I don't want to be the backup plan.

You were always the backup plan, cupcake.

Older, eager to hop in the sack, still reasonably attractive (if she’s attracting dudes from the gym, then there’s probably an element of truth that she still looks good). She’s permanently in the “fun” zone, but she doesn’t realize it yet. Guys will happily date her if they want to smash, but they’re always looking for the exit. Likely the same way she used to treat men before. Because attractive women don’t end up unmarried unless they deliberately took steps to end up that way.

I don't understand why at the end of dating, people want to be friends...

Really? You don't know why? This is to leave open the possibility for more sex.

... this person said that I'm beautiful, ...

... said I was a beautiful person inside and out and blah blah.

... I am told by all the men I know that they have no idea why I am single, ...

... but he said I was beautiful, an awesome person, etc.

People lie. In fact, lying is part of human social interaction.

It is a lie of communism and feminism that everyone will magically start loving everyone with open honesty, which will never happen.

There have been several TV shows, movies, and documentaries about how everyone lies, and she is still confused.

With my ex, he played the long game and dumped me a few weeks after having sex (and it was the worst sex of my life).

Many years ago, Eddie Murphy did his special called Raw. I think it was the late 80's; I looked but couldn't find a YouTube clip. Anyway, he explained that, if you play games, men will play the games with you. Good luck.

The difference between female perverts (who can only get wet to guys out of their league) and male perverts (who can only get hard to porn) is that the male perverts are aware of their perversion and its cause and consequences. The female perverts will always blame everyone and everything but themselves.

You're choosing those men.

need to ssuss out what makes some of them emotionally unavailable

emotionally

unavailable

Possibly not being a woman

guys be mean coz it makes it easier to walk waway

Aha, attractive, e.u., careful with words not to break a plate, thanks for the field report

Never getting "picked" except as a friend

So the average male experience?

Conventionally attractive

Where the fuck do they keep getting this talking point? Post a picture and prove it. Blur your face if you have to.

Apropos Reverse Friendzone

Why dont you women learn to value the male friendship?

Ex dumped after sex by playing a long game

If you want him to play a long game, you will be dumped.

Told by all men that they have no idea why she's single

That's called covert rejection.

The simple explanation that should be basic knowledge to her but no one will ever tell her is that her and her partners’ market value don’t match.

But instead we get paragraphs of self-pitying navel gazing and secondhand flattery to salve her bruised ego while not improving her situation one bit.

It's a Scooby Doo mystery boys! I guess we'll never know why picky women end up single forever... such a shame.

Ahh...is this what FDS would call a pickmeisha? Sounds like she was just waiting for the perfect man to come along while using others as placeholders in her life. Then the same started happening to her. And she doesn't like the fuck zone.

Women value commitment but they always underestimate the cost of male commitment. The man must gamble with his life's assets for a mere chance at a successful relationship. Women have yet to realize that nearly all of them are not worth the risk. Oh well, not my problem.

Even the title doesn't make any sense

"Never getting picked except as a friend"

As always, you have to translate what she is saying from womanese to English. She by 'friend' she means she gets railed. That's not what I call a friend!

And by 'never getting picked' she means always getting picked.

This young lady (ok, not so young) is getting picked for the smash and dash. She's so confused about reality she can't even give her tirade a decent header.

When a man writes "why do I never get picked?" He gets told "because you are a loser and not worth picking"

One imagines that the same must be logically true in reverse even if it comes without the deep scorn and suspicion of society.

"The sum of your virtues is not enough to get over the bar for getting picked by those you would invite to pick." That's all it is ladies. Its probably a mixture of two things

1. "finding yourself" by getting entertained and rammed till SMV has fallen. (Not sure how that finds yourself but we will assume you ladies know best)
2. Being a western woman in a western society -therefore not offering much in the way of nurturing skills to a man while posing a major legal risk. This is like automatically taking away 25% from the sum score of any woman's virtues. She has to be very good or very hot to be worth the risk at all.