Some women I meet hate the idea where they need to come to me first. I always say it's up to a girl to come first (if a chick really likes a guy she'll do anything to come to him).
If I come to her house at first, then she leaves me or something, it puts her in place of power (sheep coming to a shepherd). She got a free ride, attention and didn't give anything in return.
Some women said to me that all of their boyfriends all came to their place/city. They just went outside and that's it. They actually were with those guys. Doesn't that put those guys as a half-alpha? They gave in, got to a girl, maybe even slept with her, but all in all the girls was in control of the logistics.
I don't live in the USA and not everything relies on a car. Trains, metros, buses, walk... Some of them give an excuse or a basic flake "it's too far away" even though I know in bigger countries or cities some of them drive even more than 1 hour.
Ofc since the culture is like that, some of them don't have drivers licence immediately, they get it later in life - another excuse.
Should I change the approach? Go to them first or wait for them to come to me? If they don't want to I remove them as an option?
There's something wrong with those chicks I talked about, all those dudes that went to them, those girls didn't offer anything, they just left the house, got a free ride, maybe even flaked on 9 out of 10 guys and those 9 guys just wasted their time.
That's why I'm so against driving to them or picking them up for a first few times. Is my thinking correct?
Lone_Ranger 2 2w ago
good lord sweet jesus. how can anyone help this dude with the level of overthing?
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 2w ago
It doesn't matter whether you go to her place first, or if she comes to yours. If she wants to fuck you, she'll make it easy. If she invites you inside, go. If you invite her to your place and she's into you, she'll accept.
Holy overthink.
Just meet them somewhere. Try to have the logistics worked that you can easily go to your place or hers if things go well, and also so that you can easily get away if you can't stand her.
Don't fret getting stood up so much. It happens. It sucks, but it isn't the end of the world.
Before he went back and deleted almost everything he ever wrote, Roosh had a blog post titled "I Hope She Flakes". The gist of it is, make dates an activity which you'll enjoy doing by yourself if she doesn't show up. He got to the point where he was looking forward to the activities more than fucking a new chick, hence the title.
Masun Can't think for myself 2w ago
That's my concern. I've had times where I'd just walk for 10 minutes max and got stood up pretty badly and I thought they were high-interest. Because of that, I fear I'll drive for an hour/hour and a half for her to just talk, do nothing else for about an hour and then block me right after, even worse if in the first 10 minutes she leaves.
I've spent my time, money and most importantly, sanity.
Other point is lots of them want me to come to them, talk a bit, entertain them bcs they are bored and that's it. They either can't or wont have an empty apartment which is my argument: "how can we talk and know each other if we're just outside looking at the fucking stars" (insinuating that I wont drive that long to just be outside).
I sincerely doubt that 90% of the girls I was talking or am talking are going to suck my dick, even less to fuck in the car.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
Enough with the social autism dude if a woman wants to fuck you she'll find a way
MrSupreme 2w ago
You do the logistics, with some girls you even have to do the thinking,they just stand there looking pretty.
Musicgoon78 2 2w ago
You're all retarded theory and no substance. You worry about the most retarded shit. I'll happily go to a girls house to smash. Anything else is faggotry.
Your posts are painful to read.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
Alright dude. Your next 3 posts need to be field reports, and that's pending the quality of them. I reserve the right to tell you more than your next 3 posts need to be field reports.
And i mean actual field reports, not just trying one small thing and then shoehorning an AskTRP question in as a workaround.. actually field reports, not questions disguised as them