Did you even READ THE SIDEBAR or rational male yet dude

I was the same in like middle school man. The saying “fake it till you make it” comes to mind. I didn’t start out being ultra confident with girls. This was something that was built over time after many many more failures than successes.

You also need a bit of a sales mindset; you can’t get discouraged and give up just bc 1 girl rejects you. There’s 3.5b+ other women on the planet - it is statistically impossible to assume that none of them would be interested.

I just want ONE woman

Yeah, this is the brainwashing at work sadly. "I just need ONE woman"..... this is to make you a good loyal provider and to meet THE ONE.

This is a dream, an illusion, it is not reality and it is not how the world works.

Sometimes I feel like the only person on Earth who has a sex drive, and the only person on Earth who can't get laid. I don't know what to do. I'm in agony all the time. Theory doesn't help. I have nothing. I'm at absolute zero.

It's fairly common for men - but noone talks about it.

It's not just you.

Ok..... for starters: what shape are you in physically? And where are you at in life? (career, house, car?)

Is there a reason you find it difficult to the point you simply can't do it? What goes through your head when you imagine, or attempt to flirt with a woman?

where to start with all of this?

It sounds like you are at rock bottom. You need to forget about women for now.

You need to build a life. That means

1. Career
2. Purpose
3. health and fitness
4. financial health
5. mental health
6. social groups
7. network of friends
8. social skills.
9. real actual fucking confidence.

Forget all about women. Women come and go. what women don't want is some desperate man that can't even look after himself. learn to look after yourself, build your life.

it's going to take time and effort and getting off your ass. do you run? I would start by doing the following

1. do a 5k run. and do it every damn day.
2. tidy your room, your house, your car.
3. fucking clean yourself up.
4. start fucking lifting - just do the 5x5 routine for 6 months. no excuses.
5. start financial planning.
6. focus on your career.

just do those fucking things, and I guarantee you there will be women available.

Just try and talk to them. If you can not interact with women, no advice will help you. If you have anxiety try reducing caffeine or take meds.

But if you cant bring yourself to talk to them, all advice is useless.

This is totally fixable but from your starting position, this won't just fix in a stage or two. You need to undo years of unconscious inhibition. When we see hot women we all instinctively want to play up to them, take them home and bang them, men learn to inhibit their natural behaviours long long before puberty. You will by now be so used to doing this that it will seem a struggle to exhibit natural interested behaviour around women. If you attempt to act interested, it will at first feel false, almost dishonest and be gauche. You need first to be a guy who is at ease being a guy who women will be attracted to.

Telling a man in your position to "just try, just let go and try" is the right answer but you need some practical structure to your trying.

1. Start by making sure you have a steady job, a tidy, well decorated house, a clean car and a few sets of smart not too old clothes, don't neglect the shoes. (Men wear shoes to get around, women wear shoes to be noticed and so notice shoes).
2. If you have hobbies you are passionate about, connect with people in real life about them. If you do not have such hobbies, take one up. Make sure you are interacting with people.
3. Practise talking to women, just talking. Talk to shop girls and waitresses -just ask them one or two not too personal questions, compliment them about something non sexual, smile, say one funny thing if it comes to mind and go on your way. If you see these women regularly smile at them and talk to them each time you see them if possible.
4. While men and women do not in my opinion make for good friends, it wouldn't hurt you to have a female friend or two, maybe ones you don't really want to bang but who you can hang out with for coffee or share a hobby with. Just make these friendships with a view to being platonic. Women can smell a man's interest about as far off as a deer will smell a hunter in the woods, so don't be the simpy weak guy who gets friend zoned. Friendzone them first. Then they will at least respect you. These females will have other female friends. If you get close to these women, they may even try to set you up with women or give you advice on how you present to women if you open up about your problems in a matter of fact way, not a self pitying cringy embarrassed way. Even women who are not friends with them will still feel at ease with you if you have female company. -A stalking horse can get you near the deer.

Do all that and then you are about ready to start flirting with women with intent and it will go quite well. Do that and you will have conditioned yourself to take the training required to stay the course and finish well. Try to go straight to the training to flirt with women and win them and it will be like training for an ultra marathon off the couch -a very bad idea, which may well result in getting hurt and disheartened and at the very best will result in finishing weak and unsure if you ever want to do it again.

Do believe in yourself. As you say there are billions of women out there, you are worthy of one of them, if you put the work in. Good luck.

You fucking try. Fuck the consequences, fuck what people think, fuck rejection. You just keep pushing until you get what you want. That's it.

Read the sidebar. Push your boundaries. Don't worry. Have fun. Kick ass.