When I was a younger boy I used to get up for school with my family. My father was seriously and obviously unhappy. He was so stressed to go to work that he would cough and gag. We would hear him this up. We would laugh.
My brother and I found this hilarious. I still get a chuckle out of the sheer ridiculousness. My brother and I used to wonder why somebody would endure that sort of gagging and wretching everyday?
The more I think about it the more it's not funny, it's rather sad. My father, got up everyday to do something he hates and was miserable just to provide for the family. As young kids we didn't see his sacrifice, all we saw was his misery. This gave us a laugh instead of feeling sorry for him or trying to prop him up.
I say this, because as humans, we like to put a weight or value to our suffering and misery. Suffering and misery aren't things you get a merit badge or medal for. There's no Gain from this.
No one wants to join you in your misery. They have their own trials and tribulations. No one wants to give you a shoulder to cry on without getting something else in return. Misery doesn't actually love company, misery gets ignored or avoided.
When I see guys come on here they carry on. They talk about how miserable their lives are and how much they suffer. I have to point out that they are spinning their wheels. Other men cannot help you with kudos or props for your misery. We can help you with your mind frame and your actions.
Most people will protect their victim mentality and their right to be miserable as medal of honor. They will defend it. As long as you defend your own misery, you're going to stay stuck in it.
After 5 or 6 years of watching my dad throw up and dry heave every morning, he finally took the leap, quit his job and replaced it with another one with higher prestige more pay and a better work life balance. I saw him as a new and better man from there. The stress and suffering got him nowhere and his own sons would laugh at him for it. We were kids but we saw the futility and absurdity and him staying with something that made him so miserable.
If your job sucks, look for something else. If your girlfriend isn't making you happy, leave. If being single is miserable, work on your game and frame. There is no virtue in suffering.
Baron 1w ago
Misery does in fact surely love company, source: Lives in a country where 95% of the population are literally overly emotional and miserably neurotic little bitches and they're definitely in fact hilariously mentally ill as well who literally seethe over you sneezing twice on the bus and spergingly stare overemotionally with impotent rage like schizos like you relentlessly fucked their daughter (which I did anyway) like a ragdoll. You have people miserably seething on the comment section about the country and politics and other misers patting them on the back. Same old carousel of misery and nothing will change. But what matters is... what you do.
Musicgoon78 2 1w ago
Cool story bruh. Sounds ????
EurasianChad 1 1w ago
Agreed. Certain suffering does increase your mental discipline & willpower though, like powering through a heavy leg session. Of course, companies will exploit you for your hard work with minimum return, so best to do it for something that benefits you moving forward.
Great post great read
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
Good shit as usual
MrSupreme 1w ago
Knowing you get nothing is part of the suffering.Only knowledge of self/others is the grand prize. Gotta make sure to internalize and always be on a learning mindset.