I had been dating two girls for 3/4 months respectively. They became friends 1 month in as we all train at the same gym together and they were both around me at times. No exclusivity with either, although I wasn't exactly open about who I was sleeping with. The problem began two weeks ago when they hung out outside of the gym and told eachother everything, the next day they both broke it off. They have been orbiting me the past few weeks in the gym coming in the exact same times, TOGETHER. I was getting more serious with one of them and the other one got jealous and decides to ruin it.
I have been no contact with both for two weeks, they both regularly look my way and I give a simple smile and move on. Will they reach out at some point? I donm't give a fuck if one does but the other I am more interested in.
What's the solution? Remain no contact, go by my business and if they reach out ask to meet up?
update - Approached the one I like in the gym, she maintained that she is completely done because of the lack of trust. I said that I respect that and left it at that. This isn't recoverable aye?
throwaway415 2w ago
One word: abundance.
Sure, the one you like might have been hot and nice to hang out with. There's 10 million more just like her.
Gold is valuable because it's relatively scarce, which makes it a precious commodity.
Attractive women are everywhere. The market is flooded. They're a dime a dozen.
On to the next one
coolsocks00 1 3w ago
First of all, what kinda lame ass conversation did you have at the gym where she managed to conclude that she was done?
oh plees take me back Stacy, give me a chance
If you hadnt lost frame already, you probably did so then. Should have maintained complete indifference. Maybe brought a third chick in with you.
Keep no contact and on to the next.
StrengthFramed 3w ago
Well she said she was done two weeks ago because she couldnt trust me, I asked her hows shes been and if she wants to go grab a drink soon.
coolsocks00 1 2w ago
I think everyone has chimed in with how you need to frame things differently first in your head and then outwards. Abundance mentality and amused mastery.
Spinning plates without owning the fact that, yes, you actually do fuck, is a bad idea. Dont fall for female shaming tactics and reframes.
StrengthFramed 2w ago
I understand the framing concept as it relates to this. Will do.
redpillschool Admin 3w ago
First of all, given that you were fucking multiple women and now they're aware of it, your social proof is maintained. They now know you're a player and as much as they might be mad about the situation, you probably haven't damaged your attractiveness to them much. If anything, this might be a turn on.
Play it cool. Spin more plates. See if either pops up again later down the road. They might surprise you.
StrengthFramed 3w ago
I shouldn't avoid at going the same times I previously was? Or is it best to go complete no contact and train at different times?
redpillschool Admin 3w ago
Don't avoid them. Just do you. Let them see you.
SeasonedRP 1 3w ago
I suspect one or both will reach out to you.
redpillschool Admin 3w ago
Agreed. Massive social proof.
StrengthFramed 3w ago
She was pretty firm in her no last night. is it just one of those things where thats how shes feeling NOW. She says she doesn't trust me because I lied about seeing this girl. Which I did but I didn't feel she was owed that information as nothing is exclusive.
First-light 3w ago
Once the hamster wheels run down, then anything might happen. At the moment they are spinning in unison and their momentum is away from you. Women rarely manage not to fall out, bitch and want to get one up at some stage.
You can't expect them to come back but then you also can't expect them not to, it just depends what spins the wheels up again once they have run down.
Musicgoon78 2 3w ago
You're frame is way off of what it needs to be. If you view dating two girls that are friends as a fuck up that completely wrong.
Competition exists and is healthy. They shouldn't be hatin' because other women find you sexy. You can't stop sexy my brother! It just is.
Now you are the prize. The prize doesn't concern himself on how the competition competes. He just makes his choice when he deems necessary. Now this is a very interesting situation to be in for and unplugged guy. It's not really covered so I'll address it:
When you start dating two friend there is going to be a moment of clarity for them, a gathering, and then a united assault on your character. I need you to understand this is a shit test. Read that again if you must.
Now you have to understand women. Are they loyal to their friends? Yes, but they are controlled by their hypergamy. A hot married woman will cheat on her husband and readily take the role of side piece for a high value guy. A single hot woman will take the role of secret side piece to an attached guy just to have access to him. Ask me how I know?
Chicks aren't loyal to each other or partners because of hypergamy.
You didn't do anything wrong by being attractive. You should find this amusing. Used amused mastery instead of being an apologist.
Could you really argue that a man being attractive and loveable is morally reprehensible? This is a test of your frame.
Musicgoon78 2 3w ago
Here's my story: many many years ago I met a cute woman online. Pale with dark straight hair a but on the thin side with soft and youthful features. Then a few days later I met a fiery blond with a big ass and great tits.
I took the pale girl out to a fancy Thai restaurant. Nothing expensive. We had a great time. The blond didn't have any times in the evening available that week so I suggested we just meet at this coffee place that has absolutely killer bougie donuts. We seemed to vibe well. I confined to talk and text with the girls. One day one was singing my praises and the other one found out. The two girls were best friends. The blond girl called.
"Hey I was just talking about you to my friend"
"Oh, I'm curious now. ????" -me
"Do you know L____"?
"Yeah I went to dinner with her a few nights ago. She's very good looking!" -me
"She's my fucking best friend"
"Wow! Your friend is very good looking and you're a scorcher too! It seems like we all have excellent taste". -me
"What the fuck? She gets dinner and all I get are fucking donuts"?
"Legendary Donuts. They are the best! And this is a really strange way to ask me to dinner with you, but sure, I accept". -me
"I need to think about this... You're kinda an asshole you know"
????-me
Both of them slept with me. The blond was entitled and negative and the other didn't have any time. But I didn't apologize and just really had fun with the situation. It wasn't my problem.
StrengthFramed 3w ago
So where do I go from here? What is the solution? I love your input btw. Makes me view it differently.
Musicgoon78 2 3w ago
Continue to chat with them and joke with everyone. I you want to assign it an emotion, assign amusement to the situation and make it funny for you. It's their butthurt to sort out and not your fault.