Dedicated to exposing all the women who complain about wanting a "good man", to show women's poor dating behavior and unreasonable standards while offering little to no value themselves.
DextroShade
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We're just a bunch of clueless NiceGuys™ with kindness coins that don't seem to work in women's holes so that the sex we're "entitled to" falls out. Because apparently we weren't demonstrating good relationship material through the attention, respect and stability that women demand. We were only "pretending" to be nice just to get laid.
In response to r/niceguys, this forum is dedicated to exposing all the women who complain about wanting a "good man" after dating jerks and riding the cock carousel in the prime of their youth, and think they're deserving of commitment and financial stability when all they have left to offer is their depreciating looks, narcissistic mentality, used-up vaginas, and another man's kids.
Women in their 20s have numerous opportunities to date the decent men they claim to want, but many reject or friendzone these men for jerks and promiscuity. She takes advantage of a good dude's kindness for attention and favors, then accuses him of being a bad person who thinks he's entitled to sex.
But when she's in her 30s with depreciating looks, jerks who won't commit, the likelihood of being a single mom, and the social pressure from her married friends, she asks "Where have all the good men gone?"[1][2] Funny how back when she was chasing the bad boys "Being nice is the bare minimum", but now that she's past her prime and needs a bailout, she wants a man with nice guy traits.
Furthermore, dating jerks and riding the carousel before settling down with a good man is planned by many women, and encouraged by feminists. They then come to the dating market with unreasonable standards while offering little to no value themselves. Such women are totally unaware that the mature, stable men they now need are the same decent men they rejected, except these men remember the rejection and are responding in kind to avoid unstable, unappreciative women who view them more as ATMs than romantic partners.
The reason women end up here is because their behavior is not exposed as the lucid, self-destructive, feminist ideology that it is. And we're here to help Good Men guard their commitment and resources by exposing women who would make poor life partners and mothers of their children. Providing observations and opinions on the posts here allows us to better understand women's psyche and later depressive/miserable state when they are not held to a moral standard required for healthy, functioning relationships.
Rules of conduct:
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1. No shaming men for any reason.
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2. No white-knighting or NAWALT. This is not a debate forum.
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3. No comments such as "Her profile looks decent", "She's not asking for much", "At least she's honest". No comments saying a post is fake without proof. Proof must be sent via modmail.
- 4. No brigading, doxxing or witch-hunting. Do not look for the individuals posted here, nor ask or give their personal info/social media, nor ask or give the source or you will be banned and reported to the admins. See here and here.
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5. Submissions must show a woman who is looking for commitment while also either complaining about jerks or promiscuity, needing her kids provided for, being entitled or unreasonable, or complaining that she "can't find a decent guy". (Examples, details)
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5b. No posts of women who are merely fat, post-wall, unattractive, seeking sex or money, nor women merely behaving badly. (Examples NOT allowed)
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6. No personal information in dating profiles or social media accounts. Take a screenshot and censor all names, social media, hometown, school, and place of work. Additionally, censor any children's faces if their mommy included them in any profile photos.
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7. No links to any subreddits or websites, nor crossposts where the OP is a woman. For articles use archive.is. For Reddit use a censored screenshot. Screenshots must contain the full story. No links to any women's Youtube, TikTok, etc. videos. Use Streamable.com to upload videos after censoring them through Musicaldown.com.
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Recommended reading:
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Dating profiles showing women's Dual-Mating strategy and unreasonable standards
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OkCupid study shows women reject 80% of men based on looks alone
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Milo - The Sexodus: The Men Giving Up On Women And Checking Out Of Society
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Women Want to Know Why Men Don't Want to Marry Anymore...Allow Me
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WAATGM mod explains why promiscuous women can't get good men to commit.
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Okay, I get it. You're sick of hearing men complain about girls only dating assholes.
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Dear Girls Who Are (Finally) Ready To Date Nice Guys: We Don’t Want You Anymore
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Dear Single Moms: I wasn't your type then, why am I all of a sudden your type now?
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The Truth About Single Moms Who Bring Young Children To The Dating Market
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Carol asks WAATGM for the harsh truth after riding the carousel
- Complete list of resources here.
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The Big Question- Carol asks "Where are all the good men?", "Why can't I find a decent guy?", "What happened to chivalry and respect?"
