In the ideal world, she would have asked her father if could marry, at about the age of 17, then he would have networked to find suitable, healthy men, with good career prospects, from good families, and allowed her to interact with them, in a controlled environment (not on dates). In a year or two, she'd pick one, marry, make some kids, support him while he developed in his career, and only after the kids were grown would she maybe go and get her degree in underwater basket weaving appreciation and maybe even get a job by opening a flower shop or some shit. She'd age gracefully, full of respect from her family and community.

But we live in this world, and "dating" (what men used to do with prostitutes) is now the norm. Women prioritize education, usually useless, and jobs over family. And they don't like the outcome of the world they created. Men warned them, but they weren't interested, and this is what we get.

I honestly met up with a woman that told me without irony, she wanted a "hybrid" relationship. She gets to be modern, but I get to be traditional and provide for her. I literally laughed in her face. I explained to her that that sure sounded like a bad deal to me. And told her she could call me, once she figured out what she could offer that would make it worth my while.

What a meandering steam of unconsciousness that was. Is English her first language?

Can't remember the exact quote (or where it is from) right now but it goes something like this "If you leave out the parts of the story that make you look bad, you just come out looking like a moron instead". She could start with her age and be a lot more specific with what she has actually specifically done dating-wise and on actual dates. Met guys you "clicked with" but no chemistry??? What kind of bullshit do you exactly mean here? Let's throw in some buzzwords like "emotionally unavailable" a few times while we're at it.

In any case she sounds like a bit of a basket case and in no way would be ready to have a kid with a partner, much less without. Sounds like she has problems just taking care of herself, and is letting "baby rabies" take over whatever she uses for a mind. "open minded" in this sense I suspect: "If you keep your mind sufficiently open, people will throw a lot of rubbish into it" - William A. Orton

If people come to her looking for advice they must be in a really deplorable state along with having very poor character judgement.

I met guys I did click with, but no chemistry

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She started this serious search at 32 (given the 3 years of searching she mentioned). Many of the men she would really want are either off the market entirely or are looking for younger options. That leaves her quite limited in the type of man that she is aiming for. Even with the high number of men she has been able to meet (anything other than a top percentage man cannot get 50 women interested in him enough to meet him in 3 years quite as easily), she does not like the result, given her 3 to 50 ratio of satisfaction.

On the topic of this ratio, it shows that she really does not understand that her expectations are not aligned with reality. Granted, this is true for many women. This is yet another example of a woman aiming too high with her requirements. Those 50 men? They were the ones she selected. Many other men did not even make the cut for her to want to meet. So that ratio is actually worse than the 3 to 50. A 35 year old woman that wants to have a child is already racing against the clock to even accomplish that. So for her to still be this picky shows that she is far more likely to be taking the single mom route (a very bad choice). And with the ratio of men she is choosing, I do not give her the benefit of the doubt that she is not being too picky in all the wrong areas.

If I am to infer this post correctly, that 3 year period where she was "focused on dating" was preceded by over a decade of not doing so. What was she doing with that time in her 20s? We can all make our guesses, but the important thing is that her 20s were spent NOT being as focused as she is now. Had she focused this hard in her early 20s, she would not be contemplating raising a child alone, but rather having a husband and children of her own. But now, she serves as another example of a woman who squandered the best time she had to get what she is now seeking far too late.

As a married man who always had marriage as a goal, I can say that other men who are also marriage minded are not fond of the idea of women waiting until they are in their 30s to start getting serious and thinking that those same men near her age will want to wait for her to seek men like them who were ready a decade ago to be serious. Granted, less men are serious about the idea of marriage in general, but those who are can still be found and would have no problem dating and marrying a woman their own age when they are in their 20s. It is much harder to "grow old together" when you are not even together when you are truly young.

Just as there are minimum ages for drinking and driving, is anyone else starting to think there really ought to be a maximum age for courtship? Like, if you're still not married after getting hundreds of free dinners shoveled at you, you're probably just in it for the free dinners.

I can't imagine having 200 first dates, and less than 2% could be considered marriage material.

I've had literally a 10th that number of first dates and managed to get married and have kids (and I have pretty high standards).

Turkey baster is looking more and more sexy to her as the baby rabies set in and she is unwilling to "settle".

The funny thing is of course once she is pregnant with some randos baby batter she will have a second epiphany about how hard this is going to be alone, either shortly before or right after she has the kid. Then suddenly anyone willing to be a dad will be "good enough".

