One of my plates is mad about lack of communication. In her defense I did not communicate a couple of big things well to her for my own solid reasons and now she’s gotten really mad.
She texted me about 5 paragraphs about how I don’t communicate and she always has to double text. I told her im literally busy which is true and I don’t have time to respond to texts like I used to.
She just keeps repeating it that im communicated badly. This initially started when I ignored her when she asked about my project… that I haven’t told anyone about, seems like it was pent up.
Anyways she texted another 5 long paragraphs earlier today saying she doesn’t know if its the right time to make seeing each other work, followed by a paragraph stating things havent been the same .
I don’t think dare will work in this situation. Or if anything.
MrSupreme 5d ago
She sounds like she doesn't want to be a plate, she needs more attention so she's looking for a stable boyfriend type of deal. Plate broke, get another one,
Red_dead Should i (x1) 5d ago
Thank you for the advice
pofkaf 5d ago
Just ignore her paragraphs. No need to waste your time and energy.
Her hamster will go CRAZY. And the next time you see her, the sex will also be crazy.
Trust me. I've done this time and time again.
Musicgoon78 2 1d ago
I just read this. Spot on. I had one on and off again girl. I thought she was a mess, but great in the sack. Sometimes I would stop communicating and disappear on her for a few days to take opportunities bang other women. When she would light my phone up I wouldn't respond.
Finally when I was feeling up to it and she would send me a nice invitation, I would go to her place and have the absolute best sex you can find on the planet!
Thank you for bringing up fond memories of that enjoyable dysfunction!
Red_dead Should i (x1) 4d ago
She’s mad because I keep ignoring her lol
pofkaf 4d ago
So then keep ignoring her. Hold the line.
Until she offers to meet up again.
preach 5d ago
Having plates is good but a lot of times there are some unmentioned, unofficial rules that go along with having multiple plates that I have found worked well for me in order to keep them around long term.
You have to be able to manage your time very efficiently. If you have work, gym, hobbies, house cleaning, hanging with friends, etc....whatever, you MUST be able to work in time for every plate on a regular basis. If you have to use a calendar like google, or something more professional like Outlook, whatever it takes, you have to be able to manage your time very efficiently.
Although the girls are only plates in your life, you need to take them out on an occasional date. Sure there some women out there who will just come over when you text after having no communication for like 2+ weeks, but most women need more interaction. Most women don't want to be made to feel that they're just there to provide a hole for you to fuck whenever you get horny. So even though you don't want an actual relationship with a plate, take a little time to treat them to a date by hanging out and doing something that isn't centered around sex.
If you come across a woman that you want a serious relationship with and you have decided to actually commit your time and energy to her, then cut off the other plates immediately. Make sure that you are honest with them about why. Don't lie and don't lead them on either. No one wants to feel used but they will also see that you're pulling women for actual relationships which ensures your status remains high. Also don't try and spin the block on them while in the relationship, it will end up messy regardless of how slick you think you are. If the relationship ends, don't immediately hit them up. Be sure to take time for yourself to decompress but slowly find a way to talk with them again if that's what you want.
First-light 4d ago
Plate is wobbling a lot. You might save it if you gave it more attention. Do you value the plate enough to make the effort or might the effort needed cause you to drop other things? That is what you need to decide.
Gaming her is likely to only delay the breakage by a few days or weeks. Its better to decide if you want to throw yourself at saving the plate or not. If you want to save it, don't get into arguing about what she is saying as it will only add momentum to the hamster wheel, just supply more communication and see if it fixes it.
Jackmoter 4d ago
Tell her you want to talk about it in person. Never engage in paragraph arguments over text. It'll mess with your day and waste your time.
You need to read "When I say no I feel guilty"
"Maybe I am communicating badly, what makes you say that?" (Fogging, Negative enquiry). Don't get drawn into her bullshit, don't get emotional, don't argue.
And if she ends up saying she wants to end things... let her go.
Remember: IF IN DOUBT: IGNORE FOR TWO DAYS.
Red_dead Should i (x1) 4d ago
I basically didn’t communicate my travel schedule. The reason shes mad is because I keep ignoring her lol.
Jackmoter 4d ago
If a girl is mad at you because you didn't communicate logistics properly then I don't understand why you have made a post.
You should have just owned your mistake and move on. Always own your mistakes as quickly as possible (if they're likely to be discovered).
But now it sounds like as a result of your incompetence she has unleashed all her frustrations with you over text.
Same advice applies. Speak about it in person, most certainly do not write a massive paragraph rebutting her every point.
Red_dead Should i (x1) 3d ago
I did own it but she keeps bringing it back up but yea scheduled to speak in person
Jackmoter 2d ago
Note. Repeatedly apologizing is not owning your mistake. Acknowledge it once, apologize only if necessary, then every time she brings it up just hit her with "I thought we moved past this".
mattyanon Admin 4d ago
Find someone who whines left.
If you can't do that, then give in to her leverage.
You see how this works, right ?