Waves her career around like it's a cock then wonders why the only men she can get are dickless.

Also, handsome men with money/good jobs have their pick of women, and they oddly enough aren't going to go for a type-A ballbuster that they still have to outearn and pass a dominance test over every day after coming home from work for her not to go into CuntMode 9000 and take him for half or more of his net worth.

Especially if she does not have a very traditional family that can reign in the worst of her impulses. "Motivated" women tend to be incredibly mercenary which makes them a bad long term investment.

Projection. They emulate the traits they find attractive and think that men will think the same way they think. They are attracted to power and accomplishments so women will go out and get a degree and find some sort of job that has prestige and be a "boss-bitch" thinking that they will attract the same kind of man.

The girl in the post is realizing that the men she wants to attract because of her "accomplishments" dont care about her "accomplishments"

At my work, the tough, kick ass boss babe had a mini meltdown at the holiday party. Our DT (Defensive Tactics) instructor is a tough, kick ass, tattooed, weightlifting Chad Bro. I cant hate him because he really is a sincere cool guy that has covered for me when I fucked up. He texts everybody that has drank too much if they made it home. He has actually driven me home on more than a few occasions.

Anyway this girl really thinks she is a street solider that kicks ass. Plus she is hot, has an Instagram account with 120K followers and looks like a model. She naturally thinks that if he kicks ass, she kicks ass, it makes perfect sense that they should be together. He shows up at the Holiday party with the most petite, feminine, Asian doll. She had a mini meltdown acting absolutely baffled why he isnt with a tough chick. We tried to tell her that we get into pissing contests all day with the public and we dont want to come home to another dick measuring contest. I tried the opposites attract logic. She settled that he is not as tough as she though since he appears to be intimidated by powerful women.

If it wasn’t posted on Reddit, you’d think it was fanfic from a red pill guy.

The crazy part is, the results are screaming right in her face. Every single man that she seems to deal with is, by her own account, a “loser”. That could mean a lot of things.

1) she’s nowhere near as pretty as she thinks

2) her career striving makes her a massive ball buster, and dudes with options don’t want to put up with it

3) she low key loves the low lives and won’t admit it.

Whether it’s any of the above, or something else, nothing in this woman’s diatribe screams “I’m a good bet for the future”. Men are constantly not good enough for a “queen” like this, so why try when there’s billions of women that think they’re a catch?

There's a saying: You ARE who you attract.

She might want to examine herself.

Oh just go get a "furbaby" already! You don't need no man! Don't forget the wine to go with your whine!

"36F" "Please help!"

You too old. That's your problem! You beyond help!

"I backpack foreign countries alone as a hobby" - Yeah, we get it, you're run-through like a fucking car wash.

The reason she hooks up with perpetual stoners is its harder to notice your girlfriend is a complete slut when you're under the influence.

Don't worry sweetie, post-wall will help you understand that you're a depreciating asset. Even if you deny it every decade, nobody is going to touch you.

I'm beyond the wall and I'm better than you in 50 different ways - and I can list them.

WAATGM?

Dating a 20-something y.o. who can cook and won't nag them to death. Is this the origin of double alpha - since she's an alpha herself and the man must be better, he has to be a double one?

She doesn’t need a man. She has become man enough for all parties in the relationship.

You wonder how long it would take for the spinsterhood to give her actual constructive advice. I won’t hold my breath, they would have to acknowledge that men have desires and (gasp!) they are different from their own.

Score another one for muh patriarchy.

I guess we're intimidated by her. Yeah, that must be it. We're intimidated by women that are able to function like an adult.

Joking.

She is basically asking "Why don't successful men want me"

and the short answer is

because you are too old.

Successful men are men with options. And they have better options than you.

Next question please.

"I would try to hide my success on dates and that usually got me pretty far with the successful guys. However, the moment they found out about what I did for work they usually would friend zone me."

I'm wondering what her job actually is. Is it that she's successful at her job, or is it the actual job itself which is a dealbreaker?

These business bitches will never understand.

We aren't repulsed by successful women. We aren't intimidated by powerful women. We aren't scared of independent women.

What is happening is that we just don't want the things that come with it. We don't want the "boss bitch" attitude that they've grown. We don't want the hyper-competitive nature that they have. We don't want the wasted youth. We don't want any of it.

Men want the things they traded away to get what they have. They chose to walk the path that men walk then get mad when they get the outcomes men get.

They should learn to date like men if they want to live and work like men. Men, especially successful ones, date down. We date women well beneath our social and economic standing because that is all that's left when we become successful. If those "strong successful independent" women would learn to do that, their dating woes would disappear overnight.

Her entire post oozes with hostility towards men that she believes are underneath her. Heck if you read between the lines I am not even sure she could date a guy that fits her requirements because she'd still find he isn't "driven", "ambitious", and/or a "go getter" enough to meet her expectations. Setting aside she has chosen these "losers" (which mind you some could actually be successful compared to the rest of society but her expectations are out of the galaxy), she still assumes that there is a guy out there that will meet them. It is no wonder why she can't find a guy, she would eliminate 99.99999999% of them in a heartbeat, and the very very slim that do meet her expectations can easily find a much less hostile and non-competitive woman who is 10+ years younger.

There is no way she will ever find a man, but this post isn't actually looking for advice, she is just looking for other women in the same boat to "there there" her and tell her that her way of things is most totally correct. I feel bad for the cats in her future, as if they don't meet the mice quotas and be "productive" in her eyes they may be kicked out just as quick as the men were!

Maybe you try asking out a man that is somewhere between stoner in basement and A-type personality executive? Oh I forgot, a regular 9-5er doesn't excite you and you actually searching sounds like work. Need that frenzied super motivated guy - even if his motivation is selling meth.

Your supposed ideal, a super motivated top career driven man, would want nothing to do with you or anyone like you. That's the last type of woman they are looking for. So instead of going for a regular guy, you'll go for a guy that talks a good game of "go getting" bullshit? Sounds about right.

Just make a deal with an high level executive guy that works 70+ hours a week. Just pay him on contract to pretend to be your boyfriend for functions. Not like you'd see each other that much anyway in a real relationship with you both spending almost all your waking time working.

Translation from womanese "why are the only HANDSOME men who want me weed smoking bums?" well sweety, handsome men who have their shit together wanted you when you were 24 not 36. now its either average men (ew) with decent ambition or handome bums. you seem to be only choosing the handsome bums, so enjoy.

you literally chose your career over finding your best possible match, its too late now. you have the career you wanted instead

She needs to do some soul searching, and the question she needs to ask is: why am I looking for a man? Why do I need a man? What for? What would it give me to have a man? What would I be able to give to him, how would I make him happy?

Then should could ask herself, why is she attracting 'the wrong' kind of man? The obvious reason is that she is 'strong and independent' and she thinks she wants a strong and independent man, but there is no way that a S+I and and a S+I woman are going to be able to live together. It has never worked, will never work. She wants to call the shots, so she hooks up with betas, and then she is disgusted with betas.

If she every did settle down with an Alpha, she would last 2 weeks. There is simply no way an alpha man is going to let a boss-bitch run the show.