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Bailout- Carol wants a man to help raise her kids and provide financial stability.
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Leftovers- Carol whines about how hard dating is as an older woman.
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Dual-Mating Strategy- Carol admits to promiscuity and dating jerks but now wants a good guy to settle down with. Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.
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Cock Carousel Rider: Carol complains about being single while having a history of promiscuity.
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Entitlement Princess- Carol has unreasonable standards while offering little to no value herself.
- New Carols Unlocked!- A list of all the Carols we've identified.
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SpiritualEnema Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
That’s cute. She showed up to the bar after last call. Still nobody drunk enough to bitch themselves to that ride.
Overkill_Engine WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
And she had multiple chances and frittered them all away. No sympathy. Many men out there aren't given a chance at all.
DextroShade 1y ago
I don't have any sympathy either as she had a good man who wanted to start a family with her but she was too selfish, now her self is all she will have.
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Lone_Ranger Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
That's called girl maths
voskresenie 1y ago
The generous interpretation is she's just stupid. The more likely explanation is that she left her marriage emotionally before she left it legally — can't trade up if you've got nothing to trade, can't monkey branch if you don't have a branch to hold on to.
Problematic_Browser Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
¿Porque no los dos?
DextroShade 1y ago
It reads like she was just a side piece to a busy man who didn't want kids with her.
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Lone_Ranger Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
Girl math never does.
Oddest-One-Here Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
Girl maths makes about as much sense as girl logic.
Overkill_Engine WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
Prob was stepping out well before the divorce paperwork was signed. Women do that. The principle of "If she's not fucking you she's fucking someone else" still applies even if there is a contract in place implying that she should behave otherwise.
The fidelity part of the contract is effectively not enforced anymore and contracts are only as good as their enforcement.
Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 1y ago
"Covenants without the sword are mere words" - Thomas Hobbes
Overkill_Engine WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
Yup. And I will definitely give women credit on something: They are fucking masterclass at recognizing when words are just words.
Lone_Ranger Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
When are a woman's words not only words?
Lone_Ranger Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
Great post, Dextro.
The reason its so great is because its not an extreme example. Its not some slut on the street demanding dates from men that earn at least $300k. Those are amusing, but they're not mainstream.
The think that makes this so interesting and educational is that its so mainstream and so common. I know women like that. They're quite nice. I've had intimate relationships with a few of them.
The problem for these women is that they find out too late. They really should be touring the schools, and giving talks. But that wouldn't be allowed, because it would be 'off message'. It would be pandering to the patriarchy.
The biggest lie that feminism has foised on young women is that you can and should 'have it all'. You should be a strong independent woman and spend years 'finding yourself', and then, when you've sucked a 1000 cocks, you should find a guy (why needs to be respectful of your past, and also a feminist and earns more than 3x what the woman earns) and settle down.
This is what leads to cats and wine.
Oddest-One-Here Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
While car crashes are not as spectacular as train wrecks, being involved in a car crash can still get you killed.
Overkill_Engine WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
IN A ROW?
wswZtyqNGQ 1y ago
Try not to suck any dick on your way through the parking lot!
Lone_Ranger Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
Her: It was an accident! I tripped over and it was right there and it ended up in my mouth. I didn't really want to, it just happened. I don't normally do this kind of thing. It doesn't count because .......
Lone_Ranger Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
Line 'em up.
polishknight WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
This woman was common back in the early 1980's. I suppose that men now would feel lucky to have merely lazy, irresponsible women as compared to ultra-entitled and obese as they are now. They weren't bad looking back then, mildly hypergamous, and if you were a "good boy" and rolled the dice, you have a 2/3 chance of having a family with them and it working out to retirement. Hmm, basically like my wife. :-)
And that's ok in that (knock on wood) I have a lovely daughter and things have worked out (so far) and that's what us men accept if we want a family. There are no guarantees and you do your best, dive in, and hope for the best.
But this woman, like many, just expected that men should take care of all the important stuff while they "find themselves" or blow their 20's, and then even 30's, just not thinking about the future AT ALL. I didn't have a biological clock but I did regular evaluations of my life. When I hit 30, I did some calibration of my frame (not elimination, just calibration) and then in another 5 years, some more. Women such as this are like Rip Van Winkle who go to sleep when they're 18 and wake up at 38 and decide "Hmmm, maybe I should try to get married before 40?"
