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Introduction: What is Respect To A Man
A man does not need love. What he needs is respect. Without it, he is no man, but a boy to be loved for who he is, his pure existence. Yet no boys last forever. As he grows, he must become a man and as he becomes a man of value, he must demand respect to get what he wants and live a life that he deserved. It is this deep sense of appreciation and admiration of his qualities, abilities and achievements that makes a male feel truly like a man, filled with pride, confidence, strength and courage. It is this form of respect from others that build and reinforced his status as a champion of the world, leader of the tribe, father of the family and the man of the relationship.
Just like how love is important to a woman, respect is everything to a man, for it literally defines who he is, where he stands and how successful he is in living his life. Yet not all man are to be respected, for not every man are deemed as respectable. In many cultures, the achieved manhood status is what earned a man respect from others. A guy is born male, but he must become a man, either through rituals that put him in trials and tribulations or by performing manly deeds and living up to the cultural standards.
Why Does Respect Important To A Man?
It is by demonstrating his values through competence, physical prowess, creative intelligence, dominance or social proof that makes him worthy of the respect. This is not fiction nor a social script but years of evolution that have instilled within the male biology to compete and strive towards a higher position in the dominance hierarchy. Historically speaking, the higher our status, the more access we had to resources, money, land, power and women, hence the higher the chance of surviving and passing down our genes. This is why respect goes a long way for a man's life as it can either build or destroy his reputation, which consequently will affect him, his family, his tribe and the quality of life in which they live.
In the past, it could mean the difference between life and death. In today's world, it still means the difference between living a fulfilling or a miserable life. This masculine form of respect is what all men desire. It is no coincidence that humanity has depended on it for centuries to create the great among men and transform boys into men of substance, capable of leading, building, protecting and providing towards the civilization we see today.
Respect In Modern Society
However, within the modern society, the concept of respect no longer hold the same values nor any rationalized and fact-based principles. Instead, it is diminished and replaced with another that appeal more to the feelings. It is no longer a determination of one's merits or performances, nor an admiration for one accomplishment and success, but as a courtesy, a gesture, a social deed that applies to anyone and everyone no matters their differences.
Respect today is a collectivist concept, aligned more with the feminine and the equalists that discourages the idea that anyone is greater or lesser than others. It is a core belief celebrated by feminists and effeminate men who believe in the default setting of respect, which is always on and is given to everybody no matter what. It is the due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others. It is based on "grace" which has a social value yet means little as a functional value that required to determine the best, the most competent and the most capable. Ultimately, to them, respect is something to be given and not needed to be earned.
Respect is Earned, Not Given
Yet as there exists too much circulation, prices go down. The same goes with respect, given out freely and cheaply and it will become worthless, especially from a masculine perspective. As men, we can never be fully social conditioned into this ideal of respect for we have to carry the burden of performance throughout our entire lives. As men, we can never assume this to truly apply to us for we have to grow and live in a fact-based reality. As men, we can never afford to think delusionally and remains within the bubble of our own for we can not just be, but we must become. As men, we can never give credits where it is not due for respect for us is always something to be earned and never given.
As harsh as it may sound to live the life of a man, it is these reasons that allow us to dictate our own lives and live in ways in which we want to live. It is the values we create and brings through the burden of performance that makes us think, act and behave like the prize. It is the hardships, the failures and ultimately the success and accomplishment that makes us deserved of the masculine respect, the appreciation, the admiration and the recognition of who we have become and where we have gone in life. So as a man, you must demand respect, not by just exist, but by improving and living up to your potential, to then develop yourself into a high-value man who is respected among all.
Conclusion: The Starting Point of Respect.
Yet to be able to reach such status and get the respect you want, you must be able to respect yourself. That is to live by your code of conduct, your fundamental beliefs, your core values and act accordingly to your masculine desires. To respect yourself is to do the right things according to you, not because of others. It is this sense of pride and confidence in yourself that it is either your way or the high way. It is to believe in your worth and live past what others may say or judge. It is to live a life stop giving so much fuck as a man of value.