Dedicated to exposing all the women who complain about wanting a "good man", to show women's poor dating behavior and unreasonable standards while offering little to no value themselves.
DextroShade
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We're just a bunch of clueless NiceGuys™ with kindness coins that don't seem to work in women's holes so that the sex we're "entitled to" falls out. Because apparently we weren't demonstrating good relationship material through the attention, respect and stability that women demand. We were only "pretending" to be nice just to get laid.
In response to r/niceguys, this forum is dedicated to exposing all the women who complain about wanting a "good man" after dating jerks and riding the cock carousel in the prime of their youth, and think they're deserving of commitment and financial stability when all they have left to offer is their depreciating looks, narcissistic mentality, used-up vaginas, and another man's kids.
Women in their 20s have numerous opportunities to date the decent men they claim to want, but many reject or friendzone these men for jerks and promiscuity. She takes advantage of a good dude's kindness for attention and favors, then accuses him of being a bad person who thinks he's entitled to sex.
But when she's in her 30s with depreciating looks, jerks who won't commit, the likelihood of being a single mom, and the social pressure from her married friends, she asks "Where have all the good men gone?"[1][2] Funny how back when she was chasing the bad boys "Being nice is the bare minimum", but now that she's past her prime and needs a bailout, she wants a man with nice guy traits.
Furthermore, dating jerks and riding the carousel before settling down with a good man is planned by many women, and encouraged by feminists. They then come to the dating market with unreasonable standards while offering little to no value themselves. Such women are totally unaware that the mature, stable men they now need are the same decent men they rejected, except these men remember the rejection and are responding in kind to avoid unstable, unappreciative women who view them more as ATMs than romantic partners.
The reason women end up here is because their behavior is not exposed as the lucid, self-destructive, feminist ideology that it is. And we're here to help Good Men guard their commitment and resources by exposing women who would make poor life partners and mothers of their children. Providing observations and opinions on the posts here allows us to better understand women's psyche and later depressive/miserable state when they are not held to a moral standard required for healthy, functioning relationships.
Rules of conduct:
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1. No shaming men for any reason.
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2. No white-knighting or NAWALT. This is not a debate forum.
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3. No comments such as "Her profile looks decent", "She's not asking for much", "At least she's honest". No comments saying a post is fake without proof. Proof must be sent via modmail.
- 4. No brigading, doxxing or witch-hunting. Do not look for the individuals posted here, nor ask or give their personal info/social media, nor ask or give the source or you will be banned and reported to the admins. See here and here.
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5. Submissions must show a woman who is looking for commitment while also either complaining about jerks or promiscuity, needing her kids provided for, being entitled or unreasonable, or complaining that she "can't find a decent guy". (Examples, details)
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5b. No posts of women who are merely fat, post-wall, unattractive, seeking sex or money, nor women merely behaving badly. (Examples NOT allowed)
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6. No personal information in dating profiles or social media accounts. Take a screenshot and censor all names, social media, hometown, school, and place of work. Additionally, censor any children's faces if their mommy included them in any profile photos.
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7. No links to any subreddits or websites, nor crossposts where the OP is a woman. For articles use archive.is. For Reddit use a censored screenshot. Screenshots must contain the full story. No links to any women's Youtube, TikTok, etc. videos. Use Streamable.com to upload videos after censoring them through Musicaldown.com.
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8. We accept images from Imgur, Postimage, and ImgBB.
- 9. Other content may be posted on the weekends. See the types of content we allow.
Recommended reading:
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Dating profiles showing women's Dual-Mating strategy and unreasonable standards
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OkCupid study shows women reject 80% of men based on looks alone
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Milo - The Sexodus: The Men Giving Up On Women And Checking Out Of Society
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Women Want to Know Why Men Don't Want to Marry Anymore...Allow Me
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WAATGM mod explains why promiscuous women can't get good men to commit.
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Okay, I get it. You're sick of hearing men complain about girls only dating assholes.
