On Opportunity Cost

There are two paths that they could have chosen

• Option 1 is to settle down at your peak (mid 20s) with the best guy you can find, and forgo all others

• Option 2 is to use your peak to have as many sexual partners as you can, because tingles.

I have read an interview with an Noble prize winning economist and the interviewer asked him a great question, which was "what one concept do you think that most people don't understand that would actually help them with their lives?"

The economist didn't even think about it - he said "Opportunity cost" The interviewer didn't know what he was talking about.

Opportunity cost is the very simple idea that every choice means forgoing another choice. Sometimes it's not very visible, but its there. For example, if I choose to go to Greece on my holiday in June, that means I have forgone a holiday in Spain. I can't have both. But I have also forgone many other things, like things I could have bought with the money I am going to spend in Greece (Like a new motorcycle for example). Many people simply cannot understand the concept (which is why so many people end up in debt). They say things like I can afford this fancy car, but they never ask themselves this question....What will I not be able to afford if I get this fancy car? It costs about the same as a new roof for my house. So, I can have the fancy car OR the new roof, but not both. That is when you start to understand opportunity cost.

To understand it is one thing, but to practice it is another thing. Start trying it yourself! Never ask yourself whether you can afford something, ask yourself what could you NOT buy if you choose to buy this thing that you want.

When you look at the discussion between these women, none of them seem to understand the Opportunity cost of spending 20 years on the CC. They say things like '35 is a good age to get married, because you have more expereince of the world, you know what you want etc etc etc'. They are not asking themselves this question;

"It's fun to sleep around, and I get a lot of validation from sleeping with guys far above my SMV. I love the thrill of new relationships and being sexually liberated. BUT.... what is it that I am giving up when I choose that life?"

I'm not saying that women should always choose marriage/kids/ltr. I am saying that they need to have the Opportunity Cost discussion with themeselves and then decide early one, before its too late. Maybe there is more utility to be had from Option 1 (sleeping around for 20 years), Maybe it's better to have a married life with kids. I am not saying one is better than the other, its for them to decide.

But decide you must. Because men are not going to change to accommodate your demands for having it both ways.

Opportunity cost baby, its a bitch.

OP has been busy adding more insightful comments to the thread since this was posted, such as:

"I don’t like to think of it as “shooting out of my league.” I like to think of it as I’m out of their league." To which another user clarifies "I mean looks-wise"

And another:

[describing herself] "People who are the whole package (i.e. they are physically attractive, successful when it comes to their profession/interpersonal relationships, have skills/talents/intelligence, etc.) have more options in the dating world, so they're not going to settle for mediocrity/less when they know they're capable of getting better."

That's just the beginning, threads still active. The same user in another thread helps an unsuccessful redditor understand what he's doing wrong:

"Working in a warehouse certainly doesn't mean you're not intelligent. It's great that you speak multiple languages.

However, she might want someone who aspires to more than a high school degree - especially if she has a college degree or a more advanced degree (or if she grew up being held to really high educational standards by her parents)."

1) Young men don't marry old women because women age faster than men (due to perimenopause and menopause) and that won't change no matter how hard women scream that this is "discrimination" (btw those are the same women who think that not dating short guys isn't discrimination but a "preference"). Young men will sag old women if given the chance but won't marry them.

2) Good attractive 35-year-old men are all married or in really long LTRs and (being good men) see no reason to cheat or leave their partners, so there is no reason for them to be single. There are minor exceptions to this observation such as recently-widowed men, but they are statistically negligible.

However the above doesn't mean Chad won't score a quick lay by pretending to be a good man looking for commitment.

The analyses on this thread are the reason I come here. Well done, gents!

Well, she is finally getting to eat the crumbs from her own table. All the men she has fucked over the years would not commit and what they brought to the table was only bartered for sex.

Now no man is bringing her anything and she is forced to rationalize that the leftover 7 year old California sushi roll is an epic Michelin star dining experience.

Still, she needs to count her blessing: PETA does not consider her atrocious hamstering to be animal cruelty.....

Oh great. Another one that believes being shallow on multiple levels is considered deep.

Thinks she deserves the top tier of men because .. reasons. You've "attracted" guys with those traits BUT the bar for fucking around or a short term relationship is WAY different than the one for long term. You're stuck on your highest setting and might as well just get out of the game if you can't get down to living with your actual relationship setting.

I don't feel like I should have to apologize for having standards

Absolutely no one is trying to make you. Keep those standards high! Don't settle for less than the best!

