When will you learn not to care about womens emotions? Its like trying to control weather. Or understand and explain space. Its just not possible. Women change their mind and emotions all the time with and without reasons..just dont think so much about it. If she dont like you, she free to go.

I'm (29M) (...) my gf (31F)

Let me stop you right there.

I told her that she had some qualities I wouldn't want in a wife

You rejected her. This one is done, young brother. You flipped her hypergamy switch. Now, she's looking for the exit. She's got no reason to hang around now. You've already made it clear in her mind that she's not good enough to be your wife. You don't have to worry about nexting her. She's already nexted you. It's just a matter of time before she finds the next guy.

I'm not knocking you here and saying it's all your fault. I'm not saying you did this on purpose. Your alarm bells rang and waved the red flags and you instinctively reacted. This is okay. This is normal. This is a good thing. See it for what it is.

Also, you need to recognize it's not love you're feeling. It's oneitis. Oneitis is the Devil incarnate. It lies. It deceives. It tells you, "This is love. You don't need anyone else." It's using your lack of abundance mindset against you. It's a tricky bastard, and will cause you to do shit you wouldn't normally do.

Don't let the Devil trick you. THAT is how you get fucked.

in a LTR (only one month so far)

LTRs are measured in years. It stands for Long-Term Relationship. A few months, let alone just one, is still very much short-term.

Knowing what I know, this shit was like knives thrown to the heart. Anyway, it was a red flag because she mentioned close to nothing about what she likes about me as a person, until after I complained about it of course

You're usually better off keeping your judgments and feelings to yourself. Act, don't talk. If you decide something is reason to end things, keep your mouth shut until you actually end things.

Here's what you accomplish by airing your concerns:

• you teach her to be a better liar

• you cause unnecessary drama via verbal diarrhea

• you prolong the inevitable

You always have the option to silently classify her as "practice chick" or "temporary fuckdoll" or whatever, but if she has disqualified herself from anything serious, telling her so usually isn't a prudent move unless your intent is to end it right then and there. Despite what women will say, most of the time they're hunting for eventual commitment, especially if they push for exclusivity early (and this reads like she did). Some might be OK with knowing they're just a fling, but usually they're just saying that.

she seems strangely selfish for a woman

My wife is the least selfish woman I've ever known, and she's still incredibly selfish and solipsistic. What women have you been fortunate enough to know who weren't selfish?

Even during sex, she will grab my hand and press it against her breasts or on her ass, wherever she wants.

That sounds hot.

I'll admit I don't like this

Huh. Why not? Just curious.

If you don't like something, are you at least OK with doing it because it gets her off? Or do you absolutely hate it? If it's the latter, then just don't. Or maybe do it back to her, like grab her hand and get her to cup your balls.

Now, a few days ago, we had a terrible fight (about fighting, or something else very stupid), where she just broke up with me after I told her that she had some qualities I wouldn't want in a wife, and that we needed to work on fixing some stuff, something along those lines. Our fights can get quite bad

If you two are fighting that much and only a month in, then why are you putting up with each other?! The first year+ should be the honeymoon period, filled with nothing but blissful fucking.

I know when a girl is in love with you she will drive 1,000 miles to see you, period or not.

Yes.

Is my intuition valid?

Yes.

Am I just paranoid?

No.

I feel like I love her

WHAT?!?!

Bro you need abundance. Nothing you wrote tells me that you're happy in this dysfunction. She doesn't seem like a good girlfriend or even sane.

For a month long relationship this is beyond toxic. This shit is already done. Let her stay gone and find someone that doesn't make your life difficult. This girl seems like all pain without the good parts of being with a woman. Release her to the streets.