I’m ignoring this girl I talked about in a previous post who I think is using me for attention. I’ve basically just been ignoring her texts and refraining from conversation.
She was blowing up my phone asking why I was mad and I just said busy. She continued blowing up my phone, asking how I was. I didn’t answer, then sent me a large paragraph saying she’s not sure why i stopped talking to her and maybe its something she did but she can’t figure it out. I ignored.
We work together, but im putting my two weeks in Friday and we only in office 2-3days. So ive kinda been ignoring her but like not in a pretend she doesn’t exist way just hi and bye and answering something if she asks me directly in a short manner. Ignoring all snaps asking if im here.
Today she pulled up to lunch looking furious lol. Thought it was just me but someone else said she looked pissed also. Do I keep ignoring her this way or go sit by myself at lunch don’t want anyone to think somethings up.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1d ago
Have you remotely tried to look up any similar answers in the search bar? C'mon dude. How long have you been using these forums now, 2+ years?
If they aren't fucking you move on
Red_dead Should i (x1) 1d ago
I literally did spent all last night looking it up. Most aren’t work specific.
https://www.forums.red/p/asktrp/149615/in_rejection_and_in_friend_zone_ignore_her_and_go_completely https://www.forums.red/p/asktrp/178186/girl_gives_me_mixed_signals
And many more. I always use the search function first. A lot of them say to ignore but don’t mention if I see her in a professional environment.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1d ago
Look up shit where you eat
Trp has been saying that forever. The idea precedes trp. Don't shot where you eat
Your situation is a magical unicorn situation. What makes you think work magically changes that. Don't shit where you eat and if you she would have already fucked you she already would have. You're in denial
Red_dead Should i (x1) 1d ago
I know that I read that, I said that. In less than 1 wk we won’t even be coworkers, literally the only reason I waited this long.
All im asking is if I was doing the whole ignore thing right lol she blowing up my phone. Not asking for how to fuck her.
MrSupreme 1d ago
Tell her you're coworkers and not her best friend,or an emotional dumpster. You're welcome.
First-light 1d ago
What are you aiming to achieve by not talking to her? At first it increases her insecurity, so she texts more. Then it pisses her off. I doubt a good outcome will come from pissing her off -whether you want to bang her or want to get given space by a colleague. You still have to work with her.
Hell has no fury like a woman scorned. If she takes this rejection personally, she will make it personal that you are her enemy. High status guy she wanted rejects her offer to suck his dick does not hurt nearly as much as a low status guy who just decided she was not worth talking to. He deserves to be punished says the queen in her head.
Talk to her. Explain you felt it was getting a bit intense with the emotional stuff she was sending about her problems, which you can't help with, so you left it, then you realised that was just rude and you needed to say something. You want to be friends but you just needed a bit of space from it. She need to know you are not an attention ATM. You can't put it like that but you need to try to explain it kindly.
No-Stress-Cat 1d ago
What do you want from her?
Mofreer 1d ago
The consensus here in TRP is one of you don't shit where you eat. But lets move beyond that since you're obviously interested in this chick.
Raising her emotional level and making her invest more by texting is good, but for what purpose? There is a certain amount of emotional threshold once it's crossed not going to achieve anything positive.
If you're somehow not interested in fucking her, you can just communicate that to her directly, which most likely turn her off. But you don't care since you don't want to fuck her.
If you're interested in fucking her; strike up a conversation with her on Friday that would lead to you guys meeting that very same day. If she agrees to a date, it's almost always going to be a lay.
ballubhai 1d ago
How can you be in this forum and not know the golden rule of never shitting where you eat?
MyBoyJob 1d ago
Yeah as said above if you’re not trying to fuck her or are fucking her just move on. If you need specifics on how to do that, in this case just do a slow fade (dry texting, disinterested conversation, etc)
Musicgoon78 2 23h ago
Are you doing what right? If you're looking to ignore and piss off some random coworker, yes you're doing great.