Even now, like another biological clock ticker featured, it's not really all that bad for her. She would have an easier time finding a good man at her age than I did when I was 35 and met my wife. "Good man" meaning that he wouldn't be tall, perhaps wouldn't have a glamorous career, and wouldn't jump through perfect game hoops but if she put in the effort, she could get married and have a child in under 2 years. The problem is such women lack the mindset to engage in the effort to do so.
There are (few) "real" inspins or incels, really. Given guidance and a willingness to put in the effort, most men can get laid if they can get a passport and put about $1000 aside for "professional services". That's like the price of 10 dinner dates.
Overkill_Engine WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
I've noticed the Epiphany always seems to happen right around the time a particular woman can no longer rely on the implication of vagina to cajole free goods and services from men. And the attendant realization that she's otherwise going to have to work hard like a man does to support herself for the rest of her life.
And I'd give them a pass on having and using the option of a man as a retirement plan if they were at least smart enough to ensure that a man gets some due benefit from it instead of treating them as slaves whose labor they are entitled to the ownership of.
polishknight WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
I knew an old nice gentlemen English lord who died back in about 2005 who had remarried a pleasant, older Hispanic woman. I think he willed her some of his money (perhaps the McMansion they were living in at the time) but the bulk of the estate went to his children from previous wives.
Modern marriage is fundamentally a one-sided sex contract with an option for kids. Men are largely guaranteed sex at the beginning of it, but after that there's not too much benefit in walking down the aisle. Older, infertile women offer even less. Men with accumulated assets who reach their 40's should have enough presence-of-mind to have observed what happened to his friends who got divorced, if not his uncles or even father, and have little interest in wifing up someone who can't reliably offer him children, one of the few justifications to enter into a one-sided contract. If a man in his 40's wants children, why wife up someone at the tail end of their production years when there are mid 30's women available?
Having friends who got remarried in middle age, they did so primarily with women who earned about the same as them so if there was a breakup, it's unlikely that the woman would enjoy a significant financial benefit from doing so. On the contrary, in an equal partnership, it harms both parties to break up since combined assets are more powerful than individually.
In response to your point: This woman appears to have spent the past 20 years pursuing an art career which most likely didn't pan out and becoming a SAH wife of a breadwinner would be a step up. The problem is that even if the guy rolled the biological dice and produced a child with her, what if she decided to go nuclear and pull a Ms. Costner on the guy and demand alimony and child-support? She's a huge risk.
Overkill_Engine WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
Yeah if a guy is going to take that level of financial risk, may as well offset it some by sticking to women far younger and more fertile and who hasn't ingrained as many bad habits yet.
And guarantee lil miss NYC Ballerina goes full 50 Shades of Cunt the moment her demands aren't met. There's a reason a non-fat woman makes it to her age single, and it's usually bad enough that her body can't make up for it.
Edit: Whoops thought I was replying to a comment in a different post. Regardless, my latter point stands. This one just managed to get a ring on it and still biffed the landing.
Lone_Ranger Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
Whos the mod on here? Can we create a new tag called 'Cats and whine'
Get it?? get it?
@Typo-MAGA-shiv
Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 1y ago
You fucked my username up again, so no.
But you do get some vcards on the trp.red side of the site!
Lone_Ranger Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
It's now a tradition that I fuck up your user name, Typ0-miga.
Lone_Ranger Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
It's interesting to hear her say 'I didn't want kids'.
None of them do. Not when they are young. Because they think that the very idea of wanting kids is not being a strong independent woman. They think that wanting kids is down wardly mobile. It's pandering to the pAtrIARchy.
Feminism teaches young women that natural female desires are wrong and bad.
Pay close attention. If you are screening for a young woman, and she says that she doesn't want kids, keep it moving. She is likely damaged and suffering from poor mental health.
maseboogie Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
Truth, sir. Truth. Hell in 2017, I was hooking up with a woman who was 32 at the time. After a nut, she decided to have a conversation with me about a potential relationship (which I had no intention of approaching with her). She noted that a potential "dealbreaker" is that she didn't want to have kids (wanted to adopt eventually) yet if we were in a LTR and I brought it up, I could possibly convince her to. Hooking up with her ended shortly after that.
Lone_Ranger Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
doesnt' want to have kids, wants to adopt instead.