Keeping standards sky-high is actually the best way to keep these trash women unmarried and off the market. The harder they stick to their guns, the more bitter they get, and the more and more obvious that they would make horrible prospects for LTR or marriage. You know, if the fact that she's 35 and not a virgin weren't signs enough.

There was an easy way to avoid their situation, but they chose not to take it:

It's called being serious about finding a man in their 20's instead of fucking around doing anything possible other than that.

And given just being born with a vagina is one of the most powerful social trump cards known to all of humanity, their lack of good outcome is simply a fucking skill issue.

Edit: and it's funny how they whine about being told to give someone that they aren't physically attracted to a chance while turning right around and insisting that men do that instead. Men get to have standards too, ladies.

Every time I read one of these little compilations, I think about the shrew typing it and how her blood pressure and pulse spike during every response.

I'm a neurotic guy and have to actively keep it in check. This dizzy broad triggers herself for funsies.

She caps off 1,000 words of hopeless coping with this cringey line near the end: "The biggest thing is that I've learned not to accept less than what I deserve." /facepalm

Also, notice she never claims guys are using her for sex before they bail, so she might be a fatty. In fact, if people who know her say she's "too picky," they might mean "pickier than a fat girl has any right to be."

https://media.tenor.com/C0HPK2S87qoAAAAM/good-morning.gif

I hope one day there is a virtual reality simulation that shows women what it's like to be a man. Like they just walk around the simulation trying to flirt with simulation women and get turned down etc, try to take women home etc and see how hard it is.

"Impossible to win as a woman" my ass

You can't win cause you're shooting out of your league with Chad(s) for your entire 13 or so firtile years and leaving all the skeletons of your best realistic prospects dead in the friendzone while you complain about jerks™ fuckbois™ and assholes™

Then you hit the wall and try to claw back all the men you otherwise would have been happy™ with but your SMV has by then depreciated too low to get the men you could have always had

Impossible to win, my ass, you're just trying to win with men you have no chance of earning ever and then bitching, you're greedy as f*ck

That hamster wheel is going to burn its bearings out.

Buy a cat. It will treat you with contempt and give you fleas but you will not have lowered your standards and you can continue to not have the energy to commit to anything and the cat won't care because the cat was never committed to you.

I laughed when I read "I have also attracted guys that have most of those traits before"

I literally laughed out loud. When she says she 'attracted' those men, what she means is that they slept with her. That's it. They fucked her.

What she (and others) fail to realise is this: men will fuck anything. It doesn't mean much to us. Esp when we are young, we just want action. We'll fuck all sorts of women that we would never consider LTRing.

She was just one of those girls.

All women make this mistake, they say 'I get a lot of interest from guys' or 'Loads of guys try to hit on me'

And then they say, 'So its really weird that I am not in a marriage???'

Lots of guys give interest or talk to her, because they think she is ok looking and wont' be too much effort to shag.

I'm scared that one day an evil billionaire will discover a way to turn these raging loser inspins' copium into kinetic energy. Because that'll be more than enough to power a Death Star.

The whole "you'll learn to like him" is BS to me.

The 6% average divorce rate for arranged marriages has entered the chat.

Leaving aside the facts that she rode the cc and is late to the party, here is an important question to her: what is the age range of the men you're interested in?

Is it 30s? Better, younger women than you are vying for the successful ones.

Is it 40s? You have tough competition and you haven't said shit about how you qualify except for sharing the fact that you get dumped after a short while even though you have "standards".

Is it 20s? You're practice. It's not that you cannot get what you want, the question is whether you have what it takes. Doesn't look like you do.

"I've also attracted guys who have most of these traits" (smart, good-looking, fun-personality, stable career) is a rather useless statement when she is still single. What matters is if these guys stick around, as that is the real test for whether or not she is considered a catch to a man. Plenty of men are willing to have a "relationship" with a woman so that he can have sex with her in spite of any of her major detriments. It is only when a man chooses to stick with a woman long term (such as with marriage) that signifies her as a quality woman.

And yes, "lower your standards" does mean looks. Because so many women are using looks as the first and often only filter for whether or not they want a relationship with a guy. So the women in this thread bringing up that point are correct. They just do not realize that they are unreasonable with their attractiveness standards and that they need to be more pragmatic if they want to have any long term committed relationship.

And one extra point, the one woman complaining about the struggles of hookup culture is revealing that she participated in that and got burned. The only women who complain about hookup culture are those that were engaging in it themselves and found out that they are on the wrong side of the wall with no relationship to show for all their squandered time.