The crappit comments somewhat restore my faith in humanity. A little as a few years ago, the husband would have been attacked for having a fragile ego, shaming her past, not understanding her emotional journey, etc. I will throw one criticism at the husband: why the fuck did he marry a girl like that? I really dont think she could chameleon that well enough to hide her damage at being an alpha widow. If I heard her drone on about her rich ex that wouldnt marry her, she would have been placed in the "just fuck only" category. She must have sucked his brain through his dick that it clouded his mind.

There are so many single sentences in this post that warrant discussion. The one that jumps off the page for me is this.

"I found a man who was willing to commit... and I love my husband for that".

I love my husband.....FOR THAT.

Let that sink in. She doesn't love her husband. She loves that he was willing to bail her out.

This post is an example of what it is like to be married to a woman that is 'alpha widowed'. It's 9 years ago that her ex (an alpha) broke up with her, and she's still pining.

Imagine being the guy that married her. I feel for the guy. He has made a huge mistake, and is slowly learning about it.

"I have a blog and am trying to start a photography business"

Aren't we all darling.

I honestly had trouble flairing this one: a gold-digging, damaged, alpha widow who married some unsuspecting victim after having spent her best years with the money guy of her dreams - who wouldn't commit to her because... Well, she's her. But she got lucky, you see. She found someone willing to marry her! Sure, he may not be all that especially compared to the ex... But since it's the ring and the wedding that matters, so what?

This is called narcissistic triangulation. Women are famous for this. Some are more direct about it than others but it’s still the same game.

What is more amoral than how women slut around is how they settle with men.

It's one thing to be a sloot doing all kinds of degenerate sloot things, but then there is settling.

Having a man trying his damned best to give you his all and stretching his best thin despite the lack of gratitude only for the reality to be that all of her first choices weren't there for her, so they decide a man they never would have given their time of day to otherwise is just someone to have because it's better than being lonely. All which sets him up for absolute emotional failure and completely lopsided investment, and having him in a perpetual state of comparison to the men they wish they'd gotten

Settling is perhaps one of the most amoral dating practices a woman can engage in short of cheating, false accusations, and abuse

This woman clearly does not understand that when she compares her ex to her current husband, she's emasculating him.

Her failure to understand men is what got her in this situation in the first place.

This woman is all sorts of things. Gold digger. Alpha widow. Woman who drastically overrates her RMV. Ungrateful. Entitled.

I know a lot about special education, given my family. He’s probably making around $70k a year. That’s an honorable wage, beats around 60% of workers his age. A household of two special education teachers would be decidedly on the high end of the middle class; not rich, but can afford a basic home, groceries, some luxuries, etc. from a RMV perspective, this guy is probably at least average (my guess is he’s been accustomed to being treated like dog crap in dating, given how fast he was willing to wife up a woman like this). Also, special education traditionally being seen as a “female” job (its 85% women) probably contributes to a lack of respect as well; a lot of modern women talk a big game about egalitarianism, but are absolutely horrible to men in traditionally female lines of work.

It seems like this woman got every chance in the book to show she deserved a ring from her ex, but she ultimately failed miserably. He turned around and married a 19 year old at 42 (high five, my man, high five), showing clearly that commitment wasn’t his issue, she was the issue. And we can see why. All demands and no reciprocity.

At least the ex got her when she was a hottie. I bet she’s still above average in looks, hence why she still has this delusional entitlement. Hope our brother breaks free.

Therapist must refer to her as that "bread and butter" client. Years of therapy ain't going to do shit if all you're going to do is talk. Here's a quote for you "Comparison is the thief of joy" and if you don't think you are comparing him to your ex after re-reading what you've wrote, I've got this lovely bridge in Brooklyn I can sell you for cheap or would you prefer some swamp land in Florida?

Okay, let's open you up and see what's wrong - hmmm ... I see ... you seem to be stuck on your highest settings. Can't do much with these old models when they get like that. There is an image that has become burnt permanently into the screen.

re: work - "I have a blog and am trying to start a photography business" - that and a few bucks might get you a cup of coffee some places.

This is the kind of woman that thinks Screaming Eagle Cabernet 1992 can't be that much more expensive than Bud Light, and will look down on any man balking at buying the former - because she's never had to be the one on the hook for the tab, and ironically would have trouble affording the latter herself.

Her portrait can be found next to "First World Problems".

LOL. She got downvoted big time!

Jeez. What an absolute cow. She doesn't deserve happiness, she deserves to be booted to the curb. Hope the dude doesn't live in a state that will destroy him in the divorce. He sounds like a stand up guy who's doing everything for her and all she wants is more more more. You know, a woman.

Birthday week, birthday month? I find this is a practice that women participate in more than guys do. I've had female co-workers take a day off because it's their birthday.

I got a great idea: instead of having a birthday week celebration, I wanted to have a birthday month like how I used to do it most of my 20s and early 30s

Narcissists and their birthdays:

https://youtu.be/pg7XlmDFKFo?si=Z1-h32WXgFtj0CjF