You're bullshitting yourself. Even if they aren't great, you can practice.

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If women aren't behaviorally feminine, to me they can never be a 7 or 8. When I see an otherwise attractive woman with masculine posture and movements, with a self-importance about them, I lose attraction. An unfeminine woman is automatically sub-5 to me.

And on your last point.

You know there's more Asian chicks than the one at the jewelry store right?

Off the top of my head. Any Asian activity interest group (go,kendo,anime,ping pong Asian arts, etc), boba tea places, WORKING AT PHARMACIES (I have no idea why), hair salons, nail salons.

A lot of the nice feminine Asian women that you are saying you are into will be fucking terrified of RP approaches though. Anything that whiffs of "kino escalation ladder" or "sexualized conversation" will send them running the other way. It's a very very very different game. Try to read up on it somewhere.

It is either the anger phase or club game isn't your thing. Try day game, the girls won't be going full retard with make up.

Quite a while ago, I pretty much defeated approach anxiety. I still hamster about approaching girls who really catch my eye though. Just can't seem to justify walking into a jewelry store and asking out a cashier.

I think this should be a topic in-itself. There's a difference between hamstering yourself not to talk to a girl and simply not knowing how to ask out particular girls e.g. waitresses and cashiers.

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''I just find other women to be fucking disgusting''

maybe your gay man

Read Day Bang by Roosh and stop going to the clubs. You are seeing the bitch shields in full extension. Go out during the day instead- and don't scare the cat.

My best week I hooked up with 4 girls in 8 days. That was followed by a couple weeks of not even wanting to talk to a girl.

I don't really see what you are saying as a problem? I mean life can't be about girls all the time..

If you don't want it don't pursue it. I fail to see the problem.

This apathy is common. It arises, from giving it up too easy.

Make a bitch work for it man. Let them come to YOU. Don't give it up so easy. Make them jump through some hoops.

1) Unless you really care about SNL's, there's not much point approaching in clubs. Not only do you have to compete with all the other dudes, but you also have to deal with cockblocking friends and shitty logistics.

2)

Hey there. I don't want to dance with you, but I'd be OK if you sucked me off or something.

Deliver this entirely deadpan while looking her in the eye confidently. Open enough girls and some of them would dig it.

3)

Just can't seem to justify walking into a jewelry store and asking out a cashier.

You haven't entirely thrown off the shackles of your social conditioning, then. You simply have to learn not to give a fuck. Become comfortable with approaching any time, any where.

Decent women don't go clubbing. Bad music, ugly women, extortionate alcohol, fat sweaty men starting fights. Clubbing is a fucking stupid culture unless your goal is to play STD roulette. Meet women through your personal activities and hobbies.

Switch environment. Some cities just plain suck. You can't pursue women you're not attracted to. You can't change them, so you'd have to change yourself to be attracted to them. This is your choice. Change your soul or change your place. Men used to wander. All animal males do it. Go into the unknown.

Fucking approach anxiety. I don't know what my deal is. Sometimes I can even tell that they are attracted to me, I still don't approach. I guess I can just vividly picture the approach going horribly and I associate the risk with humiliating attempts in the past. It's really the anxiety of knowing what to say. Most the time I only approach if I am really drunk, to mixed results. I have to drink myself stupid before I truly don't care how the interaction will go, and I've given myself an out because "you were too drunk, next time you won't be so drunk"

I need to just cave and use Tinder I guess.

If you've really defeated approach anxiety and your game is good then the obvious solution is to go looking in places where you are more likely to find girls who will be of interest to you.

Go to the library if you want to find girls who read, go to the gym if you want to find girls who are interested in fitness, join a sports club if you want to find a girl with hobbies etc.

It's getting to the point where the only thing I can realistically see myself doing is walking up to an Asian cashier at a girls' clothing store and saying "Hey, I know this is going to sound strange, but do you want to go have a coffee with me sometime?

Leave out the last part. I just find other women to be fucking disgusting. You will learn AWALT. It isn't a matter of how the women look, it is just after a while you figure out AWALT. Sometimes you run into a woman who is actually interesting to talk to, but the odds of that are 1/100.

Try and find other interests, something that is meaningful.

What you describe is actually just another side of the same coin of approach anxiety. What happened is that when you did more approaches, you didn't get the fulfillment out of it that you were looking for. So your brain has used another mechanism at its disposal: it made the whole endeavor unappealing. I saw this happen to a friend of mine who after some unsuccelful dating decided all women were horrible cunts not worthy of his respect. "If I can't have it I don't want it" is a common play your brain makes and you are seeing the perceptual changes that it causes.

Go out with friends, have fun. Date a woman and get the fun back in. You're overstressed on being excellent and you're ignoring the part that is about connecting and feeling good. This is a toughie but my best advice is to get some friends you can relate your experiences with so you can regain perspective.

This may sound a bit harsh but there is more to approaching than just overcoming your anxiety. It is a very complex skillset. When you have acquired this skillset and you walk into a club, the women will look like yummy little bunnies. So aside from finding the fun again, focus on improving your communication skills.

The grocery store, man, the grocery store. Especially the vegetable aisle, and especially women by themselves.

If they're at the market, they have money to burn because good food is expensive. This means they likely have gainful employment. This means they're more likely to have a moderately respectable worldview. Food is also a great ice breaker.

Now, I don't know for certain if this will work for you, but I have to think it's one of the simplest, least threatening (for her) venues that two people can meet in. Clubs are obviously leading you astray, so I think it's time to mix it up. Like other people have said, quality women don't frequent clubs, but they DO know how to cook.

Agreed though it hasn't been as bad around where I am. Near a campus, can't be helped that some of them want to be as hot as possible and let the feminists be feminists.

Going to the club to find a decent girl is like going to the bookstore to buy a kangaroo. You're fishing in the wrong pond bud!

A surprising number of former players make their way to MGTOW. That's my experience personally too. I had good success with women, but I kept trying to "shake the whore tree and expecting a wife to fall out". Soon I just realized that the investment of even a minimum amount of time wasn't worth it usually.

But yeah - a lot of MGTOW evolved that way from being successful players.

I've always been a strong proponent of day game. What's the worse that can happen? She rejects you and your life remains the same before you asked her. She's not going to be all "OK your approach failed. Call in the firing squad!". The additional benefit is that (at least for me) I find the general RMV quality higher when day-gaming compared to club-gaming, and you're going to also meet a larger variety of girls as compared to just one type in clubs.

That feeling of disgust is important and it's a modern-day man's life-preservation instinct to avoid drama and being financially fucked and emotionally sucked. Cherish it.

You're looking in the wrong place, man. You're not going to find anybody worthwhile in a club.

Not everyone is a club dude. You're learning that your lane is in day game. Stay in that lane and go for the gold.

dude i cant even think about women right now i am so disgusted with their shit

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