Taxi please.
(Woman is clearly deranged. Never stick your dick in cray cray).
polishknight WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
In all fairness, as a father of a 7 year old girl, I have "no life" like I did in my 20's. Back in my 20's, and something I want men to know now, it was so cool to enjoy so many neat things. I watched so many great independent films on VHS tapes and did geeky things and there's little time for that as a father. Work and do homework with my daughter, deal with the daily disasters, and pray to get through to the weekend.
It's tough to tell someone that just as they reach adulthood and independence, well, time to now blow that time raising a child. Women have it made in one regard: In their 20's, they have MAXIMUM power to marry and have kids but it also means giving up those 20's and 30's. In their 40's and 50's, they can do those cool things. I have friends who are enjoying that now as empty nesters. They go on cruises, they have hobbies, and such. But it's hard to see that future in their 20's particularly if as a woman they can get Chad cock and free meals for 15 years.
As a 58 year old father of a 7 year old, I just had a wonderful moment. My wife was being a brat and yelling at my daughter (because she is emotional, what a surprise) and I came over and calmed the situation, and told my daughter that it was going to be ok, I loved her, and how to handle it. Today, she said "It's ok. Mommy apologized afterwards" and kissed me.
"natural female desires" used to mean being kind, and loving, and appreciative of men. We haven't had natural femininity for 400 years but rather this chivalrous nonsense of women as entitled princesses.
Lone_Ranger Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
But you do 'have a life' - you have a different life that has meaning and is fulfilling.
We can't stay teenagers all our lives. That's the issue with modern women - they essentially spin our their teen years until 39, and then say, 'Right, time to settle down and have a baby'.
Apart from them being a terrible candidate for reproduction from a physical point of view (ancient womb, no eggs) they are not mature enough mentally to have kids. The people that I know that had kids early are more mature. Having kids matures you. It makes you into a fully fledged adult.
I had my kids early 30s. I now know that I should have done that mid 20s.
Lone_Ranger Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
I'm alarmed that you say
"Women have it made in one regard: In their 20's, they have MAXIMUM power to marry and have kids but it also means giving up those 20's and 30's."
It's not "giving up their 20s and 30s" - having kids is the most fulfilling thing a woman can do with their life. Go and listen to the inspin tears - they all admit that their careers and partying were meaningless.
The issue is that women have been told that they 'can have it all'. They can't.
polishknight WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago
For me in my 20's, it made sense to have an extended teenager time because it allowed me to grow into a better father and person. My career wasn't a hobby or something to keep my "independence" but necessary for my basic survival and to qualify as a father. Thanks to a gynocentric society that checks our "male privilege", we have to work harder and longer than our fathers did due to "hoflation". I also had some childhood trauma to get over and there are people who have kids in their early 20's who do not rise to the challenge you speak of. Look at the single mothers whose "children are their world" but yet they're watching Netflix and going on spa weekends. I love my father, RIP, but I realize that he didn't have the support and time to become the kind of parent he could have been.
Sure, I played video games and watched movies and traveled in my 20's but much of that was due to me deciding that was time better spent than going to clubs chasing after skanks or throwing away thousands on dinner dates for "ladies". The problem with the women who were blowing their 20's is that instead of bringing those interests as "assets", they used them to raise demands or to "challenge" and "intimidate" men. It's the difference between me playing a chess game with my wife on our 2nd date and if she won, I'd give her a drink as a reward versus a woman sneering "seems like you weren't man enough to beat me" and then griping that men are "intimidated" by "smart" women.
The problem for such women is they don't emotionally grow much during their 20's because clubbing for them is lucrative. They can go on paid dinner dates. When life is fun, there's not much need to grow and these women think that all the work should be done by "real men" anyway so while I "matured" in my 20's, these women just grew older. On the flip side of that, even if they did make significant improvements, this is offset by their biological clock loss while I was able to father a child in my 50's. Nobody educates women that just because they CAN be party skanks in their 20's doesn't mean that's a good idea.
Lone_Ranger Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
Whenever I hear a woman say that some man or men are intimidated by some woman, I always correct them. I always say
"No man is intimidated by any woman. My garbage collector is not intimidated by the Hilary Clinton."