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Dear Girls Who Are (Finally) Ready To Date Nice Guys: We Don’t Want You Anymore
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Dear Single Moms: I wasn't your type then, why am I all of a sudden your type now?
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The Truth About Single Moms Who Bring Young Children To The Dating Market
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Carol asks WAATGM for the harsh truth after riding the carousel
- Complete list of resources here.
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The Big Question- Carol asks "Where are all the good men?", "Why can't I find a decent guy?", "What happened to chivalry and respect?"
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Bailout- Carol wants a man to help raise her kids and provide financial stability.
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Leftovers- Carol whines about how hard dating is as an older woman.
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Dual-Mating Strategy- Carol admits to promiscuity and dating jerks but now wants a good guy to settle down with. Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.
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Cock Carousel Rider: Carol complains about being single while having a history of promiscuity.
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Entitlement Princess- Carol has unreasonable standards while offering little to no value herself.
- New Carols Unlocked!- A list of all the Carols we've identified.
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sean_karaya Jr. Hamster Analyst 12mo ago
What i find frustrating is how these women steal words, like personality, and redefine it. I think this is why some cultures in the past restricted education for women.
houseoftolstoy Unchivalrous Christian 1y ago
Another moment I would want to be a fly on the wall to know what she constitutes as "boring," as well as whether or not she brings any personality of her own to the table. Chances are, she is overstating how "boring" the nice guys are while she most likely thinks that guys should entertain her while she herself is incapable of being able to keep herself entertained.
Though one thing is for sure, she does not know to prioritize what is important, as she seems very easily taken in by flashy personalities that have little correlation with someone who wants a long term and stable relationship. I also suspect that she has a FOMO mindset where she thinks that "settling" for a "boring" guy means missing out on her idealized man who is indeed so exceedingly rare that he might just not exist in actuality. And when she does not find this man who meets her improbable standards, she will find that the "boring" guys will become even more rare.
Land_of_the_losers the-niceguy.com 1y ago
Here's the funny thing about boring old me: You wouldn't believe the number of pretty young women who today act fascinated by the stuff I've done in life.
And what's more, I haven't changed my interests very much over the past 20 years. I'm still into travel, languages, film, books, history, politics, wine, comedy, all of that stuff. That hasn't changed.
After grad school, I went on a backpacking trip 'round Central Asia. It was grueling. After I came back, no woman my age gave a damn. Today, when I show the pictures, the little ladies are like "OH WOW, that's SO COOL!" etc.
Maybe they're just being polite, but it doesn't explain why the women in my contemporaneous cohort weren't as polite back in the day.
polishknight WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
I'm reminded of a party 30 years ago where my childhood friend whose a chad was picking up starstruck girls and spouting off the most boring political screed I'd ever heard but the girls had this look in their eyes as if he was so dreamy. He could read the phone book and they'd be entranced. It's sort of like how vapid women think they're "funny" because so many men told them so. I played in the dirt with him in childhood so I know him: he's not that perceptive or interesting. Kind of the dumb blonde of men.
What such women mean by "personality', and there's some truth to this, is that people's personalities can be grating at times because they don't exist solely to please us. My cat only responds about 1/10th of the time I call her. She knows her name all right, but she thinks "I am in the mood to sit at the window so... eff him."
"Nice people" put their own personalities second at times to be accommodating to others. When I'm the host of a party, I have to be "boring" in that I'm busy attending to listening to my guests, feeding them, and so on. Being a host is a bit of a drag, but it's a duty I take seriously.
The "niceness" is MEANT to be boring. She fails to realize this is an invitation for her to entertain THEM but, of course, she's an aging table and about as entertaining as it.
Land_of_the_losers the-niceguy.com 1y ago
Agreed.