IVF/fertility treatments should be illegal for unmarried women.

She's clearly trying to punch above her weight class. She's been in one-on-one contact with 200 men, and she's met 50 of them in person just in the last three years. I don't see her age anywhere, but I assume she's in the Epiphany Phase, which means that she's been doing this for a decade.

That's a lot of guys... and as far as she's concerned they all had deal-breakers. At the time I met my wife I had dated a bit over a dozen women, and I probably could have made it work with three or four of them. This woman has been presented with hundreds of options. We know with whom the problem lies.

She also claims to be an "open minded" woman living among conservatives. That arrogance isn't helping. Conservatives aren't close-minded, and being a smug liberal isn't going to make them think she's intelligent or virtuous... it's going to make them peg her as just another naive doofus who is so "open minded" that her brains fell out... and sanctimonious virtue signalers are exhausting to be around.

The other thing that jumped out at me is her desire to have a traditional relationship without any of the traditional responsibilities that women have in those relationships. The guy gets all the burdens that her great-grandfathers bore with none of the authority they had, while she gets all the protection and provision her great-grandmothers had, but without any of the duties.

Get a dog, lady.

When I read this I feel It's time to make conciously getting/raising kids alone a crime...

I met guys that I did click with but no chemistry

No wonder you're 35 and single. At least those guys are going to be spared.

All that fucking rigmarole just to get the crux of what she is actually wants: To be a single mother.

It is interesting to see the comments in the original post. A few years back, it would be all "just wait kween, you will find him and get your life that you totally deserve" whereas now, the picture is distinctly different. There are a lot of "oh my gawd, I can sooo relate to that" comments as well as the occasional insight on why dating is so screwed up. Social media and OLD get mentioned as the culprits.

One comment in particular, I would like to show to you gentlemen (and occasional lurking wahmyn):

I feel like everyone was telling us this while we were in college and early 20s, "oh you're so young you have time, you'll find someone don't stress about it focus on other things." And then I didn't prioritise it in my 20s and look where that got me... people are just lying to us.

Still not quite there yet, though - there is still a disconnect between women's choices (ride the CC and/or focus on career in their 20ies, then try to bail out at 30+) and the resulting consequences, but the foundation is laid. Now if these women were to start acting on that realization that creeps in to more and more of them, and don't repeat the same "lies" they were told to their younger sisters, mayybe we can still save this western civilization. But yeah I know, now I am the one believing in fairy tales

This makes me understand patriarchal structures so much - the father chooses the bride's mate, and its done.

This is just a moth fluttering around the bell jar until it croaks.

Duh! Call the professor and add value to his life. He has no time because he doesn't have a housewife. She could save him 2hrs a day by doing all the housework. Have a hot meal ready when he comes home, a hot meal for breakfast, and a nice healthy lunch packed. He'd be like "Shit, I'm keeping this one".

Unfortunately for her, the type of man she wants isn't looking for a "partner". Enjoy your cats and boxed wine you fucking feminazi.

I spoke to 200 guys on the phone and met about 50 in the last three years.

Historically, even the most beautiful and privileged women had, at best, a few dozen men from whom to choose a husband. Most of them did so successfully.

This bitch claiming she couldn't find a single good, available man out of literally hundreds of options is all you need to know about why she's single.

Recently I met guys I did click with but no chemistry

What the fuck does this even mean?

Three times I met guys [who] were a match[;] two of them turned out to not like me back the same way and [were] emotionally unavailable for a good two sided relationship. One guy adored me but was focusing on career[,] being both a professor and a startup founder[,] and [he] had no time [for dating me].

She's shooting above her league and making up excuses for why Chad doesn't want to settle down with her when he has free and easy access to all her younger sisters. Standard issue hamstering.

I can't deny I feel a certain amount of frustration being in a dating pool where one half feels pressure because of their biology and the other half has time to either figure their issues out or focus on work.

Sucks when the script is flipped and you're suddenly getting the short end of the biological stick, don't it?

Welcome to the first decade-plus of virtually every man's adult life.

Plus the city is quite conservative and I am more open minded, but still conservative in my relationship outlook.

Modern woman seeks traditional* relationship. News at 11.

*Except for all the obviously unnecessary parts that actually require her to serve and support her husband, particularly at her own expense.

What are you considering when making the choice of whether and when to have a kid alone?

Selfishness.