Do men shit test women? If so, how are they similar and how do they differ from women's shit test for men?
Men talk shit and fuck with each other all the time for fun. Iron sharpens iron in a game of verbal jujitsu and yes when emotions get hot this can be used to crack or test a real opponent. Not really shit tests in the way I understand them. Mainly it's just for sport.
I do the exact same with the women in my life and most of them enjoy it until they don't anymore. My girls even crack jokes back. Not really shit test, more like a temperament test or gagging someone's wit.
The only thing that comes close would be a test of submission. Gagging how well she follows directions, values you as a leader.
More comparable to a comfort test from them would be simple things like asking her to grab a water for you, an item from the store while she's out.
Otherwise, if shits getting sticky, can she calm down her emotions and take instructions when the pressure is on. Fortunately my girl seems to follow my lead when emotions have gotten hot out and about.
So no, I don't necessarily believe men in general use shit test in a similar fashion as women.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 9h ago
Shit test = testing for sexual suitability
(i.e. is this guy actually as masculine as I think or will he crumble under testing. Is he actually a bitch?)
Men don't do this. They don't need to test for sexual suitability like that.
The equivalent for men is vetting and setting boundaries.
Vetting = is she a slut, crazy, entitled, lying?
Boundaries = if I tell her "no" will she respect it or violate my wishes as a man?
Women shit test for sexual fitness. Men test women for suitability as a longer term mate
Edit: banter is probably the closest identical direct similarity but men don't use it to test, they use it to attract / have fun
No-Stress-Cat 6h ago
I don't treat my women like bros. They serve at the King's pleasure, not the other way around.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 4h ago
A shit test is also known as a fitness test.
fittin' dis cawk in yo' mouf!
Kidding around aside, it's when a woman senses a man's dominance/frame, but doubts it. She's attracted, but her innate skepticism bias causes her to doubt that attraction.
So she tests the dude.
If he passes, he's in.
If he fails, he might still get to fuck her, but it might not be as easily or as often etc. Or he might not get to fuck her at all.
This is done out of instinct, and women rarely realize they're doing this, let alone why.
Men and women are different.
We want different things from each other.
We're attracted to different things in each other.
So no, men don't "shit test" women. We never doubt our attraction, but rather her worthiness of our time, resources, commitment, etc. We'll test a woman about that.
But it's an entirely different beast from shit tests.