All of these men are well aware this woman is not one that values chastity, so they operate with this understanding. We can confirm that sex is most certainly not something very restrictive for her, as evidenced by her own story with failed attempts with relationship as well as the Friend with Benefits (especially the latter). This means she does not have the bargaining chip of sex being considered special in her court, so many men are going to see a commitment to such a woman as far too costly when they consider the cost of sex to be cheap with her. A woman who places no value in sexual restraint is more likely to cheat or initiate divorce since her past demonstrates the ease at which she goes from man to man. Even if they are not successful at getting said sex, they see the investment as not worth it.

I suspect that this woman is like many others who have relied far too heavily on her own sexuality to get ahead in the sexual marketplace. The problem that comes from this is that it only gets these women as far as sex can take them, and most often that is not far enough to get a committed relationship. Even worse, many of these women have nothing else to rely on to keep the interest of men, which is key to making a relationship work. Sex alone cannot maintain a relationship, as it is doomed to fail the moment that it no longer has the luster to keep a man interested.

Feminism can tell women all it wants that women can do as they please, but there is a price to be paid for being too promiscuous. That price is having men who are only interested in sex while the men interested in a lasting relationship staying far away from such women.

I smell a woman that tried withholding sex to gain compliance over men and it backfired. Now to save face, she rationalizes it as "men only want me for sex".

Her former FWB likely eventually did a cost/benefit analysis. Trying to be her 'friend' wasn't worth the 'benefit'. Her constant need for validation - aka attention whoring - either didn't come with a constant and consistent 'benefit' or he finally realized it wasn't worth it. Some guys will put up with this for a while; no one wants it as a full-time job without pay. Enough about me, what do you think of me? (and it better be all positive).

As far as all the other guys, here's the connection. Try to connect the dots. Talking with you frequently only makes them want to do it less. I'm sure your conversations aren't tedious and are frequently on subjects that actually interest them /s.

If you want someone who appears to value you as a person, just message/text back and forth with one of your girlfriends. You both can pretend to sympathize with each other while pumping each other up and shitting on any men who have had the misfortune to come into any extended contact with you.

You want to be treated as a 'human' or 'person'? Don't think you'd want to be treated as "one of the guys". Odds are you couldn't meet the personality threshold to be fully accepted and also your skin would be way too thin for the crude direct joking comments. On top of that you'd actually be expected to contribute once in a while; even something as simple as bringing the beer or buying a round would likely offend you.

Your edit/update doesn't improve your image. Looks like the one thing you may be good for you're not even following through with. Is it only Chad who gives you a wide on and gets to give your panty hamster a spin?
and/or are you implying you now want commitment before sex? If so, I want the name of your supplier because your dealer must be getting you some quality shit.

men only want sex from me

That's because there's nothing else you offer that interests them.

What follows is a juicy comment that will probably get censored. So here it is.

There is something wrong with you. Like it or not, plenty of women don't have this problem and plenty of women do. The ones that do will claim that men are "using them for sex" because they don't want to look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that they need to make some serious changes on how they go about things if they want to be viewed as someone worth being in a relationship with. There may be other things I can't think of off the top of my head but here are some things to think about.

1) Do you know how to compliment his life? Do you think you should be able to compliment his life?

2) Do you have an incessant need for attention and validation? So much so that you're willing to use others to get attention and validation from them?

3) Are you a pain in the ass?

4) When you hang out with his friends, do you blend in or are you the center of attention?

5) Do you have career goals that are realistic and that you're working towards.

6) Can you take care of yourself?

7) If your son (hypothetical situation) brought home a woman like yourself, would you be excited or concerned?

8) Do you respect yourself?

9) Are you able to be honest with yourself?

10) Are you willing to make compromises?

11) Are you willing to admit you're wrong?

12) Are you willing to get to know him?

Be mindful that if this comment in any way pisses you off or offends you, that is all the proof you need that you're someone not worth being in a relationship with.

All I want is to find someone who values me as a person

...and all of the dudes in my friendzone haven't been Chadly enough thusfar.

