The Captive Audience
Where do you meet women? It's almost more important than talking about what to do when you do meet a woman. What good is game if you can't even get an introduction?
The new world of online dating apps have subjected women to an onslaught of infinite peen with little to no effort aside from a swipe left or right. New apps bring new tricks and gimmicks to subvert the problem that abundance creates: In a world of infinite choices, no choice is the best choice. And women demonstrate this fact thoroughly- in person and online. What need does a hot "asset" have for any of you when she has thousands of followers on her instagram that drool every time she takes a cleavage selfie? What could any of you possibly offer her that all you don't collectively already give her?
Well, of course in the spirit of human connection and intimacy, this online facsimile of a social life will only bring a woman so far. While it clouds her judgment and prevents her from making good, solid decisions, it will not bring her any long-term happiness and she is acutely aware of this. Like the fat person eating junk food, he knows it will make him fatter, but he cannot resist the empty calories of sugar and carbs.
Though all of this is ultimately a numbers game, there are ways to put your thumb on the scale in your favor by getting ahead of the trends and thinking smarter, not harder.
The online opener gambit is really only effective if you’ve got top tier looks and fitness. A picture of you shirtless will clean up better than any quip or clever one-liner ever could. But since this sub is about strategy, let’s assume that you are already working on appearances and you’re ready for the next step. How do you separate yourself from the other chodes on the online meat market?
The only winning move is not to play. Your real avenue to success lies in a topic rarely discussed on TheRedPill:
Building rapport via captive audience
Before anybody gets their panties in a twist, I am not suggesting that you kidnap women and keep them in your basement. Though you might be considering dark triad’s Stockholm play based on the title of this essay, I do not recommend it as becoming a fugitive for pussy is hardly worth the price of admission. (I joke, but seriously, don't do this)
Getting a captive audience is the key to lowering the barriers of women around you. It offers an excuse for interaction and their participation in rapport building, and allows you extra time to work your charm that you wouldn’t normally get with a one-liner at a club or a sassy bio on tinder.
What is a captive audience?
A captive audience is a unique social environment in which interaction is not only expected but potentially required by norm or rule. The hallmark of a captive audience is that you have implicit permission to interact and a longer window for which the interaction can take place.
Because of this extended exposure time, you are much more likely to build rapport and ultimately utilize your entire toolkit to attract a mate. Whereas a club or online requires a very strong opener and immediate sexual attraction, longer exposures with fewer expectations allows you to use humor, game, and charm to build the same types of attraction to lower a woman’s barrier, without relying as heavily on looks.
Women keep the barrier up, even against men they would potentially end up with, as a means to sort out the weak and unworthy. It is on men to be creative on how to bypass the barrier. Obviously, immediate physicality is quickest way to lower the barrier, but as many here can attest, regardless of strength, not everybody was blessed with the best genes or most fortunate mug.
What are some good examples of captive audiences that you can exploit?
Coworkers
The first, most obvious captive audience is your job or workplace. One of the most common places couples meet is work. Depending on the type of job, you may spend hours a day with some hot potentials, opening the door to working your charm, and building rapport over the course of days, or even weeks. Be careful about not going too slow with this captive audience. Women like new things. You can talk yourself out of sale just as easily as talking yourself into one.
While the work environment gives you the most breathing room, you must maintain some level of sexual pretense to your interactions from a very early stage to prevent lack of interest. You must also be very careful not to cross into sexual harassment territory. Keep your jokes light but intriguing and remain overtly un-sexual until she agrees to drinks off the clock.
Customers
The next one is probably my favorite type of captive audience because it brings you a new, fresh selection on a regular basis: Flirting with your customers. Be it a bartending job, get a gig as a DJ or bouncer, or even a waiter at a restaurant, if you’ve got charisma, then you’ve got approximately an hour window to work your magic on a never ending river of pussy.
It’s a smaller window but the time-constraint ensures you take more risks and the downsides to a crash and burn are much smaller, as there will be a new selection in minutes. Be charismatic and charming when interacting with customers. If for no other reason than to get social skills practice. These environments are best when you keep it light and silly, but also allows you to introduce overt sexual tones to the conversation early.
Bartending is my favorite because you can title drinks with dirty names as an opener for overt sexual talk. Most women with at least one drink in them will engage in that conversation. They may work the room but ultimately you’re going to be the man they talk to the most. And what’s best is while they’re giving every other dude the cold shoulder, they’re giving you express permission to flirt with them as you expertly craft their drink.
Bartending gets RedPillSchool’s stamp of approval as the best captive audience of all time.
Friends/Parties
Over the years I’ve been to and hosted a number of house parties and I’ve come to a conclusion. Unless you’re extremely popular or outgoing, going to somebody else’s party is a crapshoot for getting laid.
However, hosting your own party is a different game entirely. The massive fucking social proof of having tons of people in your place at a party you’re hosting is an unbelievable aphrodisiac. As long as your party isn’t a total sausage fest, and you’ve got 15+ people and good music, you are going to clean up hard.
