I added this girl on Facebook a few weeks ago because I knew her from Middle School and kept seeing her pop up on my suggested friends.
Saw her at her work a couple weeks ago, didn't say anything but I think she saw me.
Few days ago I'm swiping on Tinder and come across her profile. Too my surprise she already swiped right on me and we matched.
Friday I message her on there a few hours before going to the bar, no reply but I just said her name in full caps.
Anyway I'm at the bar order myself a couple beers, I noticed she's there talking to some dude I assume he's a tinder date.
After feeling a little buzzed and a lot more comfortable I go sit at a table by the dance floor listening to the live band that's playing. I'm just vibe' by myself, tapping my feet and bobbin my head and singing.
People start to dance and the girl brings him to dance but he chickens out and goes back to his friend.
I go over to him and I'm like dude, go fucking dance with her. So he does, His friend fists bumps me and says he couldn't get him to do it. It felt great supporting a brother, even though I desire her.
After a couple songs she comes over to me, shakes my hand asks how I'm doing. Also mentions that I'm mysterious.
She leaves and a little while later comes back and says "You're boring me" and I say fuck you in a playful way and leaves again. Like we weren't even interacting and she expects me to entertain her?
After that I go to the bathroom trying to make my way through the crowd. She's in the way and I get by gently pushing her aside to let her know I need her to move.
She follows me to the bathroom, maybe she thought I was trying to get her to follow me when I did that. So I'm like what's up and she asks if I'm going to the bathroom and I mess with her a little bit.
A little while later she's sitting at the bar and I ask her who she was with and she said "I'm not out with anybody" said with a smirk. I also ask who she just got off the phone with whatever.
I should have just had a conversation with her but instead I took her hand, looked confidently in her eyes and she asks if I'm in a relationship, probably because she stalked my Facebook. I lean in close and see if she's open to kissing me. This was a big fucking no-no but It wasn't awkward or anything it was just not the right time. She gets up to leave and says something like stay safe out there.
Obviously I shouldn't have been so easy after playing like I didn't give a fuck about her.
She walks past me a while later and flicks my hat up. Then I go fuck my first chick on Tinder.
It feels great finally being able to go out and enjoy myself alone. There were a few other good interactions that night but I wanted to understand this situation better. Thanks for reading.
mattyanon Admin 3d ago
shit test
she's trying to reel you in and trying to get you to compete with other guys and lead you on.
fuck that shit.
preach 3d ago
Of all the shit tests that women do, the "you're boring me" line is probably the lowest effort one I've ever dealt with. Anytime I've heard that in the past, I give back exactly what they threw out usually responding either with "I'm happy with it", or I just walk off not even dignifying it with a response. It's expected we're all going to be shit tested by women but the ones that put in the absolute lowest level of effort? It's a good indicator that they won't put in effort elsewhere either, like being overly clingy, starfish sex, etc.
ZCH8 3d ago
Yeah I'm not trying to compete... for her.
First-light 3d ago
I think she was just riding her powers of attraction and loving it. She would like you to orbit. Who knows if there could be more? She wasn't ruling out the possibility but wasn't thinking of that then though, its no kisses, just orbiting that were on offer from the hotness goddess (as she would like to be) this time.
The hat flick is "Look notice me"