Hey guys,
I need your thoughts on the current situation I am in.
I am currently unemployed. I saved a decent amount of money while I was employed. I decided to quit my job so I can pursue programming fully. I've been out of the dating game for over a year now, working on myself. I decided to hit up a girl I used to work with.
We went on a date in the week. We discussed what we've been up to lately. She started telling me about the small beauty business she created. I didn't pay it any mind at the time. The date went well, ended the evening with a kiss and she told me we would hang out at her place the next time we met.
She invited me to her place yesterday so that we could drink, smoke weed etc. I was under the impression we'd have sex and be alone with how our previous conversations were going.
When I got to her place. She told me her mom was at home! We ended up drinking/smoking sneakily in her room and I could tell she was nervous to do anything with me since her mom could walk in at any time. (Her mom is a strict, churchly woman). We were watching movies etc. She kept bringing up her business. She started telling me about her ideas, how many units she is selling etc. Having no source of income right now, I decided to listen to her strategy. She told me she needs an partner/investor. The amount of money that she needs to improve her business is about 3% of what I currently have saved. (Money that I don't mind losing if anything bad happens). She told me that once we started making a profit, the money would cover my initial investment.
In my drunken/high state, I told her that it was a great idea, but I kept thinking in the back of my mind that there was a silent transaction going on. Her pussy for my investment in her business.
I made up some shit excuse why I had to go home and this is what I've been thinking about the last 24 hours. In my mind I keep thinking that I have nothing to lose, but there's also the idea that you don't mix business and pleasure.
This whole situation makes me think that she only sees me as someone who could invest in her business and wants to lead me on sexually to achieve that goal. I overthink as well, so it is possible that this whole thing is in my head.
I need your thoughts guys.
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YourOwnDisaster 3y ago
You're in her frame and that's why it bothers you. This is your subconscious' way of trying to protect you. Don't mix business with pleasure.
therealjobenbruh 3y ago
Thanks for the prompt reply. I understand. Normally I am the one that's 100% in control of my own life. Maybe its better pursuing someone else. I'll consider her offer, but I'll leave it strictly business.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
She can go to a bank to borrow money. She needs a man to scam money from. That's why there was no sex, she had you over when her mom was home, and went into her bedroom so her mom doesn't hear her scamming men.
Now, here's why you never have a reciprocal relationship(bank) when a communal relationship(dating) is what's appropriate. It causes all kinds of problems. It's HER business, not OUR business. You have no say in the business, yet you're the biggest investor. You get none of the profits(not even interest) and all of the liability.
Go set up an account on TDAmeritrade and take all their classes. If you have a good chunk of money saved up that's your best investment option. I make more trading stock options with as much as you'd need to make a down payment on a house, than you'd make on a house. I just rent a house and it costs less than I make so I just roll the surplus back into my account and make more. The landlord pays all the taxes and all the maintenance and has his money tied up. I don't even have to work more than 15min 3 days/wk.