without the sex or it leads nowhere.
On the other side, EVERY TIME a man which spins plates and is covertly non-exclusive, still, when his girl finds out that he's seeing at least 1 other girl by "stories, gossips" (sometimes fake ones, not confirmed at all) dumps him.
Is plate spinning only possible in 1st world countries? Then again, that doesn't make sense since male and female nature are same everywhere, but social conditiong isn't?
How are we in this environment able to successfully spin plates?
cundardunfinished 12h ago
I think you can still control the resources you provide (time, energy) even if not having sex with multiple women at the same time. It does take away some advantages of playing the field, namely experience, but that's just part of living in a small town I guess.
The problem I'm not sure you can overcome is that there is a covert contract within your community that dating = exclusivity. Applying the Brad Pitt test, in theory you could raise your SMV to a level where they would fuck you regardless, but if you aren't Brad Pitt then you may just have to live in the confines you're given for now. It's also hard to maintain a reputation in a small circle where people are able to know exactly what you're doing and judge it according to mainstream beliefs around sex and dating . . maybe some reading around social circle game would be helpful.
If your reputation isn't at risk then fuck away. Plates break it happens
SSBPikkon 11h ago
You nailed it exactly. But even chatting with some of them and spending time with plates without sex is still a taboo, or you could say unacceptable.
My reputation may be at risk, sincerely, I've made so much mistakes in the past, partially of the BP and generally not knowing enough of RP.
My only choice is either to move out, which is pretty rare for now or I just need to become 1% of that whole town.
Kloi 8m ago
Why not?
No you don't. Beside moving to bigger city would be the easier option but bigger cities.
Having lived in both major cities around the USA and small towns with populations of >1500 you can spin plates in either.
Smaller cities the girls are going to know. Everyone talks. They either except it or move on.
If you're sub 30, don't have anything really going for you, I'd highly recommend just fucking off to any large Metropolitan area and experience a different walk of life before settling into what I'm assuming is your home town.
AbusiveFather1 12h ago
Seems to me like you’re the problem homie
Social norms (monogamy, marriage, taboo on promiscuity and adultery) were created to combat the promiscuous nature of women so that we don’t all kill each other because most of us get no pussy. 1st world countries have just forgotten the importance of traditional social norms that were developed through millennia of human experience
SSBPikkon 11h ago
No, there are ran through whores here, it's funny bcs I've been with some of them, not all tbh. I don't think that's the problem.
Most of them go to a trip or a man visits from a foreign country or city and they elevate their bodycount so their reputation isn't ruined.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 11h ago
I've got some news for you....
They kept it to themselves
SSBPikkon 11h ago
I'd be in shock if someone hides that well, but it's possible.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 6h ago
For real dawg you need to stop theory masturbating as if you found some hidden gem that cuts against the grindstone of standard RP knowledge and that your situation is magically unique. Learn the material and apply it. You are very lost
Vermillion-Rx Admin 11h ago
Because you are a sexually inexperienced noob. You are trying to assert notions that are wrong
Musicgoon78 2 11h ago
You're telling us shit that happens everywhere. AWALT. Read the damn sidebar. You're so busy making excuses and sperging out that you aren't learning things firsthand.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 11h ago
He read it. Digested at as intended, not too sure about that.
MrSupreme 9h ago
Spin the plates, fuck as many as you can for as long as you can. If Brad Pitt came into town he'd at least have threesomes with all of them,and those fake-trad girls would be waiting in line for their turn at the one big alpha boy in town,pulling their hairs and scratching the other bitches to see who goes first
Be that boy.
redhawkes 2 3h ago
If you live in small town, the run social circle game. That way, you’ll plow most of them hoes plus you have preselection.
Another thing is discretion. Don’t kiss and tell. Your post is a projection of your inexperience. You don’t need to be top 1%, be in the top 10-20% an around women.
Conservative hoes are the worst. They’ll project the image of some innocent unicorn in the hometown, then be a raging whores when outside, especially in uni. In short, it’s all about ur SMV and frame.
mattyanon Admin 31m ago
Most casual sex isn't known, talked about or reported. The women doing it keep quiet about it. Sensible men doing it keep quiet about it too.
It isn't allowed, therefore it isn't spoken about.
Doesn't mean it's not happening.
How do you know?
The world looks very different when you're genuinely attractive to women.
Well, have you actually tried? You are talking about everyone else's experience and not your own.