It seems to me that a lot of guys(mostly) and girls are spreading misinformation about me behind my back in certain circles.
I don't engage in gossips but men (mostly) will talk shit about some person when I am around and will then go to that same person and say that I talked shit about them.
I don't get it. Women I can understand. It's in their nature and the gossips they spread about me works great for me (mostly). But I just don't understand men spreading rumours about me.
How do i combat this?
I can disengage from this retardation but not on all fronts as I still have to be acquainted with some of these men.
Calista 1y ago
I won't pay attention to them. They only look at my mistakes and don't recognize my efforts. So I always believe in myself. smash karts gave me faith in life.
realfactors 1y ago
Dealing with rumors and misinformation can be challenging, but there are a few strategies you can consider:
Maintain your integrity: Continue to be yourself and act in a manner that aligns with your values. Consistently demonstrating integrity can help counter false rumors over time.
Confront the issue: If you feel comfortable, you can address the rumors directly with the individuals involved. Share your side of the story calmly and assertively, and seek clarification or resolution.
Surround yourself with supportive people: Build strong relationships with individuals who know and understand you well. Their support can help counteract the impact of false rumors and provide a positive network.
Focus on personal growth and achievements: Invest your energy in personal development, pursuing your goals, and achieving success in areas that matter to you. Let your actions speak for themselves and create a positive reputation.
Seek guidance and support: Consider speaking to a trusted friend, mentor, or counselor who can provide guidance and help you navigate the situation more effectively.
Remember, it's important to rise above negativity, maintain your dignity, and focus on your own well-being. Ultimately, your actions and character will speak louder than any rumors or misinformation. Also go through this page for a young girl story. https://www.aroundrobin.com/fannie-lou-hamer/
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
If it's true, then accept it. If it's a lie, then it can't hurt you.
Lone_Ranger 2 1y ago
You don't. Never deny, never apologise. Move on and dont' look back.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Has happened to me. Just bounce away from.the groups.
Act like it doesn't bother you (even if it fills you with seething rage), pretend like whatever they said isn't true (usually it's not true) and keep distant.
Associate with better people in the meantime. The people that always cared about you will rise to the top and the ones that didn't will fall out of your life.
These situations used to bother the shit out of me but now I just use situations like these to spring clean my friend groups like it's a blessing in disguise
If it's truly out of necessity they will also come to you too
They do it out of jealousy and insecurity. If they can't beat you at you being awesome they try to get you out of the way. It's the low value male copout
White knights and chumps always have ammunition on sexually successful men and it's a target-rich environment for rumors. They can hide their own lack of success off the backs of distorting your conquests and achievements , so that's why they start rumors on you
Edit: obviously if people you care about ask what the truth is tell them, but running a campaign to argue your case by going out of your way to do so doesn't work. Have tried it, it's nothing but exhausting.
SSeuSS 1y ago
One thing to note, these people can influence other more valuable people to stay away as well, valuable people wouldn't tie with gossiper but might avoid everyone altogether.
The only way is to collect compromising hard data on everyone and use it when the time comes, not in person. Look at presidential campaign - and dirt that comes up in newspapers but not from opposition directly.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
I've actually made decisions to break away from men for running other men's name through the mud in my presence, particularly sexual success. As soon as I hear other guys start spreading and ripping on achievements I start staying away because I know I'm next if I stay.
This is true, especially if people tell you a lot. I'm one of those people that people will just flap their secrets to for seemingly no reason. A lot of people would be completely retarded to stab me in the back.
I actually recently made the decision to start saying very little of my life to people while also letting them tell me anything and everything partly for the reason you mentioned. It's advantageous
WokeDown 1y ago
Guys do this way too often and it's everywhere.
There's not much you can do about it other than to spite the biggest offenders when you get a chance and see who they're aiming the misinfo at. Damage control should be surgical but it's better to be non-reactive than to expend too much effort in shit that doesn't matter. Don't be afraid to play dirty.
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Bozza 1y ago
This seems like a good time to refer to Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power:
As the saying goes - any PR is good PR. It's better to have people talking about you than ignoring you. Although some reputation management is prudent:
Ignore the majority of asinine smack talk - the attention serves you well and the spreader shoots themselves in the foot by broadcasting their own insecurity.
Any smack talk that could seriously damage your reputation must be dealt with. You must undermine the validity of the claims or the character of the person spreading them. But you must remain stoic and not break frame whilst doing so.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Look up Cuttlefish. They pretend to be females to get an opportunity to mate. That's what's going on. "Look girls I'm one of you. Let's gossip! Oh that guy over there? He's probably gay. That other guy? He's not relationship material"