She goes out with many men. Some aren't Chad enough for her, so she doesn't smash. She is boring, or difficult to get along with, so these guys bounce.

Some are Chad enough for her to smash, and once they do, they only want her for easy fun. They have options and she is just one.

She wants a man with options, and then wonders why she's treated as optional.

The unifying theme about all these women I've met in my personal life that just get used for sex is they try to use their sexual appeal to attract men instead of enhancing their relationship value.

Men can spot a relationship quality girl like blood in the water to a shark even if he's not into her personally. A man can just as easily tell when a girl just gives party and fun vibes, and uses her as such accordingly because she's there and that's what she's putting forward as her "best foot" so to speak

Then they get confused like OP why men pump and dump them or only want them for consistent sex

High chances this girl never really came across as relationship material and thus was never really treated like a relationship kind of girl.

Something about her likely screams "RECREATIONAL USE ONLY" to these men, maybe she has tattoos or da nger hair or just has a bad attitude or demeanor. She is doing something to put herself in that category or she exclusively choosing fuckboys who aren't going to commit to anyone; either way she only has herself to blame as most men want relationships.

"at first they talk to me somewhat frequently and actually seem to be interested in me as a PERSON".

There you go. This is it. She wants validation just for existing. She craves it like a junkie craves drugs. Nearly all young women want you to be 'amazed' at them just for them being who they are. Listen carefully to their psycho-babble ..... being the best version of themselves .... actualising their authentic selves .... being true to themselves.... knowing their value....

This is all fem-talk for the idea that women are just amazing if they just sit there. Men are the ones that need to do things, to have ambition and we can then judge them by their achievements (money is the scorecard to judge if their achievements are valid).

The reason why men only want sex from this women is because its all she has to offer.

Weird, my wife doesn't have that problem. Oh well, it must be the men...

Note how she refers to her former lover:

Also, one of my previous posts mentions a FWB that I am no longer in contact with. Although, I still have feelings for him because he and I have a lot of history, I'm not in contact with him or sleeping with him. My intention is to move on and find someone who values me because he obviously doesn't.

And there is is, boys. Note the bitterness in her tone that he didn't give her what she wanted. She inserted all those sex coins and no commitment fell out. That's the man she wants... the man she will run to the moment he pops onto her Facebook / IG / whatever feed.

Alpha widow mode activated... and it's not you. The reason the next guy... and the next guy... and the next guy... and the guy she ends up with, will never have her best is that this guy exists. He's not any better than the guy she ends up with (it's likely that he's much worse): it's that he got to her first.

There's a reason why women who marry as virgins are far less likely to initiate divorce than women who are not, and that's often because women have a strong tendency to bond with the first man they have sex with. The more men a woman has been with, the more likely it is that she bonded with one of them in a way that can't be overridden.

The tendency is so strong that any number greater than zero is like playing Russian Roulette with three rounds in the cylinder.

Lots of words just to say that pussy is all she has to offer, and even that isn't enough to keep men.

Edit: naw fuck it , I'm going in.

Most men, because we live in simpworld, will tolerate a lot of bad behavior and bitch shit from women just to fuck. I don't blame the men because it's just a matter of experience (eventually, all men take the red pill...orally or as a suppository).

But the women... They know it and willingly use the promise of sex against men.

This post-wall Pauline expects sympathy from who? Men? Fellow carousel riders? No.

The sad fact that everyone knows is this: she gave up her pussy thinking that it was enough to counterbalance the cunt behavior that she has. It isn't. And, because women are slow learners until they hit the wall, she didn't do a damn bit of root-cause analysis to figure out why she couldn't keep a man after offering what she thought was the most important thing a woman can give.

For any woman who ventures here, I'll give you some free game: your pussy is not magic, special, or unique. The 3 billion of you all come with pussy installed from the factory. Don't think that it's gonna keep a man. We'll fuck you, sure. But if you're a bitch, don't expect us to stay.

If you don't like being a plate, then stop treating dating as a buffet to choose from.