Gentlemen,
Hopefully we all know by now that equality is a bullshit concept that doesn't exist. However, you probably also know that struhng indoopeindynt whamynZ contribute equally to a relationSHIT.
You may be wondering: how on God's green earth, can they ever delude themselves into thinking that they contribute equally to a relationship while also wanting to be taken care of?
It often comes down to a simple discrepancy in how we measure our contributions to the marriage.
About 10 years ago, I read the book - men are from Mars, women are from Venus. While I don't remember every last point, I do remember this one. Paraphrasing here.
Everyone subconsciously keeps score of their contributions and the contributions of their spouse. When things get too imbalanced, resentment may build.
Men and women have different ways of measuring their contributions. Men measure based on the bottom line, women measure based on the effort.
For example, if a man lands a massive deal that nets $50,000 - he will see this as 50,000 "points" for him. She will see it as only 1 point for him. Because he did only 1 thing, he made the sale. By the same token, she will view her doing the laundry, washing the dishes and making supper as 3 different things. **She will therefore see these contributions as more valuable to the marriage as his $50,000 sale. She will consider HERSELF as the one who did more for the marriage.
You may be scratching your head and spitting out your coffee right now. How in the world can she see her few simple tasks as more valuable when your $50,000 in a single sale is objectively more beneficial to the family???
You think this way because you're forgetting that:
Objectivity is a muh soggy knees stick tool of the patriarchy!!!
To her, the 15 tasks she did around the house feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelz more valuable than your 1 item of working all day. That's why she'll likely paint her contributions as this and that and the other and something else and and and and and...... while painting your contributions as a single thing or a few little things.
And now you know....
This is yet another reason why men are saying no thanks. Because men are sick of dealing with entitled, unappreciative cunts who have laundry lists of demands, who offer little to no value, who think they're the ones contributing more....
Good men are sick of such bullshit.
Cheers!
mattyanon TRP Endorsed 3y ago
It's worse than this.
She has 15 tasks, the man has one task: do job. That's literally one thing, he did that once. But she did 15 things today......... 16 if you count breathing, 17 if you count how long she sat around feeling unjustly overworked.
Job = 1 thing. Hence still doing it counts as nothing. This is prhased as obligation.... "yes, but that's your JOB...... what have you done for me recently???"
whytehorse2021 Jr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago
I'd like to frame this in a larger context of this social experiment we have been a part of for the past 50+ years. Women used to contribute heavily in a family. Washing clothes by hand for a family of four is a big chore. Sewing clothes could take up a chunk of time. Feeding, raising, and butchering chickens was a lot of work. Cooking over a wooden stove for a family is a chore. Milking the cows was often a woman's task. They had clearly defined roles and it complimented a man's roles.
Fast forward to today and none of that exists in modern societies. We made life too easy. Anyway, now that we've identified the problem, we can start to think about solutions. Obviously that would mean defining new roles for women in the household, if any. We don't really have to worry about paternity anymore with birth control and DNA testing so women could provide valuable income for the family by being prostitutes in their spare time or selling butthole pics on only fans.
mattyanon TRP Endorsed 3y ago
Yep.
Now it's only 2 children, washing machine, tumble dryer, dishwasher, and then the husband arrives home HE CAN DO HIS SHARE TOO, and "I'd have more energy for sex if we had a maid".
Loneliness-inc LvL 99 Rogue NiceGuy™ 3y ago
Edited to add - equal contribution - by the one and only - Colttaine
deeplydisturbed FDS Dinner Donor 3y ago
Good point my friend.
By now it should be blatantly clear to everyone on the planet that men and women see things very differently. One need not even take sides to accept this basic truth. Among the biggest differences between men and women, in my experience, is how each sex defines certain words.
For example:
These are just a few. And with so many VERY important ideas at stake, you would think we might sit and discuss these things. But that does not happen, because women also see the term "discuss" differently than men too.
whytehorse2021 Jr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago
I think it's worth elaborating on these for the uninitiated. Men earn respect, women are given respect as a default. "Respect women" is the mantra we all hear from the time we're born. Men use objective truth, women use subjective truth. Men are equals based on merit in a hierarchical system, women are equals based on membership in a collective system. I could go on but you get the point.
deeplydisturbed FDS Dinner Donor 3y ago
Good points all.
polishknight WAATGM Endorsed 3y ago
I half-agree with this. I do see how women fail to apply objective standards to relationships (they may get good grades in math but when it comes to figuring out that a continual 1/2 off sale at the store is no bargain, they get misty eyed.) I've had a similar debate with my wife in that I believe if I got something done that saved us $400, such as fixing the washing machine, I should relax the rest of my Saturday. She'll go crazy cleaning the home from top to bottom and yell at me for not helping. I point out to her that if she wants to just pay $80 for maid service, I'm on-board with that and then she said she doesn't want a stranger touching her stuff and I told her that it's now all on her.
I say 1/2 agree because if a man was doing these chores because he was temporarily unemployed while she was paying all the bills, I think we ALL know that she would quickly figure out that she's not the lazy one around the house for relaxing on Saturday. Feminism is now a century old science of female victimhood and entitlement that provides women with the mindset and tools to make demands of men while providing as little as possible in return. Sort of like how someone gets promoted in management. So don't be fooled! They KNOW at some level that they're full of BS about it and just hope that a red piller doesn't call them out on it.
For the record, I'm rather RELIEVED that women are now rejecting "nice guys" and "white knights" because this behavior created the problem in the first place as the sexual marketplace flooded young women with options even going back to my childhood in the 1970's. Back then, guys could roll the dice, hope she didn't divorce rape him for the fun of it, but usually this routine got them laid and married. No more and in some ways, that's a good thing. Entitlement queens got just enough rope to hang themselves with but the hangman is taking his time to arrive...
whytehorse2021 Jr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago
What you're describing is the blue pill for women. Women only reject nice guys during their hoe phase. Then they're all over these guys in their epiphany phase. The red pill for women is when they get rejected by those nice guys later on and they have an ever dwindling pool of men that can satisfy both sides of their sexual strategy.
So yeah it's a good thing women are rejecting nice guys and red pilling men because it only grows red pill awareness and keeps more resources for men and gives less to women. I wouldn't be surprised if the marriage rate approaches 0% one day and we have huge populations of single women and mothers.
polishknight WAATGM Endorsed 3y ago
I love the scene in the Soprano's episode Pine Barrens where Paulie and Chris get into an altercation with a Russian and take him out to dig his own grave. Paulie lectures the Russian: "We didn't intend to kill ya, but your attitude is why you're here. Take that as a lesson!"
It's hilarious because, like with life, if you only learn the lesson at the end you've lost. Life is cruel: We need to learn a lesson BEFORE the test sometimes because afterwards, there is no retaking some of them. Her youth is not something she can get back.
One of the few consolation prizes, like a case of Turtle Wax, for men is that we can waste time in our 20's and in our 30's, we still have time. Heck, Dolph Lundgren is engaged to a 24 year old beauty. I see lovely career women who are, IMO, far better than me in many ways but yet they're going to die alone, some even childless. That's why the turtle wins the race.