They talk a lot about the 3 second rule, where a woman (or man) will know within those 3 seconds if they want to sleep with you, and I think in general, there is a lot of truth in it. Of course, there are exceptions to the cause, some may grow to like you, some might even go the other way once they realise you'll never be walked over, but overall we are animals, and women (married or not) will show interest.
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You get stared a lot. It could even be from bitter men, but if you get stared at wherever you go. Unless you see a lot of hostile behavior, or smirking/laughing in your face etc, chances are you are attractive.
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Do women do weird things in front of you? They linger about you or sit next/close to you on public transport, especially when they didn't need to.
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Strangers find a way of talking to you. Tourists in your town wanting to know the way? Women as you wait for the train (that is late) find a way of starting up a conversation. Airport bar, ''can I sit here?" etc. Any sort of situation you are in public alone, and find strangers, especially (hopefully) women talking to you, there's a reason ; you at least look trustworthy and likeable. Even if you aren't beautiful, you play your cards right, you can be in there.
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Children, dogs and old people will talk or stare at you. Hate to put them all in the same bracket, but if you are sane (you are not going to want to fuck any of them), but if you find dogs wagging their tail or even just looking at you, kids staring or old people even complementing you, you are attractive.
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Guys will pull their girls in closer. You might even be minding your own business but nervy, insecure guys will start kissing, hugging, grab on to their girl even if you are walking the other direction. I have no idea why they do this, if they think it shows you ''she's mine,'' etc, some guys will just start acting strange in front of you, mate guarding etc.
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Some people will try to shit on you from the get go or even worse, hate you. 90% of the time it'll be insecure, weak, men ; but you'll meet (thankfully a minority) of people who for some reason or not, just hate you. If you have any crippling insecurity, depression, imposter syndrome, don't ever go the route. It's them. Just look at all the other interactions. Some people will just not like you, be it jealous men ; or women who know they can't compete to get you.
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Women touch you. I took a flight a few days ago. All I needed to do was show my boarding pass via the phone, yet for some reason the airline worker touched my hand 4 times, made eye contact, ''have a pleasant flight,''. She had no reason to, reached out to get my phone/passport and somehow touched it all. When I handed it from a angle where she had no need to touch. You'll know what I mean. Or just overly touching especially shoulders etc.
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Mean mugging. It's not all smooth sailing. You could be patting every dog you see, kids even saying Hi to you, women smirking or flirting, yet you'll eventually meet a prick, who either frowns, mean mugs, or is even aggressive to you (you gotta watch out especially if they are liquored up) just smile or try to diffuse the situation. Often these GUYS (and 95% of the time, it's men) were once the KING of whatever rural backwater they hail from, yet they've let themselves go, and somehow don't like your vibe. Do martial arts or lift weights, I'd recommend boxing the most, you'll learn so much about yourself (and others there, most are great, welcoming people, and no good boxing gym coach will force you to spar or get in the ring) if not, lift some weights, you'll feel better and natty (it takes time) you'll get bigger and in time, you'll find no one will want to fuck with you.
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People respect you/want your time. They'll ask your advice. They'll talk too much, but they'll want to be around you.
- Women will seek you out. They'll sit close to you in a cafe, bus, or social situation. If they are drunk, they'll touch you, talk to you, either be incredibly nice or play hard to get it, but they'll be close or be around you. They won't stop touching you especially if they are drunk!
mattyanon Admin 1d ago
1 - stared at - true
2 - hard to tell. this one is impossible to read because you have no baseline for comparison
3 - tricky because so contextual. what's normal and what's trying to talk to you?
4 - what the fuck
5...
6...
rest of it, what the fuck
derdeutscher 4d ago
Yes but it is also dependant on inner state. Physically and face-wise I look very attractive yet on some days I am ignored from women, and on some days I have women coming up to me saying they hope their kids have eyes like mine.
My looks dont change..but inner state does.
What seems to make the difference is: no ejaculating all the time (1-2 times a week is optimal for me) and caffeine intake. Enough caffeine and I become tense and not attractive.
I agree 100% on jealous/insecure guys, it is also one of the main reason I stopped going out. I get picked on too often, and fact that I have tons of muscles and generally mean look does not stop drunk guy at 2am. I did knocked a few guys out, but I am just tired of it. And I have a job where I need very high security clearance and any trouble with law will leave me jobless.
slowlylearning1 3d ago
Great point.
I agree. There are days where it doesn't go your way, be it you are tired, tense, depressed, over stimulated or even just not in the mood. The ejaculating thing is really interesting, I think no fap is most likely silly but once/twice a week is something similar to me, and if I watch porn I limit it to 15 minutes.
The inner state thing is really good. Even if a girl blows you out and it was going well until that point. Some women just like attention, yet if you have low confidence in yourself, the ability to write off bad experiences is so huge, and once you get to this stage, you have basically won. That smoke show that turned out to be a tease or even rejected you ; just move on. More, better women and brighter days are ahead. I think if you are a naturally depressive, neurodiverse, or suffered from body dismorphia, you end up mulling over all the mistakes, missed chances and rejections.
Jealous guys are an issue. I don't go out often, but if someone is off or weird around you from the get go, or often your gut doesn't lie, best thing is to remove yourself. Knowing even basic self defence is great though, and keeping fit.
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Tunyacsap 3d ago
This is accurate . Have experienced these except 3 4 6 8
MrSupreme 3d ago
I experienced something weird when becoming a better version of me. When i was really fat, i often got compliments from girls, specially when i was with a gf,sometimes stared at by other men too. When I thinned out and became more active,muscular,groomed and with 200% more self esteem and confidence, nothing bro, no compliments,no nothing.Maybe a look here and there.More respect from other men but most(99.8%) of it was jealous guys that talked shit behind my back because they couldn't be mean to my face.
I found that some validation based on looks is very nice to have, but you gotta be confident and just KNOW you're looking your best,you're looking great and rocking your look,even if it is a silly mustache you think is cool.