I'm going to disagree. This is a bit on the side of pedestalization or a lack of true confidence. I was married, I am divorced. It was a mistake and made me realize that I wanted, needed and deserved better. My parents are on their last few years of life and I've had medical issues that could cause me to pass away at any time. When you're staring into the void you realize that nobody has as much time as they want.

"She's a few steps below me" sounds like you've capped your value in the dating market. It also sounds like settling.

I go after what I want. Fuck this bullshit about leagues or a numbering system. I don't give a shit. I shoot my shot. I get the girls I want. I get the sex I want and they live up to my standards or get booted off my ship.

After my divorce I had no idea what type of women I could pull. I was overweight, homeless, jobless. I had a motorcycle and a few changes of clothes. All I cared about was my freedom and now having potential again. Fuck it, I was going to go after what I wanted. Freedom was sweet. You know what happened? I got to taste all 31 flavors my guy. Rich women, models, basic bitches, every race, chunky chicks and fit women. Also....3somes! I did better than I ever dreamed of. It was simply because I knew what I wanted, didn't think of my shortcomings, and went after that.

Save taking action on the “I can do better” for your career and other aspects of your life.

This is a defeatist attitude. I suggest to anyone reading this that following this advice will lead to dissatisfaction in the long term.

You could simply have posted "select for behaviours, not hawtness"

The guys that I know that really run into issues with women (divorce rape etc) all got there because they selected for hawtness. They married dumb, hot, sexy, entitled, retarded sluts, just because they were 'hawt'.

Most men make this mistake. They simply select the hawtest chick that their they can afford, and then act all but hurt when it pans out the way it was always going to work. Men learn this too late.

"if you are trying to date up as a man".... what are you talking about? Do you mean on looks? This is pretty dumb.

I agree with nearly every thing you say though. My advice would be that you really have to select for character, and forget about all other considerations. And also, make sure you meet the family and know the family. Watch out for any signs of trauma. What are her relations with her parents like. Does she behave like an adult?

Good shit in my opinion

This is a good idea is general. A woman HAS to be able to look up to her man. That’s why orbiting is such a losing strategy.

Dating up isn't really an option for the American man.

Why? Because American women are useless dumpster sluts.

In my moderate experience, American women have been allowed to be the worst versions of women because men have set the bar at "give me vagina please" - something that doesn't happen in most of the world. Moreover, American men are - by global standards - the most achieving demographic of men in the world. Those two factors make it damn near impossible to find a woman above us in the areas that women care about.

Just remember: treat them like the trash they are, or they'll leave you for the man that does.

Save taking action on the “I can do better” for your career and other aspects of your life.

I wish someone told me this when I was younger.

In America she would have NEVER even given me the time of day

Same thing with all of the women in my life. We also have to keep in mind that it's not that pussy is undervalued everywhere else in the world, it's that pussy's value is overinflated in the USA. I'm not even talking about Latin America, Eastern Europe or Asia right now; even Western Europe is much better in these regards than the US.

and could have delivered her to the promise land

which would've been a fatal mistake, because she would be poisoned and totally ruined by the american breed of feminism

This is Good advice. A viable high probability strategy. It's really a shame what a large segment of American men have permitted. Must have a great attitude as well.

The point is to be so on-point with your life that you don't have to pretend.

Girls who have high SMV obviously have more options. Your best bet is to be SO UNDENIABLY GREAT that you dominate any lane you throw yourself into. You have the power to control your life. You dictate how much effort you put into your craft/career/finance/social skills etc.

Thats what generates high self esteem dude. Do it for yourself.

agree with much of what you say.

My girl is (adjusting for age of course), face 6, body 7 or 8, I'm probably an 8 in both. She tells me that I could get pretty much any girl I want.

Generally a girl just just below your SMV is best for LTR. I mean, we all know you can get girls above your SMV, if you have $$. They are with you because of the $$ though.

Myself, I want a girl who desires "me", not what I have. Now, I know what I have is always part of that variable. But an example is , I don't show that I have money, I don't spend money on them, I don't have fancy cars, I "act" like I don't have much. I don't even have a house, I rent an apartment, or did before I moved into my LTR girls house. She didn't know what I had, until after.

For me, I wanted her to earn it, I wanted her to want me , not what I have or the lifestyle I could give her,etc. I want her to desire to keep me happy.

The girl I have, gets it. She wants to keep my belly full and balls empty to put it simply and she's good at it.

I still don't share purchases with her, what's hers is hers, what is mine is mine. She knows I have a lot more than her and she also was told, she's not getting it. My boys are, unless I spend it all first.

For me, this works.