@rambo123

What is the solution?

I just broke up with someone I thought would be alright and it hurts. It stings. I don't ever wanna go through this again. I try my best to follow redpill but I make mistakes, I admit. This is so frustrating. How do I deal with the pain and the frustration? How do I make sure I get the girl that suits me. Is that even possible wtf I really hate this

Consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.

To get over the pain, you live your life. Update your journal, work your job, study your texts, pursue your hobbies, lift your weights, and continue to live your life. As time goes on, you'll learn to not feel pain or frustration from these failures, but only disappointment. There will be times you'll be disappointed in yourself and in others, but you will learn to accept that which is in your control and that which isn't.

But before you can make this realization, you have to accept that just as there's plenty of fish in the sea, there's more to the red pill than women.

@MentORPHEUS

Thanks a lot. A moment of weakness. It gets much better with every passing hour surprisingly.

Actually, we've been together for 2 years. It was really great in the beginning. The first time I felt great in a relationship after following TRP. But she got ruder and kept saying no even to the littlest things. It's because I lost frame, handled things poorly in some occasions, and it just got worse and worse I guess.

I confronted her and told her she shouldn't be like this. Told her I am close to breaking up. Asked her if she is willing to get it together. She said she cannot and just proceeded to break up. After a few hours, gave her a chance to change her answer because those 2 years were meaningful to me. But she said no again and that's it. She's dead to me since then.

I actually feel over it now, funny.

Seems like a good time to cold approach in campus soon

Thanks again

@rambo123 Scorpion gives good advice, but also consider that experiencing pain at loss of relationships etc is a natural part of the human condition. Don't try to manage or quash the experience side of it after the fact, use painful experiences as feedback to inform and guide future behavior and choices. Having to break up with a girl who didn't do anything "wrong" necessarily, but still isn't right for you, is one of the necessary evils of engaging the SMP. Just learn to get through these things healthily. It's kind of like a minor version of someone you were close to dying. Don't wallow in it, maybe have a ritualistic mourning period, with a funeral-like goodbye and moving on demarcation point, then really do just move on.

People who move without feelings or any empathy whatsoever for others they get involved with, are not superior. This is a sick or broken form of human. Careful what you wish for.