This is again full of passive language; she didn't do anything; life just happened to her. If something were to happen, it would have been magical.

Unfortunately, this is going to happen in increasing frequency in our society and will get worse.

She's about my age. She could've gotten with me in her 20s but instead she left me alone, sitting at home on the weekend where I would chat with a pleasant foreign woman and become friends and eventually get married and be off the market all together. These women had options, they passed them over, and now those options are no longer there.

This is interesting because anyone working in hospitality, especially as a woman, has ample opportunities to meet people.

I can just picture it, the brusque rejections and the laughter as guy after guy tried to shoot his shot. "I can do better", she thought, brushing aside every single one.

Except the tides of men thinned. It was like last call, where the crowd has lessened and there are only a few people standing. Most are coupled up and will be together tonight, while the stragglers stream out the door.

And she is there, sweeping and mopping, or washing glasses and doing bar sidework, content to not care. Until the years ticked by and there was no one left to care, even if the place was packed with throngs of faces.

And to that I say - you deserve it. Women can trivially flex their desire and attract. Men have to work much harder to get there.

Half a century and she's just starting to learn the concept of accountability. In a century or two and she might finally figure it out.

I have been riding and riding for all this time and i havent arrived anywhere !!!

please xplain it to me

fukk off, I'm different

My wife's grandmother passed away about 10 years ago at the age of 85. She was functionally blind (due to cataracts) and her movement was limited with a cane. She lived in a country cottage with a well and an outhouse next to a church but listened to mass across the border from Poland rather than walking next door. To use the outhouse, including in the cold of winter, she’d walk to it via a rope guide. I offered to put in an electric water pump so she didn’t have to lift 20 buckets of water for a bath from the well but insisted on doing it the old fashioned way, she passed away about 2 years regardless. There were assistants were were allowed to live there for free if they would run errands and prepare food for her.

Her husband had passed away about 20 years earlier due to cancer and she was a notorious nag (I think my wife inherited this trait from her, my mother-in-law had a more relaxed disposition). Nonetheless, she missed her husband greatly and often spoke about him. She was regularly visited by grandchildren. When she passed, my wife (being a comparatively wealthy American) footed the bills for a retrofit of all 4 of the grandparent gravesites within walking distance of the cottage which was then sold off.

Where I’m going with this is that her grandma died “alone”, so to speak, in that her husband wasn’t by her side but she did have his memories and commitment from her grandchildren. She had the stability to live in a cottage she had for 60 years Anyhoo, for the last 20 years of her life, I think she was more happy than sad if women such as her are capable of achieving contentment.

Women from her generation married young. They didn’t play “hard to get” and worked hard for their children and families (including to take care of their own relatives). My wife has many memories of summers in the country cottage both pleasant, and unpleasant (2 channels of B&W TV. She thought The Smurfs was a Polish cartoon). My wife’s grandmother’s 20’s and 30’s weren’t about having fun and partying but merely a short transition from studying and chores in childhood to adult life working a job and coming home to take care of children and relatives. Her “retirement” was then to spend 20 years losing her health until passing away.

Nonetheless, I think she led a life more fulfilling than most of the women we feature here who wind up alone because they can’t be bothered to show men respect and validation.

But you are strong and independent and you would only be disappointed if you settled. You made the right choice that if Mr Right didn't turn up, you were going to not settle. You go gurl!

I just wanted to say Thank You for this post. I was feeling deeply sorry for this woman I know. She is about a 4 on the looks scale who is sweet, kind and very religious. She has gone to private religious schools her entire childhood and has been part of her church for her entire life. She is pushing 50 and is taking care of her Dad and his days are numbered. For now it's just her and her Dad and no one else. When he dies, she will be all alone.

I just realized that her situation is entirely her fault. There are men out there even now that would marry her. What the hell was she doing during her 20's? That she didn't have multiple opportunities? She was also into Irish Folk Dance back in her teens and 20's and she showed me pics of her outfits, she was actually cute back then. There wasn't even ONE MAN at the church she attended her entire life that showed interest? Besides church with all their pot lucks, fairs, fundraisers, mixers etc. She also went to a reasonably large college. No opportunities there either???? She went to school all before #metoo so men still approached back then in the 90's and 00's. No thirsty guys back then?

Plus I know the thirst is real. There are women out there now that deserve to die alone that still find a man to marry them. UVA Jackie should be persona non grata to every man that knows what she did, yet even she found a decent guy to knock her up and marry... My sympathy for church girl is gone.

What was she doing in her 20's and 30's? If riding the CC or doing nothing is the answer, I don't feel sorry for her at all.

Just like the site says, "Women in their 20s have numerous opportunities to date the decent men they claim to want, but many reject or friendzone these men for jerks and promiscuity. She takes advantage of a good dude's kindness for attention and favors, then accuses him of being a bad person who thinks he's entitled to sex."

Not 1 man was ever interested in her? I call BS.

It sounds like she has had a career in the hospitality industry. There were thousands of drunk horny men around her yearly. Any guesses what happened? Sounds like it did stay in Vegas.

So now she is lamenting her lonely state and the fish WANTS a bicycle? Or is the fish lamenting on missing out on the benefits of marriage and family because she didn't want to do the work to make anything happen? I would guess that she was really attractive at one point and then The Wall visited.

AOC has entered the chat.