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Posted 3y ago in The Big Question - Permalink - Locked - 1.2K Views

'' Is a committed, serious relationship with Chad too much to ask for? Why does no Chad seem to want a relationship any more? I really hate the fact that Chad only pumps and dumps me. I have completely ruined my ability to paird bond because of the CC and my dating life is beyond repair.''

You're welcome.

Initial-Glove Wahmyns 3y ago

Stop hooking up and maybe a guy will take you seriously. Get some attributes.

And, oh yeah, get off Tinder.

thesun 3y ago

Almost 12 years ago I had a drinking problem.

I knew the consequences. My body was getting weaker and weaker. I was losing my mind. I kept drinking.

I always drank the strongest liquor I could get a hold of. I could have drank something light. I could have reduced the frequency of drinking. I kept drinking.

My friends and family would call me a drunk bum. They would openly insult me. I never said "stop alcoholic-shaming me!". I never said "just because you can't get booze you insult me, you are an involuntary teetotaler!". I kept drinking.

I knew what I was getting. I knew what came with the territory. I accepted it. And kept drinking.

I never once exclaimed "where is all the good booze!?". I could have had a glass of OJ instead. That choice was always there. But I chose to drink.

I never argued with the booze itself, yelling "why can't you be nice to me? why do you make me feel so bad after?!!". Neither did I tell others that there was freedom in drinking, because I knew I was enslaved to drinking. I kept drinking. I kept drinking.

It was always my choice. And I took everything that came with it.

If only...

Oddest-One-Here Jr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago

And if this was a question from a struggling single mother or a port-wall woman who has repeatedly failed to lock down Alpha-Bucks, the question translates as "Where are the Beta-Bucks who are supposed to be my back-up plan now I need a marriage bail-out so bad that I am willing to walk down the aisle with an unworthy guy I would have previously only used for foodie-calls or an emotional tampon a few years ago?"

Bonzai-Shaihulud 3y ago

This reminded me of a quote (I modified it a bit) : “God laughs at [wo]men who complain of the consequences while cherishing the causes.”

Jacques-Benigne Bossuet -

I can't believe that she hasn't encountered even one guy that would have wanted something serious with her, but I could totally trust the fact that she saw him or them as beneath her, or she "wasn't ready for a commitment", etc... Most guys are not into hookup culture, they just want to find someone up to the part to create something together, but more & more when they see that the game is rigged they don't bother to play anymore.

(As for me, I never got the chance to play, but being always rejected or even put on the sidelines of the game had a beneficial effect in the end : I don't care about "leagues" of attractiveness, if someone strikes my fancy I say it. Might as well getting a "no" from someone you find palatable than a broad supposed to be "at my level". If only I learned that 20 years ago...)

houseoftolstoy Unchivalrous Christian 3y ago

Those who complain about hookup culture are usually guilty of participating in it previously. I rarely see women who made a conscious effort to avoid the hookup scene complain about hookup culture.

If you have participated in hookup culture, you have little grounds for complaints because you have contributed to the problem. You can say you have "changed" and that you are "not that person anymore," but that has been said by so many women before with varying degrees of sincerity.

Often, women simply want to be able to instantly access the committed relationship circle right after "having their fun." They do not like having consequences of men rejecting commitment with them due to their past, so they will proclaim that they do not like hookup culture. The truth is that men who are commitment minded want a woman who is also commitment minded, and women who are promiscuous show themselves not to be such.

Maybe this woman is an exception. Who knows? But why does she keep only finding men who only want hookups and not committed relationships? This leads me to believe she is not an exception, but rather that she has no idea how to find a man who is commitment minded based on her habits of seeking traits that are "fun" and "exciting" (i.e. guys she would hookup with). If she uses the same selection criteria she did for hookups to seek a committed relationship, it is no wonder she is having these results. Again, all just speculation.

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We're just a bunch of clueless NiceGuys™ with kindness coins that don't seem to work in women's holes so that the sex we're "entitled to" falls out. Because apparently we weren't demonstrating good relationship material through the attention, respect and stability that women demand. We were only "pretending" to be nice just to get laid.

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Women in their 20s have numerous opportunities to date the decent men they claim to want, but many reject or friendzone these men for jerks and promiscuity. She takes advantage of a good dude's kindness for attention and favors, then accuses him of being a bad person who thinks he's entitled to sex.

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The reason women end up here is because their behavior is not exposed as the lucid, self-destructive, feminist ideology that it is. And we're here to help Good Men guard their commitment and resources by exposing women who would make poor life partners and mothers of their children. Providing observations and opinions on the posts here allows us to better understand women's psyche and later depressive/miserable state when they are not held to a moral standard required for healthy, functioning relationships.

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