Discipline women (appropriately) for bad behavior.

I would break down jealousy into two parts -the feeling itself and the actions you take on that feeling. This is actually a topic worthy of an essay but I will try to be brief in saying jealousy has its place.

If you do not feel jealous in certain situations, then you either have a woman of nil value to you or you are just a happy cuck. Personally, I do not think either of those positions has much value and have never had a relationship on those terms.

I think we need to recognise that jealousy is a normal healthy human emotion and -when it is well calibrated- it is a useful alarm bell -just like pain or fear. The first difficulty with managing jealousy is that it is a subjective feeling. How well calibrated are you? RP though warns men against oneitis, mostly because it throws off your inner calibration to the point you make decisions that actually harm you. Feeling jealous when your girl talks to other guys is clearly a miscalibration but if your girl appears to be falling for another guy, can't stop talking about him, answers his calls at once, blushes in his presence, giggles submissively at things he says that are not even jokes, looks over her shoulder at him when she leaves and so on, then you had better be feeling jealous or you are a cuck.

But where to draw the line? Well its somewhere between the two extremes given above and it will depend on how much you have invested in the girl (and yes we all invest something, even though we try to keep it to reasonable limits in RP), how mature and sensible you think she is and what the normal boundaries of your culture are.

So you are feeling jealous, what do you do about it? Check your calibration is the first move. Gain more information if you can. Is she hiding anything or just unaware that she is sailing into temptation? Then what?

We live in a culture where women have all the power and the law is very hard on men who might be seen to be controlling, so our options are very limited these days. Next is sometimes the only option but one can sometimes find some room to move. One can often act without showing jealousy but in a way that sets boundaries. If you have invested a lot -say this is a woman you have children with or want to have children with her and she is being drawn into a man who will ruin all that, you might do well to act in some way not just watch the car crash because you are too alpha to try to apply the brakes and turn the wheel.

Women are not as wise as men and men still screw up in this area -falling for someone who ruins your relationship. I have certainly done it anyway. A good woman can be drawn in by a high value man -its natural. You can't just assume the old lie that "its all about the relationship, if its good enough, she will be loyal" Many a good woman has been stolen form a good man. Women are wired for hypergamy, so men need to have that alarm of jealousy.

Emotion is unlikely to be your friend here. Her emotion is pulling her away from you and as you know how she feels is the only barometer she or society will see as important. So you need to act rationally and calmly in almost every case. You also need to see things in perspective. Fighting Chad will probably get her very excited and if you win, she may love it. Certainly women I have been with have told me very jealously about friends of theirs who were fought over and how much they loved it while I have said "Well I would never do that" I know my woman hates the idea that I would not fight for her or "do anything" for her. She views it as a weakness of me as a man. Still I persist in this because I know that to risk too much for a woman in today's world is dumb and overvalues her.

But recognising jealousy, having it calibrated right and reinforcing boundaries is your friend in the right situation. Use sparingly.

I don't think jealousy is ever the move. It's rooted in scarcity and insecurity. A small bit adds a bit of spice to things. Large and overt jealousy is rather unhealthy. You can't control others actions, but you can control your responses.

Jealousy per se is never useful but it's also important not to be naive.

I'm of a similar mindset that if she wants to walk she's going to do it but at the same time guys will constantly hit on her, and you are not top dog in the world so guys with better SMV and better game than you will have the opportunity to flirt with her and fuck her. So I think in certain circumstances it's ok to nip that in the bud without going full mate guarding, but it probably only works if starting from your mindset since if you actually feel jealous and insecure then whatever actions you take will come across as mate guarding. Also these should be isolated incidents and in an LTR a woman should generally know what limits are and enforce them herself

I will say this: Don't mate guard your woman while you're with her. If you have to do that, better to end things already because you're not #1 in her mind.

However, you are retarded if you let your woman go -alone- somewhere she will be surrounded by alpha's, especially with booze around.

If she chafes at your possessiveness or assumption of entitlement to her, she's not relationship material.

Also, dread is the antidote to jealousy, always use that instead of mate guarding.

Jealousy, just like any other emotion can bw used as a tool.

You should never feel anything around women - instead use the image of emotions to your advantage.

Jealousy: fear of losing what you have to someone else. It's a classic feminine trait.

You figure out the rest.

I'm going to go against the grain here.

8 year relationship? If you don't show even a sliver of jealousy, you're showing her that you don't care.

That's great when you're first starting out. Unearned beta/comfort tends to dry the panties. However, too much alpha/arousal (especially of the remaining aloof variety) once beta/comfort has been earned will push the woman away.

It's something that has to be calibrated and approached carefully.

You don't want to look clingy or butt-hurt. You'll surrender significant power to her by doing so.

I have not done well at this myself. Lucky for me, my wife's jealous streak is worse than mine, so I just use that against her.

One of my favorite people I've "met" online, @deeplydisturbed, wrote up an excellent bit about it here:

https://www.trp.red/feed/status/134878

I've managed to get more like that over the years, but for the first 5-10 years or so, wore my jealousy on my sleeve.

Which brings up a semi-related topic: a decent woman will be forgiving of your occasional misstep as long as you're shit's tight more often than not. That's also how I got away with blubbering like a child when I was wracked with grief at my father's death: I was a strong man with legitimate grief at losing someone I loved, and not some whiny wimp crying yet again over something trivial.