That wouldn't have fooled anyone even before all those things existed.

I have give some thought to this.

For me , love of a couple is a staged process. I am not including the love between mother and child into this

1. Lust. I think it can be agreed upon, that love is an emotion. Yes, I used that word. All emotions are a precognitive process. Thus, there must be a precognitive process to trigger the "love" whatever it may be.

1.a. It can't be mUh ExPeRieNCe. Even tho women would like us to believe, that dating a girl < 25 is a sin because prefrontal cortex blabla, experience is a cognitive process, and whatever is coming after that, isn't love.

1.b. It will be argued by women (I am aware, that I should also say : "not just women", but let's not open that front. Also, thanks to admin assist to help me to avoid violating rules), that the "experience" has shaped her in some way, and she's more "formed". Sure, but someone shaped by the wide world isn't attractive for an intimate relationship.

1.c. Also, Experience isn't attractive.

The only thing i can fall back on is Lust. Lust in my view is thus the most deep and sacred human drive.

2. Incumbency. I think it is a well advised position, that the blood of covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. So the lust should compel the couple to grow together from an early age. Women will say, that why grow together if you can't provide for them? They are better of with Chad because at least he has a Thundercock. And because they will give us a kid, we need to start the negotiation by providing for them first.

2.a. I don't buy, that such women have a good understanding of the journey of her child's father, and hence I doubt that she'd be a good family mother. She will cause conflicts between the child and the father, because the father's worldview may not agree with the expectation of comfort she has for herself and her child. She will be a good single mother, but not a good family mother. Indeed the idea of the family now-a-days is that the mother controls the child, feminism controls the mother, and the father pays. But that is not an appealing family.

2.b. She (also see elaboration in 1.b.) might say, that nOw sHE is A cHaNGed WhAmYn, aND nOw sHE wIlL bUiLd wItH yOu, sHe isn't HERE fOr SeX etc. We all know such memes. But, "building" is not a specific enough word. That is to say, "building" can be bad. I'm not convinced that she's building, either. Even if she's not here for sex, i don't think that argument improves her position.

So, yes, a shared running of the race is important to me. Harmony and synchronization can only be achieved by incumbency

3. Maintaining it all - Once it is all done, women will have to maintain it. This should be based upon the previous two. This can be augmented in various ways.

3.a. A sense of duty - all relationships will suffer the test of time. A sense of duty may be used to strengthen it or reverse the effect of an on-setting failure. But I do not think the sense of duty can be the origin of love. The sense of duty, again is a post cognitive thing. It can therefore by definition be a very top level thing, without deep grounding in the lizard brain. Women will say, but this is the high level thing. Sure, but high level things are not the basis of an intimate relationship.

Using a different analogy: Sense of duty can be a supplement. But if you are basing your diet on the sense of duty, then you have missed the mark

3.b. Serving each other. Again, that can be classified as sense of duty.

3.c. Common goals / hobbies. Sure, these things can help a stressful situation. But they should not be the basis of an intimate relationship. If I start at Stuttgart and want to go to Berlin, then I can either take the A9 over Nürnberg/Nuremberg or I can take the A71 over Ilmenau. Common Goals alone will not save it.

You might offer, that the girl, with a 1000 body count will never ask a second question and if i want to go to Berlin, she'd figure it out the route i am taking, and follow me perfectly ... but all that is - well - bare minimum to not disrupt the peace I anyway have without her.

I don't think that can be enough to give her the recognition of "love" that way.

Also, if you have lust and incumbency, chances are, you will also have harmony, which will lead to common goals, sense of duty, etc.

Women in one hand tend to see the final parts of the process, and focus only on common goal and hobbies, and duty and things like that. But that is Ad hoc ergo Propter hoc fallacy. This maybe due to the reason, that they don't want to be lustful with the man they need a relationship with, but that is a weak woman, and should not be given the recognition of a loving relationship.

On the other hand, they also seem to push for the oddest and the unlikeliest of hopes, such as what if a former slut is the perfect match because all the stars have lined up perfectly, and chad has cockslapped her exactly at a 2.2387 radian angle, with 0 being the straight ahead of his nose, exactly 134.1397 mm left and 469.36 mm below her philtrum and thus allegedly she's exactly what I want....

But again that is not grounded in her lizard brain. And hence, it can't be love !

Of course, Iwill never have a woman/always be incel/marry my left hand/ but this is my personal view on the elusive concept of love.

Feel free to attack any weakness you find. This set of ideas need to be refined so that I can may be find something worthy to update my doll's AI with.