Justanaverageguy 1y ago
It’s kind of refreshing to see a single woman that doesn’t have kids. In my area they’re all knocked up by randoms, multiple baby daddies and still think they’re too good for you.
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woodsmoke Respectful reprobate 1y ago
Even widows and women whose husbands fell of a metaphorical cliff should be evaluated carefully. My best friend's sister generally has as solid a head on her shoulders as any woman can. She was with her daughter's father for 7 or 8 years before they had the kid then another 10 years thereafter before he suddenly nose-dived into hard drug use and basically torpedo'd their marriage. He seemed like a good guy. I always thought his wild turn came out of nowhere, that he'd been rock solid right up until he wasn't anymore.
Come to find out a year or so back, he'd had a not insignificant drug problem when she'd met him and they'd first started dating. She'd known about it and chosen him anyway. I now understand what I always thought was a completely unexpected and crazy dive into self-destructive behaviors on his part was unexpected, if only because he'd kept himself clean for so long, but it wasn't crazy at all to those who'd known about his extracurricular activities prior to their getting together.
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Impressive-Cricket-8 Founding member of FapGPT 1y ago
She got remarried to her job. I'm guessing the guy got remarried to a younger girl and had kids. I wonder which is happier.
Problematic_Browser Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
No unmarried woman is happy.
I've seen it time and time again, the "strong independent woman" is a veneer that breaks down into "why will nobody love me" after one too many martinis.
The sad part is that they can't confide in anyone - girl code demands that the ruse persist and they can't tell men because - unsurprisingly - we just shrug (because we know how consequences work). They're left to bear the weight of their choices and forced to act as if it's liberating them instead of crushing their souls.
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maseboogie Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
Which leads to said women having bedtime on the regular like this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OFUc7wh20Ws
MelkorHimself Mod 1y ago
How much do we want to bet the ex-husband is now remarried to a 20-somethingwho is expecting her second or third child?
voskresenie 1y ago
In order to bet, you need someone to take the opposite position and be willing to put money behind it. You'd have better luck finding someone willing to bet that the sun goes around the earth.
Problematic_Browser Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
80% of women have reproduced.
Imagine having to face the fact that you're at the bottom 20%.
Problematic_Browser Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
Men derive happiness from having a family that they can provide for that respects him. Women derive happiness from having a family that they nurture that loves them.
Deviation from this formula is a recipe for misery.
woodsmoke Respectful reprobate 1y ago
Will fade, she says. Future tense.
Daffy bint's trying to buy a boarding pass for the maiden voyage of the Titanic next week.
Oddest-One-Here Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
Her looks have already faded, but they will fade even further still with every year she lives.
No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
LMAO
No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
*Points and laughs*
Seagram7 Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
I was feeling deeply sorry for this woman I know. She is about a 4 on the looks scale who is sweet, kind and very religious. She has gone to private religious schools her entire childhood and has been part of her church for her entire life. She is mid 40's and is taking care of her Dad and his days are numbered. For now it's just her and her Dad and no one else.
I just realized that her situation is entirely her fault. There are men out there even now that would marry her. What the hell was she doing for the last 30 years? That she didn't have multiple opportunities? There wasn't even ONE MAN at the church she attended her entire life that showed interest? Not one guy in college that tried to make a move?
Plus I know the thirst is real. There are women out there now that deserve to die alone that still find a man to marry them. UVA Jackie should be persona non grata to every man that knows what she did, yet even she found a decent guy to marry. My sympathy for church girl is gone.
GimmeTheUsual Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago
"Shortly after I turned 30, we divorced." -- Translation "I wasn't HAaaaAAPpy, so I nuked it to get half his stuff."
Then after she hooks up with another dude, she says "That was exactly what I had wanted and needed after my divorce, but autonomy was no longer my top priority."
Everything is great, right? Fuck no, she nukes this one too "We broke up shortly before my 37th birthday."
So the first guy she didn't want to do any wifely things for, the second dude she 'learned' to do it, but STILL doesn't give enough of a fuck to stay.
Its okay, this bitch is getting exactly what she deserves -- " I worry that my youthful looks will fade and that I won't be able to attract the man I want to spend the rest of my life with."
Bingo.
You pissed away your chances and now you're destined to age out somewhere all alone. And you know what? Good. I'm glad this dumb bitch got dead-ended after being a complete dumbshit and fucking over two dudes. (And probably more she left out.)