Women at parties are just as good at cold shouldering as any other social gathering. But as the host, you are in a unique position to not only talk to everybody who enters your house, but to offer hospitality and demonstrate your charisma. When new guests arrive, introduce yourself. Hug everyone who comes in. Introduce physicality early, and walk new guests to the drinks and pour something for you and the new guests to enjoy together as a way of welcoming them. They will feel instantly at home, and now you’ve got a leg up on conversation with the new guests before they’ve had a chance to mingle.
The party is a great way to speed-run building rapport, because as people mingle and bump into each other in different rooms at different times with different people and music, it feels like more time has passed and familiarity seems to increase quicker when changes of scenery occur. Very strong bonds with both women and men can be created at a decent house party. Use these tips to your advantage.
Conclusion
These are just a small handful of captive audiences that you can exploit. But this list is not exhaustive. There are plenty of other places to meet people: school, classes, volunteer programs, festivals, hobby groups, exercise groups, etc. Use your imagination and play to your strengths when deciding how you can best utilize a captive audience. Throwing a house party might not be in the cards for you if you’re new in a city with very few friends. But if you decide to bar tend for a few months, you can likely work that friends list up considerably.
If you're still in highschool, now is your opportunity to start approaching. Do it while you have the time. Your network will serve you for years to come, long after highschool is over.
What are some other captive audiences you can think of? What strengths do they serve best? Discuss.
Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
Playing in bands. After a gig, you can mingle with people who came to watch you play. Also, the backstage area can be used for inviting girls, or mingle with other bands. If you want to make sure there are girls backstage, you can invite a band that has girls in it to do a warm-up set (if it's your concert).
Also, pretty much any spare time activity that has women in it who you'll meet regularly. Brass bands, mixed choirs, volunteer work etc. Basically the same as a work environment, but with slightly looser rules of engagement.
MentORPHEUS Senior Endorsed 1y ago
Great article! My main caveat from hard experience: If you throw a house party, you have to put EVERYTHING under lock and key. Lock all bedroom doors, and clear everything of value out of drawers etc in all common areas, especially the bathroom. People will pilfer you blind, and hook up in your bed. Also beware of malevolent party crashers who cruise around looking for parties to invite themselves into and exploit.
As for waiter and bartender jobs, they're great to use existing or hone budding social skills. True, one can really clean up with hookups. But if a quality LTR is your personal goal, this can also pigeonhole you as "just" a waiter/bartender in prospects' minds. Having this as a part time side gig while in college or working a more prestigious main gig helps balance it as all feature/no flaw. I would posit that someone with the social chops to clean up in just tips can slay socially in any environment. A bartending/waiting gig will work like fast track college for developing and honing these social skills.
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JamesSkepp 1y ago
Use your position to "boss" customers around (wait your turn, theres a line, make them repeat the order so they have to exert unneccesary emotions/expressions). Make it fun, but also make sure to convey you're above them in the foodchain. Don't abuse this to impress girls. Don't EVER do this to "special" guests (VIP areas, dropped 1k on table, brought 5 girls with him, bday person+guests, etc)
Be aware that if you go into bartending as a job, it's going to be a real job. Lots of opportunities, but you can't leave with her when she leaves. Find a good spot, preferably as high end club as you can get into (your looks have to be on point, lifting isn't most important, fashion, hair, presence etc - is). You work first or get fired, set day2's for later. You lose sleep and a lot of it, but the rewards are high if you can manage the lifestyle.
Source: been in a nightclub once.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
My panties got in a twist, post became completely unreadable after that 1/10 post.
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Good shit, well-written and well explained. A lot of guys are bottlenecking themselves into situations where they are not effectively meeting women, and even when they do, not using the right skill set to keep attention.
Captive audience is definitely important. I've met women I probably could have succeeded with based on IOIs and didn't go out of my way to sustain their attention to my detriment.
Captive audience is a powerful term. Perhaps a part two follow-up post on techniques to sustain an audience itself?
Overkill_Engine 2 1y ago
Under the Customers category, it may sound like a bad porn plot, but I know of a guy that worked for Schwan's delivery that basically swam in pussy. So if morals and potential angry husbands are not a barrier to one's libido, then working that sort of gig puts one in frequent contact with women who are already alone at a location where fucking can easily occur, their house.
Edit: He also to my knowledge did a stint as a bartender and as a car lot salesman. Dude kept having to swap jobs because his dick would get him into trouble. But he did get laid a lot.
adam-l Senior Endorsed 1y ago
Great post.
We've pretty mach all been doing it, now we have a name for it, and a generalized theory.
Regarding coworkers: ifbyou decide to flirt at work, you usually need to do it covertly. That's for two reasons: First, by having her overtly flirt with you, she becomes a target and now needs to flirt with the other guys too. They've seen her drip her bitch shield, and now she has to indulge them too, or they may become hostile. Second, you become a target. Other female coworkers may become bitchy if you don't indulge them.
RedPirate751 1y ago
This is the good shit! I'd add to be careful at work in this day and age, because sadly even the most normal interactions have been somewhat tainted by overzealous HR departments and bitchy employees looking for attention/a payout. Note that this warning pertains to coworkers, not the other situations like bartending!
A few more examples of captive audiences:
TRPDuryodhana 1y ago
Solid post. A blueprint that will give results for most men, most of the time.