Whenever I was dating women-- and by "dating" I mean that I was entertaining and feeding some passive mannequins-- I couldn't afford to not be fun to be with. I loved making women laugh. I loved making women say "Ohh, that's really interesting," etc. I was also told I that was a good listener, too. The problem was, that is all I was to them: entertainer and therapist. A lot of women came to me for attention and a sympathetic ear after they found out that Chad had dumped her for "that bitch Tina with the big tits".
polishknight WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
That's why kino and escalation are essential skills. While being interesting is useful to get a foot in the door, unless it's matched with sexual escalation it will get a guy in the friendzone just as much as being a food provider. For women, it's sort of the opposite: Giving sex to chad gets their foot in the door, so to speak, but they can't "escalate" emotionally since they're just a table.
This "I am the table" thing is funny to me because coincidentally, in "Another Period", a fun Comedy Central series, a victorian era maid played by Christina Hendricks is told by snobby elites that her name "Celine" is too pretty a name for a commoner so they call her "chair" instead so the rest of the series her name is "chair." If she was in public, I'd love to say "Hello chair!" to her.
About my childhood friend: Somehow, a Chinese-American ambivalent career woman refused to be charmed by him and turned him around into a beta male. It was extraordinary. He had bedded hundreds of women easily but he not only fell for her, but even pays for all the bills. This is one of my favorite stories: He went to the basement one time and it was packed floor to ceiling with Nordstrom bags. His girlfriend would go to Nordies twice a week, buy an outfit, take one outfit out of her closet to make room, and put the other in the basement until she could get to it. After about 4 years, do the math.
My wife died when I told her the story: "Nordstroms has an UNLIMITED return policy! I would have backed a U-haul into there and taken it to them myself!!!" Anyways, whatever she did she should sell to the Eff Dee Ess folks because she has enchanting powers.
Land_of_the_losers the-niceguy.com 1y ago
There weren't exactly kino and escalation classes back then. Basically, I was left to muddle through whatever way I could. I wish that in the mid-1990s, some trusted older fellow would've told me: "the men who get their faces slapped a lot also get laid a lot." That might've clarified things for me. Instead, I got fed a lot of bullshit of "DON'T GET YOUR FACE SLAPPED, HUR DUR, MEN ARE TOO DUMB TO READ SIGNALS" and all of this other gaslighting noise which assisted me not an ounce.
polishknight WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
My wife alternates between "you're a cheap bastard" to "You know, you have a point" on a weekly basis...
Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 1y ago
I'm sure you know this already, but a major factor that might be making a pretty big difference: you have money now.
hornetsfalcons12 Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
I’ve maintained that most men aren’t going to be able to bag 20-something hotties in their 40’s and beyond, because in most cases, our own looks atrophy too much to contend with younger men. But it’s also far more in our control than it is for women. Eat foods like beef and eggs. Run and lift. Shower and take care of your hygiene and upkeep. Guys who have it all together in that regard can maintain their value in that aspect, and then they can reap the social benefits of getting wealthier as well. It’s why, when down in Florida, i so often see women in their late 20’s to 30’s hanging out on riverfront homes worth north of $3m at times They sure didn’t buy it. But their 60 year old husband easily could’ve.
Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 1y ago
Most men are unhealthy and fat, and raised as if they were defective women.
A masculine man who takes care of himself will easily be more attractive to women in his 30s and 40s than most 20-something men.
Looks matter, but there's so much more to how women are attracted to men.
hornetsfalcons12 Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
For sure. And hell, you can have horrible looks. But if you act like the man and have other attributes to back it up, they’ll overlook a lot.
Land_of_the_losers the-niceguy.com 1y ago
Could be. I really wish I knew.
Lionsmane8 1y ago
Of course, it's the men's fault.
Justanaverageguy 1y ago
It’s the decent men’s fault, not the toxic assholes
woodsmoke Respectful reprobate 1y ago
Nah, she's happy to blame both.
Land_of_the_losers the-niceguy.com 1y ago
But not equally.
She'd rather be with a toxic jerk than someone "boring" because of the excitement. That's clearly what her preferences are. I can't blame her for honesty, at least.
But note how she mentions that the assholes are full of "humor" and "wit." Uhh, yeah. God knows that Chad's fart jokes are the pinnacle of comedy. I'm surprised she didn't ascribe superior intelligence to such men as well.
You and I both know a lot of non-toxic men with awesome senses of humor but apparently she doesn't. Go figg'r
Overkill_Engine WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
Anything to avoid admitting that she is the architect of her own Doom.
Justanaverageguy 1y ago
What she’s saying in too many words is “decent men aren’t toxic enough for me, I need a toxic man”. They aren’t boring and have no personality, they just aren’t toxic and she’s looking for toxic. I hate women like this with a passion!
DextroShade 1y ago
When she meets the "sane, high-quality" men she claims she wants she immediately rejects them for being "boring" and jumps right back on Chad's cock.
Jules 1y ago
You nearly got it. What she's saying is 'I don't want toxic men, because they are toxic. And I don't want decent men, because they aren't toxic'
She wants the intersection of A and not A. Is that such a hard thing to ask for? Also, logic is a tool of muh patriachy!
MelkorHimself Mod 1y ago
Notice how she didn't stop to consider what percentage of the assholes were once "nice guys" who eventually had their lightbulb moments.
Overkill_Engine WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
Of course not. They're HER dogs and she thinks she should be able to kick them as much as she wants and they will never run away or turn on her.
DextroShade 1y ago
If a guy is called boring and rejected for being nice he is incentivized to not be nice.
Pic889 1y ago
Nah, he must be nice when she wants a nice guy and not nice when she wants a bad boy, with the ability to predict her mood swings and adjust accordingly on the fly of course.
NotaBene Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
Behind the word salad is a woman who has no idea what she wants, and is so jaded she wouldn't know either an "interesting" man with "personality" or a man with "good character" if they bit her.
I put these words in quotes because if you asked her what she means by them, she wouldn't have a clue how to define anything. It would come down to "what happens to impress me at this moment" which turns out to be nothing and no one.
This is the definition of a Karen. She's a spoiled brat, nothing is good enough for her. She cannot be made happy and will always find something to be discontent about.
Vermillion-Rx Penchant for plastic dolls 1y ago
Men act decent and get turned down. Women don't tell the world they get off on excitement over "decency". Woman fucks "assholes". Decent men see it. Decent men run asshole game, start getting laid, and never look back. Women ask why there aren't any decent men
They have the power to collectively break this cycle but they don't. They just convertly fuck "assholes" and privately withhold this sentiment in OPs post until "decent" men catch on and don't look back.
Of course it's mens' fault though, zero self reflection here
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whytehorse2021 Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
I'm boring as hell. I play frisbee golf on Sundays and go to my son's football games. Oh well. I'm taken. Apparently my wife valued stability over excitement and she got the ring. Bye Felicia! Have fun with that.
woodsmoke Respectful reprobate 1y ago
Deftly woven into an extensive laundry list of all the alleged shitbags this woman has allowed to waste her time and fill her holes, and nary a trace of self-reflection to be found.
It's been said many times in many places but, for the benefit of those who may be encountering it for the first time here: always listen carefully when a woman is talking about her exes. If every one of them is an asshole, if they all mistreated and abused her, if there isn't a single redeeming feature to be found amongst the whole lot, you are left with two distinct possibilities.
1) She's lying to you about their behavior and spinning a victim narrative to emotionally manipulate you.
2) She's telling the truth.
Either way, she's also telling on herself and, more importantly, telling you to run, don't walk, run to the exit and never look back.
Overkill_Engine WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
Yup. Decent women that are worth investing time and effort in oddly enough don't have a mile long list of alleged shitbags that they spread their legs for in their history.
This goes back to why partner count is a far different beast for men and women, whether one likes it or not. It takes effort and skill for a man to accrue a high count, while for a woman all it takes is opening her legs.
Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 1y ago
Good find, OP.